Any change/s in you?

[Florge]

hmm.. this is interesting! In my almost 4 months of stay here in UK, I didn't change a lot. I still love rice and I'm thankful that my husband loves it and would prefer rice over potatoes and bread now. I am not back to cooking. I don't cook when I was in Pinas because I have no time. Just go to restaurants for my meals... that's what I miss here... Dining out is expensive that I prefer to cook at home instead.

Like Ate Penny, I have never worn as many clothes.. ever! I am now house-bound as I can't work coz of my visa status.. didn't gain weight though and didn't lose any.. lol...

Don't like Fish and chips though as I find them bland.. or maybe I just bought the wrong one.. My accent is still the same and find some british pronunciation funny...

Haven't found Pinay friends here yet.. only friend I got were the sister-in-law and my hair dresser... which is entirely different from back home as my weekends are so full with meetings/dinner out with friends from school, or officemates, or whoever...

And...I have to be content with doing my own nails.. and no weekly spa trips as well! waaaa...

Oh, the things you give up for love.

[bless.books]

hmm.. this is interesting! In my almost 4 months of stay here in UK, I didn't change a lot. I still love rice and I'm thankful that my husband loves it and would prefer rice over potatoes and bread now. I am not back to cooking. I don't cook when I was in Pinas because I have no time. Just go to restaurants for my meals... that's what I miss here... Dining out is expensive that I prefer to cook at home instead.

I am now house-bound as I can't work coz of my visa status .. didn't gain weight though and didn't lose any.. lol...

Don't like Fish and chips though as I find them bland.. or maybe I just bought the wrong one.. My accent is still the same and find some british pronunciation funny...

Haven't found Pinay friends here yet.. only friend I got were the sister-in-law and my hair dresser... which is entirely different from back home as my weekends are so full with meetings/dinner out with friends from school, or officemates, or whoever...

And...I have to be content with doing my own nails.. and no weekly spa trips as well! waaaa... Oh, the things you give up for love.

Hello Florge! Thanks for finding my thread interesting ... If I remember, you're from Manchester? Wow, has it been 4 months now?

Not gaining/losing weight is good and really good, maintain that! And about friends, you will find one in the long run ... don't you worry ...

[Florge]

Hello Florge! Thanks for finding my thread interesting ... If I remember, you're from Manchester? Wow, has it been 4 months now?

Not gaining/losing weight is good and really good, maintain that! And about friends, you will find one in the long run ... don't you worry ...

yes bless... I'm in Manchester... my nurse and my dietician told me to lose weight though as I am a bit overweight for my height... oh how I wish I am taller! lol

[abbygirl]

I moved here from San Diego, in CA 7 months ago. I don't think I've changed, really. Just adjusted, but still miss things.

I miss a variety of food. Not only not eating Filipino food, or food from other places. His parents do all of the cooking, so, I just eat what I'm given. But, once I start getting paid from work, I'll get a takeaway when I can. Once we live in our own place, then I'll make all sorts of food!

I've started using UK phrases and words. I have to wear loads of clothes all the time-I even wear socks in the house! I'm used to just wearing tisnelas or even just walking around in shorts, tshirt and no shoes in the house. I'm getting used to wearing a coat, hat and gloves. I always look for the words "waterproof" on shoes and clothes now. I'm getting used to a bus system that doesn't work very well.

The fire's become a best friend, so has the computer.

I don't have any friends here, and I don't have anything in common with anyone. That's the hardest part for me, I think. In San Diego, there's a huge Filipino community-there's even a Goldilocks, and Red Ribbon and Jollibee in the shopping mall! Over there, I was one of many, so, I was able to blend in better. And of course, my friends and family were there, and I was familiar with everything and my surroundings.

Here, I stick out like a caribou at the Royal Palace. Living up in the Northwest doesn't really help. The only other immigrant people here are Polish/ Eastern Europeans, and a few other Southeast Asian and Asian(Indian) people. Everyone else is Caucasian/white.

So, that's me. I've been here for about 7 months, so, I'm still just getting used to everything, I know. Hope that things will just keep getting better!

[pumpkins]

hi bless.books, how are you?
for me,i think i have changed.. i am more responsible in a relationship..and in the house .. in the philippines,it was just a holiday but since i arrived here in the uk,it is different coz you both starting to live a normal life,a husband and wife living under the same roof.
we are still learning to each other and tell each others mistake.so whatever disagreements we have,we talk about it before we sleep and sort it out so it wont build up that one day you just explode which is not good.
so i hope its not late for me to share about changes in me

[bless.books]

I moved here from San Diego, in CA 7 months ago. I don't think I've changed, really. Just adjusted, but still miss things. I miss a variety of food. Not only not eating Filipino food, or food from other places. His parents do all of the cooking, so, I just eat what I'm given. But, once I start getting paid from work, I'll get a takeaway when I can. Once we live in our own place, then I'll make all sorts of food!

I've started using UK phrases and words. I have to wear loads of clothes all the time-I even wear socks in the house! I'm used to just wearing tisnelas or even just walking around in shorts, tshirt and no shoes in the house. I'm getting used to wearing a coat, hat and gloves. I always look for the words "waterproof" on shoes and clothes now. I'm getting used to a bus system that doesn't work very well. The fire's become a best friend, so has the computer.

I don't have any friends here, and I don't have anything in common with anyone. That's the hardest part for me, I think. In San Diego, there's a huge Filipino community-there's even a Goldilocks, and Red Ribbon and Jollibee in the shopping mall! Over there, I was one of many, so, I was able to blend in better. And of course, my friends and family were there, and I was familiar with everything and my surroundings. Here, I stick out like a caribou at the Royal Palace. Living up in the Northwest doesn't really help. The only other immigrant people here are Polish/ Eastern Europeans, and a few other Southeast Asian and Asian(Indian) people. Everyone else is Caucasian/white.

So, that's me. I've been here for about 7 months, so, I'm still just getting used to everything, I know. Hope that things will just keep getting better!

Hello abbygirl! Thank you for joining/sharing in your experiences. Since you come all the way from CA, you will find yourself missing CA and what has CA for you compared - not if you come direct from our home - Philippines. And surely, not much change bec whatever big/little changes in you then, that happened in CA

Yes, same here, since I cannot greatly cook I really really miss Pilipino Food. Oh don't you worry, things will get better with you here. I know what youre saying " the hardest part of it" ... it's like putting square peg in a round hole ... Good luck and all the best!

[Florge]

I moved here from San Diego, in CA 7 months ago. I don't think I've changed, really. Just adjusted, but still miss things.

I miss a variety of food. Not only not eating Filipino food, or food from other places. His parents do all of the cooking, so, I just eat what I'm given. But, once I start getting paid from work, I'll get a takeaway when I can. Once we live in our own place, then I'll make all sorts of food!

I've started using UK phrases and words. I have to wear loads of clothes all the time-I even wear socks in the house! I'm used to just wearing tisnelas or even just walking around in shorts, tshirt and no shoes in the house. I'm getting used to wearing a coat, hat and gloves. I always look for the words "waterproof" on shoes and clothes now. I'm getting used to a bus system that doesn't work very well.

The fire's become a best friend, so has the computer.

I don't have any friends here, and I don't have anything in common with anyone. That's the hardest part for me, I think. In San Diego, there's a huge Filipino community-there's even a Goldilocks, and Red Ribbon and Jollibee in the shopping mall! Over there, I was one of many, so, I was able to blend in better. And of course, my friends and family were there, and I was familiar with everything and my surroundings.

Here, I stick out like a caribou at the Royal Palace. Living up in the Northwest doesn't really help. The only other immigrant people here are Polish/ Eastern Europeans, and a few other Southeast Asian and Asian(Indian) people. Everyone else is Caucasian/white.

So, that's me. I've been here for about 7 months, so, I'm still just getting used to everything, I know. Hope that things will just keep getting better!

where in the UK are you at?

[bless.books]

yes bless... I'm in Manchester... my nurse and my dietician told me to lose weight though as I am a bit overweight for my height... oh how I wish I am taller! lol

Hello again Florge! If they say so and be good for you, go for it ...

[sars_notd_virus]

Husband's reply:''NO i didnt change a bit except that:
..I became more workaholic to get u here in Uk..
..I went down my brothers place often now and eat his rice and salad(used to eat rice 3x a day when in phils)

[bless.books]

Husband's reply:''NO i didnt change a bit except that: ..I became more workaholic to get u here in Uk..
..I went down my brothers place often now and eat his rice and salad(used to eat rice 3x a day when in phils)

Hello sars_notd_virus! Sorry, my response is a bit late ... Yes, add'l expenses - and pertaining to your stay here, he will have to prepare as well ...

[Kju&2]

Hi everyone! I've been in England for 11 years now.. moved here when I just turned 19 and I must admit it took me 5 years to get used to living here in England and beat the "home sickness" blues. I was lucky enough to get here because of my parents and lucky enough to learn a lot about life and be mature and independent (which I probably wouldn't have learned as efficiently living in the Philippines) but I think I'd still want to go back there to live if given a really good job package. I'm a british citizen now but apart from the upside of being able to travel almost anywhere without a visa - I certainly still don't feel very british. People still tend to look down on me 'cos I'm asian. I have noticed differences in service from white people when you're in a shop for example. Like they'd be all nice, friendly and smiley if the person paying before you was white and then their face would suddenly drop or they give you this fake smile when it's your turn to pay 'cos you're asian. Sorry may seem a bit off topic but what I learned about this is that grass isn't always greener on the other side. I am not saying that all british people are like this but just amazed that at this day and age - some people still think that filipinos are either just domestic helpers, nurses/carers or opportunists who marry white guys in order to get to the UK. Living in the UK has made me appreciate the Philippines more, it made me appreciate the relationship I have with my family and relatives back home and made me appreciate the friends I've still got there even if I don't see them very often. I also gained a little bit of weight since I got here but then my bf loves my curves =D It is very hard to find true friends (filipinos) here in the UK and I have now given up on the idea of finding somebody who has the same interests as me and kind of the same age but atleast we've got this forum which may help us gain some "online" friends / chums

[Florge]

Hi everyone! I've been in England for 11 years now.. moved here when I just turned 19 and I must admit it took me 5 years to get used to living here in England and beat the "home sickness" blues. I was lucky enough to get here because of my parents and lucky enough to learn a lot about life and be mature and independent (which I probably wouldn't have learned as efficiently living in the Philippines) but I think I'd still want to go back there to live if given a really good job package. I'm a british citizen now but apart from the upside of being able to travel almost anywhere without a visa - I certainly still don't feel very british. People still tend to look down on me 'cos I'm asian. I have noticed differences in service from white people when you're in a shop for example. Like they'd be all nice, friendly and smiley if the person paying before you was white and then their face would suddenly drop or they give you this fake smile when it's your turn to pay 'cos you're asian. Sorry may seem a bit off topic but what I learned about this is that grass isn't always greener on the other side. I am not saying that all british people are like this but just amazed that at this day and age - some people still think that filipinos are either just domestic helpers, nurses/carers or opportunists who marry white guys in order to get to the UK. Living in the UK has made me appreciate the Philippines more, it made me appreciate the relationship I have with my family and relatives back home and made me appreciate the friends I've still got there even if I don't see them very often. I also gained a little bit of weight since I got here but then my bf loves my curves =D It is very hard to find true friends (filipinos) here in the UK and I have now given up on the idea of finding somebody who has the same interests as me and kind of the same age but atleast we've got this forum which may help us gain some "online" friends / chums

i totally agree with you... well, you got very nice pinays here that can be your friends.. found a few ..

[bless.books]

[QUOTE=Ekks;206081] ... Philippines) but I think I'd still want to go back there to live if given a really good job package ... I certainly still don't feel very british. People still tend to look down on me 'cos I'm asian. I have noticed differences in service from white people when you're in a shop ... Sorry may seem a bit off topic but what I learned about this is that grass isn't always greener on the other side ... but just amazed that at this day and age - some people still think that filipinos are either just domestic helpers, nurses/carers or opportunists who marry white guys in order to get to the UK. Living in the UK has made me appreciate the Philippines more, it made me appreciate the relationship I have with my family and relatives back home and made me appreciate the friends I've still got there even if I don't see them very often. It is very hard to find true friends (filipinos) here in the UK and I have now given up on the idea of finding somebody ... /QUOTE]



Hello and thanks Ekks for sharing! Saying “YES!!!” to myself while reading your contribution - very much interesting to hear you and how much you appreciate Philippines – the very thing I wished to hear and the very one angle of change I am talking about ...

I can feel your frustrations. We share the same sentiments and I experienced that myself. In away no one is to blame, except us or maybe not? I am not sure saying this, but whether appropriate or not that to me in general is my personal observation. I wouldn’t be surprised if I get reactions over this.

We need to go out of the ordinary. We need to change the misconceptions and generalisations. Again (in my opinion), we have yet to do something that can really turn Britain/British around or perhaps we’ve done something already, but no support from our own? I really don’t know. Friends even are hard to find, why?

[eula mackay]

i think im still the same person with different approach in decision making. bit more practical and a lot more considerate.

i've always been punctual although before coming to live here i never said much if someones late. now, i make it a point of confirming time and stressing that i only have a few minutes to spare watching the paint go dry. i value my time so much more, i think its very disrespectful if someone is consistently late.

i do try to cut down my co2 emission by car sharing, i walk to the shops and i recycle. something i definitely didnt do before coming to live here.

im a bit more conscious of what i eat and what i feed my husband. very very little frying, loads of greens, low cholesterol, low saturated fat and low sugar. alcohol intake is kept minimal as well. gym 3x a week if possible.

and the biggest change is - i only eat rice once every two weeks

[bless.books]

i think im still the same person with different approach in decision making. bit more practical and a lot more considerate.
i've always been punctual although before coming to live here i never said much if someones late. now, i make it a point of confirming time and stressing that i only have a few minutes to spare watching the paint go dry. i value my time so much more, i think its very disrespectful if someone is consistently late. i do try to cut down my co2 emission by car sharing, i walk to the shops and i recycle. something i definitely didnt do before coming to live here.
im a bit more conscious of what i eat and what i feed my husband. very very little frying, loads of greens, low cholesterol, low saturated fat and low sugar. alcohol intake is kept minimal as well. gym 3x a week if possible. and the biggest change is - i only eat rice once every two weeks

Hello eula mackay! Thank you for posting. These things we learn/to apply here . Time is gold and once lost, it is really lost. We cannot afford to waste time. Thanks to celphone - we can confirm and leave if one is waste of time ...

I browsed/read it somewhere online about a community back home doing their bit of recycling in massive scale (I need to check). I hope they are successful so others will follow ...

[bless.books]

Hello Everyone! Thank you for your contributions. I have yet to react to Ekks and Eula something ... a bit later, eh ...

Here, few quotations I wanted to share with you that has something to do with the CHANGE/S

Continuity gives us roots; change gives us branches, letting us stretch and grow and reach new heights. ~Pauline R. Kezer

He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery. ~Harold Wilson

When you are through changing, you are through. ~Bruce Barton

They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom. ~Confucius

If nothing ever changed, there'd be no butterflies. ~Author Unknown

We change, whether we like it or not. (I miss to copy who said this, I think it was John F. Kennedy)

To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly. (This one. I miss as well)

[pennybarry]

Hello Everyone! We change, whether we like it or not. (I miss to copy who said this, I think it was John F. Kennedy)

(This one. I miss as well)

Uoh, I changed my job here.
I have improved my housekeeping job at home when I worked as housekeeper here.
I have improvement on how to serve crab in good presentation. When I worked at crab company, I became a crab specialist as I can break the claws, remove meat from the shells without breaking the meat.
I changed my job wether I like it or not to earn money.

[ras66uk]

hey ppl,
i livd here in phil. now for 14mnths,
we lost our 1st baby, and juz had our 2nd baby healthy! thank jah!
i noticed how evryting here u hav to pay for!medically dat is.
i giv thnx for nhs system in UK , here in phil. if u poor u die, simple as dat... messed up....
and ultimatly we are all the same, one ppl, wit little differences BUT THE SAME, ONE FAMILY, ONE BLOOD, so for ppl here dat cant find friendz bcaz u think u different, push these tings out your mind...bcaz it holds u back....open your mind and u will see doors open. UNIVERSAL LOVE

[Arthur Little]

hey ppl,
i livd here in phil. now for 14mnths,
we lost our 1st baby, and juz had our 2nd baby healthy! thank jah!
i noticed how evryting here u hav to pay for!medically dat is.
i giv thnx for nhs system in UK , here in phil. if u poor u die, simple as dat... messed up....
and ultimatly we are all the same, one ppl, wit little differences BUT THE SAME, ONE FAMILY, ONE BLOOD, so for ppl here dat cant find friendz bcaz u think u different, push these tings out your mind...bcaz it holds u back....open your mind and u will see doors open. UNIVERSAL LOVE

s here, Ras ... WE in the UK have lots to be grateful for!!! I'm so sorry to learn of the loss of your first-born ... but, thankfully, you now have a healthy second child.

[bless.books]

and ultimatly we are all the same, one ppl, wit little differences BUT THE SAME, ONE FAMILY, ONE BLOOD, so for ppl here dat cant find friendz bcaz u think u different, push these tings out your mind...bcaz it holds u back....open your mind and u will see doors open. UNIVERSAL LOVE

Hello ras66uk! Thank for your contribution and I hope things are okay there. Yeah, good point. And sometime you ask why?

[scot5man]

Even after 35 years in the UK my wife still hasnt changed in so many ways...!!!

I still waken up every morning to the smell of dried fish being fried.
Although she likes to experiment with British dishes we generally eat Filipino food (no complaint from me there)
If we have an argument and she is wrong she will never say sorry..!!

Actually Im sure there are many other ways in which i feel that she hasn't changed, but actually i wouldn't want her to change..she is a proud Filipina and rightly so.

scot5man

[pocahontas]

Even after 35 years in the UK my wife still hasnt changed in so many ways...!!!

I still waken up every morning to the smell of dried fish being fried.
Although she likes to experiment with British dishes we generally eat Filipino food (no complaint from me there)
If we have an argument and she is wrong she will never say sorry..!!

Actually Im sure there are many other ways in which i feel that she hasn't changed, but actually i wouldn't want her to change..she is a proud Filipina and rightly so.

scot5man

your both cute i can picture how you accept each other..

[bless.books]

Even after 35 years in the UK my wife still hasnt changed in so many ways...!!! I still waken up every morning to the smell of dried fish being fried. Although she likes to experiment with British dishes we generally eat Filipino food (no complaint from me there) If we have an argument and she is wrong she will never say sorry..!!

Actually Im sure there are many other ways in which i feel that she hasn't changed, but actually i wouldn't want her to change..she is a proud Filipina and rightly so. scot5man

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It's funny to hear/know how your wife craves Filipino foods, I do as well. Whenever I come up to London I make sure I drop at Earl's Court where the food is !!! And yes too in saying 'Sorry' ... I think that is a trademark of Filipinas wait 2 secs to reload the image It's a wife thing wait 2 secs to reload the image wait 2 secs to reload the image

[scot5man]

PS : The only way i have changed personally is that since my first trip to the Philippines I contracted a very serious disease. It affects me every time I get back to the UK. Its called PPD and I hear that there is no cure for it..!!


scot5man

[bless.books]

PS : The only way i have changed personally is that since my first trip to the Philippines I contracted a very serious disease. It affects me every time I get back to the UK. Its called PPD and I hear that there is no cure for it..!! scot5man

Hello again scot5man! Excuse my ignorance, what does PPD means? :-)

[pocahontas]

oh...can i still join my self in this topic.. hello bless books. if im not mistaken are you also the one who put a topic here about AKOY PILIPINO song? coz if you do i have to admit that you are emotional person but.........very interesting personality. i like it. and for your question about this. in my own experience, really things change and no permanent in this world. not unless you set it to be in the same way. i have to say that its hard for me to say the truth of how i change. but to make this a little bit more clear for me changes in life is not always favor to what you expecting and if thats happened then you need more time to accept it..8-) hm.. i dont think i made my self clear..hehe8-)

[bless.books]

oh...can i still join my self in this topic.. hello bless books. if im not mistaken are you also the one who put a topic here about AKOY PILIPINO song? coz if you do i have to admit that you are emotional person but.........very interesting personality. i like it. and for your question about this. in my own experience, really things change and no permanent in this world. not unless you set it to be in the same way. i have to say that its hard for me to say the truth of how i change. but to make this a little bit more clear for me changes in life is not always favor to what you expecting and if thats happened then you need more time to accept it..8-) hm.. i dont think i made my self clear..hehe8-)

Hello pocahontas! Finally, I am here to respond to your comment. I read this before, so sorry only now - I can only reply to a few at a time and besides, just don't want to monopolise the whole thread ... if that is the case, you will get bored seeing all my responses in one go.

Thanks for your words :-) ... yes, I am the same one who posted the AKO AY PILIPINO and yes, I am a bit emotional.

It has been said over that the only thing that is permanent is change aside from death and tax of course! Oh, it's perfectly clear to me pocahontas.

Change is inevitable, you can either embrace it or embrace. I see that we have no choice ... we just have to balance the good from the bad.
Okay, till next interaction with you ...

[pocahontas]

i read all the comment of your post bless books and i have to admit that this is one of the best topic here in forum that everyone can say their experience. all the reply i asnwered is really a learning story or experiences, and also have to admit that it hit me being selfish. i have to admit that i am very unperfection and made a lot of mistakes and continuing same person that i missed which make me hard to be greatefull in life. though im still trying..kaya lang tigal tlg ulo ko... and for the girls filipina who looking for a true friendship, count me in coz im one of you who hoping to look for a true friends..that no matter who you are you can share with someone without un judging you.. very true real friend hard to find..

[triple5]

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[bless.books]

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Hello triple5! The changes that happened to you? hahaha ...

I noticed that only now. When I clicked the icon, it says those words hoping it will automatically show the icon when I submit reply, and obviously not!

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