What are you like with text/sms messages?

[jam07]

I have mentioned about going to see her, but can't say when as of course it's a lot of money and I'm a few hundred £'s down a month compared to 2 years ago. I haven't lied and have said from the beginning that I'm not well off and things are not so great over here due to recession etc.

I would have thought what I did for her Birthday and Christmas + for her family would have said what I thought of her. It wasn't just what I spent, but I spent a lot of time thinking what she would like, getting what I knew she would like, also surprises and things for all the family, then 2 whole evenings wrapping it all up. I could have sent it by balikbayan but it would have taken 2 months and arrived a month after Christmas and a month & half after her birthday and as it was the families first Christmas without her Dad, I wanted the parcel to arrive for Christmas, so they had something to look forward to. I also put presents to open later, so she would not have lots on her Birthday and Christmas and then nothing. Also got a t-shirt for her to give for one of her brothers a she had said that she couldn't afford anything. She sent this message after her birthday (but before the parcel had arrived which was late because of the customs & VAT people):

"Hi there Tim,

You really touched me with so many things today on my birthday. The package, your call and when I opened my mail today, you sent me two ecards wishing me a happy birthday. You really touched and moved me in a good way with tears of joy. Thank you so much and so sorry it took you a while to call me and it was really getting late your time when you called me, too. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. I really don't know how to make you happy, too but I am trying my best to make you smile and happy. Hehehehehe...Goodnight and sweet dreams! Thank you and a happy birthday to me...heheheheheeh...hugs and kisses

xoxoxoxoxoxoxox,
Suzie"

She also sent another similar message to my work email recently and has thanked me for all that I do for her and that it shows how much I care for her.

If she is cooling things off, then it's very sudden as there was so clue before or gradually being quieter etc.

what? no "i love you's" on her message?! jeez...

[South-east boy]

what? no "i love you's" on her message?! jeez...

No, she hasn't said before and neither have I. I have said hi honey, gorgeous, beautiful etc, but I don't think you can be 100% in love without meeting and knowing that they feel the same. You can feel a lot for someone and maybe be in love, but if you don't get that feeling back, then it can never be as strong as if you know that you feel as strong for you as you do for them.

I also don't want to get too carried away before meeting them and I need to know that they really feel strongly for me as I've been hurt a few times before. I was also a bit hurt that I didn't receive even a Christmas card or note etc from her, I didn't expect a present as I knew she couldn't afford it. But something physical would have meant so much to me-if it was a card, it would have been my favourite card! Maybe Filipinas don't get Christmas cards or presents for their boyfriends, I don't know?