Right, I shall say what's happened, then reply to various things that people have said.
I thought that she thought of me as more than a friend as she had said a few times on the webcam, that she couldn't stop looking at me as I looked so good, that my accent was sexy & romantic, that she missed me, was always thinking about me and that she would rather be ill/in pain instead of me. I sent the email from work to home about what she said just before her birthday when she knew what I had been doing for it:
"To my dearest Tim,"
(she said some other stuff about being busy during the week, then:
"So sorry for my late mail but don't worry because I've been always thinking about you, read your messages on my phone to lift me up everyday at work and at home and imagined that we were talking face to face.
From the bottom of my heart, I want to say this. You're one of a kind.You truly make me happy. I really don't know how to repay you.To tell you honestly, I sometimes get so emotional whenever I receive your text on my phone and your mails on my yahoo because you truly care about me and I thought of you are protecting me and care me especially my father isn't with us now. As I was typing this mail, I just couldn't stop my tears from falling. I've been looking for someone for all my life, who knows how to take care of me and my family and show his love to us unconditionally. I really don't know and don't understand why women in your country don't see your being you as a real man with a heart of gold and has a lot of patience from waiting from my mail. Hehehe...Thank you so much for always being there for me and I really appreciate and admire it from you the most. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for being real to me as I am to you..
I guess you can call me tonight at 11:00 to 11:30 at night my time. Hehehe...I miss you so much. Take care and God bless you! Hugs and kisses...smile!!!!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
So these things, always putting lots of kisses etc at ends of emails and texts + others that I can't remember right now, made me think that she thought of me as more than just friends. What would you think about how they feel for you if you heard these things said and written to you?
Talk is cheap. Well, it is for some. She's a smooth talker as well. Its irritating that some people will use colourful words to manipulate someone. And having that 'xoxo' thing, you will not use to write to a male 'friend'. I dont! the 'o' would be fine but the 'x' no. Not to a friend.
Anyway, this morning before I left for work, she popped up on yahoo and said that she had borrowed a students laptop. She read the email I sent her last night and looked at the photos from Christmas. Then this part of the conversation between us on yahoo:
Suzie: Tim, I really have to tell you something, I don't want to keep this from you.
Tim: Yes?
Suzie: I have a close friend who married a man from Denmark and she has been staying with him in Denmark for more than a year now.
Tim: Yes.
Suzie: Her husbands's friend is seriously looking for someone to be his wife and will come here in Cebu next week and I will meet him
I think she already met him during her absence last 2 weeks! 
Suzie: Are you ok?
Tim: No
Suzie: Why?
Suzie: We are just friends right?
Tim: Why do you think?
Suzie: And for me, there's nothing special between us
Tim: *crying smiley*
Suzie: are you crying?
Tim: and it's special between you and him?
Suzie: I haven't met him yet. I will meet him and see what it takes if i will like or love him
Tim: but you said not so long ago, that you were not in contact with any other guys
Suzie: my friend knows him well especially her husband
Suzie: yes, I didn't contact any other guys Tim. My friend suddenly texted my older sister Jacky that someone will meet me next week
Suzie: I am just being honest with you now
Tim: so you don't know him at all?
Suzie: yes thats right. I haven't seen pictuires at all. I will meet him
now this is crap! 
i dont believe this at all. She havent seen any pic of the guy? Its only natural that your friend will send you a pic of the guy you are being matched with nor you yourself will ask for a picture. What if he looked like frankenstein, would you still meet him? not!
Tim: so how we have got to know each other, all the time we have chatted and all that I have done means nothing to you? And you might reject me over a stranger?
Tim: I want someone to want me because o how I am as a person, not just because the only thing I have done is go to see them
Suzie: I understand how you feel now Tim
Tim: I should not have sent you those things and spent the money on a flight as I did not know that you would meet someone else
Suzie: so sorry Tim if I want to meet him as I am seriously looking for marriage
Tim: he has spent no time in getting to know you, what you like, how you are, he just has the money to see you
Tim: but why didn't you ask me before?
Suzie: ask you what?
Tim: when will I be coming to see you? to have an answer etc?
maybe that is another sign that a person is really keen to meet and be with you. Its not only the guys job to be excited about meeting his girl. The girl should be curious and excited to know when you are going to visit her 
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Tim: you also said that you missed me and that you were always thinking of me?
Suzie: yes I really do think f you and miss you, but only as a friend. Thats all and nothing more
Tim: well I don't say those things about just a friend
I agree... I think that she feels something special with you but died out in the long run.
Suzie: I don't think you can blame a woman if she really doesn't have feelings back for you
Suzie: I really apprieciate all the things you do for me and to may family, Tim, I am really thankful and grateful about that. You are truly a very good person
Tim: of course not, but I thought if you get to know someone and you get on well, you find each other attractive then you gradually develop feelings,
Suzie: but no matter how I try to have feelings for you as a man, I still really can't. I don't know why?
Tim: rather than me being like a stranger
Suzie: if I had special feelings for you, I would not meet him
Tim: so you are saying that you can have special feelings before meeting?
Suzie: there's something on you that's similar with my ex fiance
Suzie: yes, that's right
Tim: you never mentioned this before after all these months
Suzie: but I can't explain what it is that you have similar with my ex fiance. I just noticed something similar when we talked last night
Suzie: my close friend just texted my sister last week and how could I tell you this thing?
So looks like that's it.
Even if she doesn't end up with this stranger (which I'm sure she will), it doesn't seem like it is worth me going as she says that she has no feelings at all for me. Why she never said any of this before I don't know. She never said that she is desperate for marriage, as she hadn't mentioned it or asked me when I was coming to see her, I thought that she wasn't in a rush. She could have also said, don't spend money on presents etc, instead spend it on a flight/trip to see me. Also if she really didn't feel anything, I wish she would have said don't spend so much money on me as I could have used the money on someone that would feel something for me.
She had said yesterday that if I go to see her, that I would need quite a bit of money as she has large family! what?! 
Originally Posted by South-east boy
Right, I shall say what's happened, then reply to various things that people have said.... Its not that we are blaming you of not meeting her while on the earlier stage of um... 'relationship' but dont you think it will make things a bit diff'rent if you come and visit her?... I'm sorry about what happend to you but I (as well as the others i think) am not suprised that this will end up like this and she will ditch you once she gets in-touch with you again. I think it doesnt end there, wait till she meet the danish guy. If she is not attracted to him, I have a feeling that she will communicate with you again
