Marriage / Doubts

[joebloggs]

if i remember you have not met her yet , if so go and meet her asap because if you dont you'll both go and you will not last much longer

when are you planning on going to see her ?

had a nearly 100 contacts in my ICQ, mostly if not all nearly women

[landa]

if i remember you have not met her yet

nono, i have met her before. We were together about 3 months here..

But you really think i should not care about her online chatting?

[joebloggs]

nono, i have met her before. We were together about 3 months here..

But you really think i should not care about her online chatting?

sorry yes i remember now

3 months then you should both know if you have or want a future together

why is she chatting to others? what's her reasons? i use to be on-line 24/7 at week ends chatting to misses, i didn't have time to chat to anyone else..

what do you both want in the future ? any plans from any of you to get engaged or marry ?

[landa]

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why is she chatting to others? what's her reasons?

i wish i knew... but i'm quite sure it's because she's bored, she wants to have fun.. i'm quite sure she's not serious about these other men she chatts with... but what if she really has webcam-sex with them... i think that would be so unfaithful and would go way too far..

[SteveTalaga]

I think that you have to accept quite a difference in cultures and give her the benefit of the doubt maybe more than you would consider fair. However, I would also delay any wedding until you are 100% certain that you are both made for each other. Weddings are very easy to get into but often not the right thing. Why not leave the wedding for another year and see if you are more confident then?

Good luck and remember, you don't have to rush into a marriage. If it's worth having, it's worth waiting for.

[Arthur Little]

I think that you have to accept quite a difference in cultures and give her the benefit of the doubt maybe more than you would consider fair. However, I would also delay any wedding until you are 100% certain that you are both made for each other. Weddings are very easy to get into but often not the right thing. Why not leave the wedding for another year and see if you are more confident then?

Good luck and remember, you don't have to rush into a marriage. If it's worth having, it's worth waiting for.

... Sensible advice! By all means remain in touch. But be ultra-cautious. And certainly, don't go rushing into marriage until you can be absolutely sure you're not being strung along!

[Sim11UK]

I think you need to get over there, if you want to continue & see for yourself, where you really stand.