Well, another update! Sorry for the essay here!
I saw her pop up on yahoo and as I wanted more answers to questions or I would always be wondering, we started chatting. She said that no matter how much she tries to like me or love me, she really can't and doesn't know why. I said you don't even like me?! She said that I'm really a nice person, but she doesn't like me as a man.
She said that she has been learning Danish for 2 weeks, but isn't 2 weeks a few days before she said that she had first ever heard about him?! I said that you need time to get to know someone properly. She said that is my opinion and nothing is impossible. I said that a week or two isn't enough time to get to know someone properly that you know nothing about and she said that she doesn't care about that. I said what if you don't like him or don't get on? He could turn out to be not so nice, or you are not compatible? She said, I don't think so. Then she said that a beautiful woman like me won't be admired by many men? I said that not everything is based on looks, you have to be compatible and get on + you did say before that you don't want someone to want you just because of how I look. She said I know, i have great inner and outer beauty Tim.
Later I said, I don't get why you never mentioned about us being 'just' friends earlier, why only just now? She said that she noticed that I called often when she was away in the provinces after Christmas. I said, I always called her, texted her and emailed her, not just suddenly then. I said all the things about why I thought she thought of me as more than a friend and about when we blew kisses etc on the webcam. Also that I thought that if she only thought of me as a friend, then she would have not said things that could easily be taken as to mean more than that and she said that was how she was with friends who are close to her, that she thought that she knew that we were just friends and that's she blows kisses with friends. I said why did you only ask just now if I was seeing anyone or getting on well with someone as surely friends would do? She said that she would only ask a boyfriend that. I also said about when I was worried about her looking so good with the new make-up and having guys after her-why would I say that if I only thought of her as a friend? She said that she hadn't thought about that. She said that the kisses in emails and texts were just mail and that we didn't do it for real.
I said would I have done all that I did if you were just a friend? I said with a friend abroad that I hadn't known long, I would have sent cards and maybe a small present, but that's all. I said that I had gone without things myself to so I could do what I did for her and I did all I could. She said that now she knows my true colours, same with her ex fiance, that she is happy that we are just plain friends!
Then I asked if she had met the Danish guy and she said yes! She said he knows about me and is sorry. She said that she is happily taken by him, sorry for everything. He spent the new year with her family and stayed in their house (If I knew that, I could have gone to see her sooner, as I thought that I would need to stay in a hotel so would need more money). She still said that they hadn't chatted before he went. I said what if I had done to see you before? She said that she thinks it would have worked, but it's too late now and that she has found the love of her life (after just one week or knowing him!). She then said that she is planning to get engaged this coming July and that he will go back to meet her & her family. She also said that she talked to his mother and she told her that she has to take care of her son. Of course during this she said sorry lots of times etc. I said so what she said about the phone and internet problems wasn't the truth? She said that it was, but after finding out that she was seeing him etc, I don't buy that, speically how she has been singing in & out on yahoo 'I'm mobile' for the last few days.
So basically it was as he went first and if they hadn't got on, she didn't like him etc, she would have been back to me. This is now the 2nd time that she is got engaged on the first meeting and I think that whoever went out, she would get engaged to!
