Issue of sending money to family in pinas

[pennybarry]

Well this is issue is really not so big deal for my husband, in fact he's been helping my family. He gave my uncle 30k pesos to help him with some important matters to deal with. He lend my aunt 35k pesos and he is not expecting that she will pay him back. He lend my sister 20k pesos before we left for UK in november and same thing, he doesnt expect her to pay the money back. He bought my brother the latest psp model, he always treats my family to a posh restaurant whenever he's in the philippines, he gave money to my granny because he knows i love her so much.

My point is, my husband has done so many things for my family. So now that im in uk, i dont want to bother him about sending money to philippines because i think its too much. And he is providing me all the things i need especially now that im pregnant. I dont want to send money to philippines for now because i dont have a job at the moment. Like lizaphil said, its better if i have a job but thats impossible at the moment. I dont think thats being selfish and greedy. Can anyone understand my point????

Please cool down! I don't know how close you are with Liza why she did tell that. If she knows you are preggy, and she knew you did more than enough with your family, I am sure she will not give such advise.
We do understand you and we respect your views and opinions. If we ask some advises, we are ready for some negative replies and what you did is fine.

I exclude elderlies from all of my comments and my wife and I do send money to support her parents but unfortunately, I get the impression that they're always broke because a lot of the money we send so that they can have a more comfortable life is given away to the extended family who assume they have lots of money because they have a daughter living in the UK.




I certainly can understand your point, the trouble is because in the past it seems to have been a simple matter of they ask, he gives and now when you say no you won't give them what they ask for they say your being mean. As I said in an earlier post on this subject, I find that very insulting.

It's lovely to hear that you support her ederly parents and I've got your point. I have known some friends that keeps sending money to their mother and the mother gives the money to other lazy children. One time, I had time to speak with my friend mother and tell her exactly how hard the job of her daughter abroad. What her daughter want is to enjoy the money for herself and let other children strive hard. It upsets me because, no hope to change for good.

There are really different stories here. If I sent money to my deaf sister, my Nanay is jealous. She said she has husband to strive for her. If I send all money to her, she deposit in the bank and give some to my sister. That is the rules of my Nanay so I always follow what she wants to make her happy.
She said, she gave already her 6 berdoom house to my youngest sis and youngest brother and she moved to my house. I looked after her for years and she love to stay with me as at the back of my house is where her farm is. So she has good access to her farm as I broke the concrete fence. She said her house is supposed to be mine as I was the last one who got married. So my Nanay advised me to strive for myself which I have already done before, worked 16 hrs/ day in Taiwan, bought my own properties and just helping them if they have good achievements done.

My Nanay never heard me complaining nor ask where are my parts in her property which truly in my heart, it is not a problem as I believe, if you give, you will never be poor and more blessings to come in your way.