guilt after a miscarriage

[marlyn&kenny]

Hello guys,
Just stop by to share my feelings........it helps a bit if you read online and posting in the forum....

Christmass wont be as merry as i planned .I had a miscarriage 23 weeks of gestation last week ...all is going well in pregnancy ....enjoying every moment of it and one day i just woke up and had this terrible pain i my lower abdomen and went to the hospital after one hour i was giving birth to my son ..the doctor told me that he is gone...and i cried .and its so hard to lost it just when you are wanting and dreaming for it..

is any of you exprience this i just want to hear from you how you cope up from the guilt, that from inside......that comes to you all day and question yourself what did i do wrong ....

Hi, im very sorry to hear that.... I understand how ur feeling right now... just pray to God to give u another baby, healthy one!
Don't lose hope

[aposhark]

Hi angel1231,

My wife had a miscarriage a few months ago and now she is pregnant again.

There weren't any things she could have done to prevent this, so don't you feel guilty about bad things that happen.

Give each other love and support and keep your dreams alive about having a baby.

Warm regards and try your best to be strong and enjoy your holiday time.

aposhark

[Arthur Little]

Mere words cannot express how sorry I am to read your sad news. Being a man, I've had no personal experience of what it must be like to lose a baby through miscarriage. However, I do have "second hand" knowledge of the emotional feelings involved in the loss of a child.

In 1971, the 10 months' old infant son of my brother and sister-in-law died in extremely tragic circumstances. The parents went on to have two more boys - both now in their mid-to-late 30s - of whom they're very proud. Yet they've never forgotten their first-born.

But time really IS a great healer. You have absolutely NOTHING to blame yourselves for! And I'm sure the empathy shared by Mike [Aposhark] in his response will be of great solace in easing your immediate sense of sorrow ... and enable you and your husband to look towards the future with renewed hope and confidence.

[Northerner]

So sorry Angel..

My sister miscarried many years ago with her first child. But a few years later she was the mother to two sons..

I am sure your doctor could put you in touch with counseling groups where you can talk to other women who suffered like you have, who might be able to help you with sharing their stories with you.

All the best for the future.