How do you solve this problem?

[IainBusby]

I'm just thinking about this scenario:

You meet a nice lady in phils, you went to meet her and her family and everything was cool and all accepted u and you want to show her you're serious with her etc... and you rent a small apartment for her and furnish it up to live until maybe 6-12months when to sort out her UK VISA etc..

How do you make sure while you're apart i.e you back in UK, she is not bringing back local "lover boys" to your rented apartment to entertained etc..?


I'm not in this situation yet but I nearly was last year.

any advise how to solve this apart from maybe getting a covert 24hr private detective on her which will cost tons of money.

Has she asked you to or even suggested that you rent an apartment for her? If she hasn't even asked you to do this then I think you could be making a rod for your own back. If your not 100% certain of your relationship with this girl, then I would suggest that you shouldn't rent an apartment for her or even send her money until you are.

[aposhark]

Has she asked you to or even suggested that you rent an apartment for her? If she hasn't even asked you to do this then I think you could be making a rod for your own back. If your not 100% certain of your relationship with this girl, then I would suggest that you shouldn't rent an apartment for her or even send her money until you are.

Well said Iain.

This idea of an apartment seems so wrong to me.
Why start out worrying? I thought love meant trusting each other!
Take time to get to know her in the usual way that most people have, i.e. communicate by email, phones and texts etc.
See if all is well as the time goes on.
DON'T be too hasty as you will repent at leisure.
Part of the beauty of loving and courting a Filipina is surely NOT to worry about her lovers!!!!

Trust yourself and trust her and she will surely repay your trust with affection over years, blackcat22.