Quote Originally Posted by pennybarry View Post
Elderlies for me is exempted as not all elderlies are pensioners in our country and it is hard for them to catch fish anymore
I exclude elderlies from all of my comments and my wife and I do send money to support her parents but unfortunately, I get the impression that they're always broke because a lot of the money we send so that they can have a more comfortable life is given away to the extended family who assume they have lots of money because they have a daughter living in the UK.

Quote Originally Posted by filipina_owl View Post
Well this is issue is really not so big deal for my husband, in fact he's been helping my family. He gave my uncle 30k pesos to help him with some important matters to deal with. He lend my aunt 35k pesos and he is not expecting that she will pay him back. He lend my sister 20k pesos before we left for UK in november and same thing, he doesnt expect her to pay the money back. He bought my brother the latest psp model, he always treats my family to a posh restaurant whenever he's in the philippines, he gave money to my granny because he knows i love her so much.

My point is, my husband has done so many things for my family. So now that im in uk, i dont want to bother him about sending money to philippines because i think its too much. And he is providing me all the things i need especially now that im pregnant. I dont want to send money to philippines for now because i dont have a job at the moment. Like lizaphil said, its better if i have a job but thats impossible at the moment. I dont think thats being selfish and greedy. Can anyone understand my point????
Quote Originally Posted by triple5 View Post
That's probably why they expect gifts now. That's the problem with these situations - once you start it's to be expected all the time. I understand your points, as does everybody else whose replied here. You just got to tell them straight.


I certainly can understand your point, the trouble is because in the past it seems to have been a simple matter of they ask, he gives and now when you say no you won't give them what they ask for they say your being mean. As I said in an earlier post on this subject, I find that very insulting.