Blimey! That must have been a pretty nasty shock!
Actually, I only found that out recently on my last trip to Phils. And by then nothing surprised me about her anymore as I'd already discovered about other guys beforehand.

Had you met her? How long before the wedding had she last been in contact with you?
I spent 2 weeks with her after chatting for 9 months. She married about 2 months after I came back home. Weird thing was she didn't tell me, and still tried to keep me sweet Not really great wife material. I had a lucky escape methinks.

How did you meet your current lady and how long after you started contact did you meet?
After my trip to Phils I stayed in contact with the exs brother-in-law. We added each other on friendster and through him I met his beautiful cousin We chatted for about 6 months before I went out there. I probably would have gone sooner, but she didn't graduate till october so I held off until she had some free time.

As I've mentioned before with what I spent on the presents, courier and customs & VAT, I could have flown to see her for cheaper. The courier costed more than the original cost, then the customs and VAT doubled that and when I had to add up the value of the presents for the courier shipping list I was quite surprised to find what I had spent (about £250+, but she had around £300 worth because of special offers I had got etc), but I guess I hadn't realised as I bought things now & again over a few months. Make-up soon adds up!
Thats a lot to fork out for somebody you've never met, and like you say money can be tight here sometimes. If I were you I wouldn't send anything again and put the money towards a trip out there.

How did you meet Suzie to begin with? And do you think it's possible she chats with other guys? Even though you've done the right thing by being honest about your financial situation and saying you don't know when you will be able to visit, she may be thinking she'll be waiting for you for nothing.