I remember that feeling.Originally Posted by Steve.r
Yes, I have changed since I have come back from Phil. I am now in a state of depression. I left my girl and a wonderful country behind me. Depression ends when I touch down in Phil again.
I remember that feeling.Yes, I have changed since I have come back from Phil. I am now in a state of depression. I left my girl and a wonderful country behind me. Depression ends when I touch down in Phil again.
I moved here from San Diego, in CA 7 months ago. I don't think I've changed, really. Just adjusted, but still miss things.
I miss a variety of food. Not only not eating Filipino food, or food from other places. His parents do all of the cooking, so, I just eat what I'm given.But, once I start getting paid from work, I'll get a takeaway when I can. Once we live in our own place, then I'll make all sorts of food!
I've started using UK phrases and words. I have to wear loads of clothes all the time-I even wear socks in the house! I'm used to just wearing tisnelas or even just walking around in shorts, tshirt and no shoes in the house. I'm getting used to wearing a coat, hat and gloves. I always look for the words "waterproof" on shoes and clothes now. I'm getting used to a bus system that doesn't work very well.
The fire's become a best friend, so has the computer.
I don't have any friends here, and I don't have anything in common with anyone. That's the hardest part for me, I think. In San Diego, there's a huge Filipino community-there's even a Goldilocks, and Red Ribbon and Jollibee in the shopping mall! Over there, I was one of many, so, I was able to blend in better. And of course, my friends and family were there, and I was familiar with everything and my surroundings.
Here, I stick out like a caribou at the Royal Palace. Living up in the Northwest doesn't really help. The only other immigrant people here are Polish/ Eastern Europeans, and a few other Southeast Asian and Asian(Indian) people. Everyone else is Caucasian/white.
So, that's me. I've been here for about 7 months, so, I'm still just getting used to everything, I know. Hope that things will just keep getting better!
hi bless.books, how are you?
for me,i think i have changed.. i am more responsible in a relationship..and in the house.. in the philippines,it was just a holiday but since i arrived here in the uk,it is different coz you both starting to live a normal life,a husband and wife living under the same roof.
we are still learning to each other and tell each others mistake.so whatever disagreements we have,we talk about it before we sleep and sort it out so it wont build up that one day you just explode which is not good.
so i hope its not late for me to share about changes in me
CRITICIZING OTHERS IS A DANGEROUS THING, NOT SO MUCH BECAUSE YOU MAY MAKE MISTAKES ABOUT THEM, BUT BECAUSE YOU MAY BE REVEALING THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF.
pumpkinsbabykins
Hi, Penny, Thanks for the wishes!Wish you're close to me so I can share you more fish as we live close to harbour.
Wish you to meet a genuine filipina friend. Just be patient as good friends are TOO hard to find. Many are jealous pinays that sometimes they will try to put you down if they are down! It took 2 years for me to find my good friends.
I watch that programs too. I leave him alone in our bedroom and go downstairs watch the program if he will not change the channel! Then after few minutes, he will call me to watch it upstairs.
Drama!I hope I'll find a true friend here in UK.
Well, atleast, there's a site like this that keep us together or chat a little while.
Kudos! filipinaroses.com!
A winning horse doesn't know why it runs in a race.
It runs because of the hits of pain.
Life is a race. God is your rider.
So if you're in pain,
then think God wants you to win
Hi everyone! I've been in England for 11 years now.. moved here when I just turned 19 and I must admit it took me 5 years to get used to living here in England and beat the "home sickness" blues. I was lucky enough to get here because of my parents and lucky enough to learn a lot about life and be mature and independent (which I probably wouldn't have learned as efficiently living in the Philippines) but I think I'd still want to go back there to live if given a really good job package. I'm a british citizen now but apart from the upside of being able to travel almost anywhere without a visa - I certainly still don't feel very british. People still tend to look down on me 'cos I'm asian. I have noticed differences in service from white people when you're in a shop for example. Like they'd be all nice, friendly and smiley if the person paying before you was white and then their face would suddenly drop or they give you this fake smile when it's your turn to pay 'cos you're asian. Sorry may seem a bit off topic but what I learned about this is that grass isn't always greener on the other side. I am not saying that all british people are like this but just amazed that at this day and age - some people still think that filipinos are either just domestic helpers, nurses/carers or opportunists who marry white guys in order to get to the UK. Living in the UK has made me appreciate the Philippines more, it made me appreciate the relationship I have with my family and relatives back home and made me appreciate the friends I've still got there even if I don't see them very often. I also gained a little bit of weight since I got here but then my bf loves my curves =D It is very hard to find true friends (filipinos) here in the UK and I have now given up on the idea of finding somebody who has the same interests as me and kind of the same age but atleast we've got this forum which may help us gain some "online" friends / chums
Hello again Florge! If they say so and be good for you, go for it
Hello Kenny! You do as well?
Hello pumpkins! I am well, thank you ... How are you? Really nice to hear you - now you're here and sharing your experience! It's not too late at all.hi bless.books, how are you? for me,i think i have changed.. i am more responsible in a relationship..and in the house
so i hope its not late for me to share about changes in me
We all do change in so many ways. And if the UK didn't do much to influence/change you/me/others ways for the better - then that means we didn't grow. Good wishes to you both ... God bless!
We all do change in so many ways. And if the UK didn't do much to influence/change you/me/others ways for the better - then that means we didn't grow. Good wishes to you both ... God bless!
I think if you are good in the Philippines, there's no much need to change for better. Some people grew up before they married. UK culture is always there and will be respected, but I don't think all of us will be influenced by all their cultures. Proud to be a filipino and I love UK too!
But then there will surely big changes if we have children as time will focus to them and be a housewife.
I can still do other things like going out and still bit independent as long as trust and freedom is always there.
Hello abbygirl! Thank you for joining/sharing in your experiences. Since you come all the way from CA, you will find yourself missing CA and what has CA for you compared - not if you come direct from our home - Philippines. And surely, not much change bec whatever big/little changes in you then, that happened in CAI moved here from San Diego, in CA 7 months ago. I don't think I've changed, really. Just adjusted, but still miss things. I miss a variety of food. Not only not eating Filipino food, or food from other places. His parents do all of the cooking, so, I just eat what I'm given.
I've started using UK phrases and words. I have to wear loads of clothes all the time-I even wear socks in the house! I'm used to just wearing tisnelas or even just walking around in shorts, tshirt and no shoes in the house. I'm getting used to wearing a coat, hat and gloves. I always look for the words "waterproof" on shoes and clothes now. I'm getting used to a bus system that doesn't work very well. The fire's become a best friend, so has the computer.
I don't have any friends here, and I don't have anything in common with anyone. That's the hardest part for me, I think. In San Diego, there's a huge Filipino community-there's even a Goldilocks, and Red Ribbon and Jollibee in the shopping mall! Over there, I was one of many, so, I was able to blend in better. And of course, my friends and family were there, and I was familiar with everything and my surroundings. Here, I stick out like a caribou at the Royal Palace. Living up in the Northwest doesn't really help. The only other immigrant people here are Polish/ Eastern Europeans, and a few other Southeast Asian and Asian(Indian) people. Everyone else is Caucasian/white.
So, that's me. I've been here for about 7 months, so, I'm still just getting used to everything, I know. Hope that things will just keep getting better!
Yes, same here, since I cannot greatly cook I really really miss Pilipino Food. Oh don't you worry, things will get better with you here. I know what youre saying " the hardest part of it" ... it's like putting square peg in a round hole
for me its not acceptable to eat rice anytime
you can't beat a British spud
You dont like Rice Pudding
Oh lord why did you make so many clothes and shoe shops
i think im still the same person with different approach in decision making. bit more practical and a lot more considerate.
i've always been punctual although before coming to live here i never said much if someones late. now, i make it a point of confirming time and stressing that i only have a few minutes to spare watching the paint go dry. i value my time so much more, i think its very disrespectful if someone is consistently late.
i do try to cut down my co2 emission by car sharing, i walk to the shops and i recycle. something i definitely didnt do before coming to live here.
im a bit more conscious of what i eat and what i feed my husband. very very little frying, loads of greens, low cholesterol, low saturated fat and low sugar. alcohol intake is kept minimal as well. gym 3x a week if possible.
and the biggest change is - i only eat rice once every two weeks
Hello Everyone! Thank you for your contributions. I have yet to react to Ekks and Eula something
Here, few quotations I wanted to share with you that has something to do with the CHANGE/S
Continuity gives us roots; change gives us branches, letting us stretch and grow and reach new heights. ~Pauline R. Kezer
He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery. ~Harold Wilson
When you are through changing, you are through. ~Bruce Barton
They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom. ~Confucius
If nothing ever changed, there'd be no butterflies. ~Author Unknown
We change, whether we like it or not. (I miss to copy who said this, I think it was John F. Kennedy)
To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly. (This one. I miss as well)
hey ppl,
i livd here in phil. now for 14mnths,
we lost our 1st baby, and juz had our 2nd baby healthy! thank jah!
i noticed how evryting here u hav to pay for!medically dat is.
i giv thnx for nhs system in UK , here in phil. if u poor u die, simple as dat... messed up....
and ultimatly we are all the same, one ppl, wit little differences BUT THE SAME, ONE FAMILY, ONE BLOOD, so for ppl here dat cant find friendz bcaz u think u different, push these tings out your mind...bcaz it holds u back....open your mind and u will see doors open. UNIVERSAL LOVE
s here, Ras ... WE in the UK have lots to be grateful for!!! I'm so sorry to learn of the loss of your first-born ... but, thankfully, you now have a healthy second child.
Uoh, I changed my job here.Hello Everyone! We change, whether we like it or not. (I miss to copy who said this, I think it was John F. Kennedy)
(This one. I miss as well)
I have improved my housekeeping job at home when I worked as housekeeper here.
I have improvement on how to serve crab in good presentation. When I worked at crab company, I became a crab specialistas I can break the claws, remove meat from the shells without breaking the meat.
I changed my job wether I like it or not to earn money.
[QUOTE=pennybarry;206185]I think if you are good in the Philippines, there's no much need to change for better. Some people grew up before they married. UK culture is always there and will be respected, but I don't think all of us will be influenced by all their cultures. Proud to be a filipino and I love UK too! But then there will surely big changes if we have children as time will focus to them and be a housewife.
Hello pennybarry! Without blowing my own trumpet, I would say I am good and doing good
But
[QUOTE=bless.books;206532]Every individual wants to change for better, wherever they are whatever they do. Everybody feels good if they help more. We do think more and you're right as I think more in the UK than in Pinas. Surroundings here is very quiet and you have more and more time to think especially if you just stay in the house.I wonder why there are Shakespeare, Einstein and Churchil in Europe.I think if you are good in the Philippines, there's no much need to change for better. Some people grew up before they married. UK culture is always there and will be respected, but I don't think all of us will be influenced by all their cultures. Proud to be a filipino and I love UK too! But then there will surely big changes if we have children as time will focus to them and be a housewife.
Hello pennybarry! Without blowing my own trumpet, I would say I am good and doing good
But
There are many more people in Pinas that also needs more help. Been there done that and still helping by giving advices. I am now called as Tiya DEly!Sorry for blowing the trumphet.
Goodluck for growing more!
Even after 35 years in the UK my wife still hasnt changed in so many ways...!!!
I still waken up every morning to the smell of dried fish being fried.
Although she likes to experiment with British dishes we generally eat Filipino food (no complaint from me there)
If we have an argument and she is wrong she will never say sorry..!!
Actually Im sure there are many other ways in which i feel that she hasn't changed, but actually i wouldn't want her to change..she is a proud Filipina and rightly so.
scot5man
PS : The only way i have changed personally is that since my first trip to the Philippines I contracted a very serious disease. It affects me every time I get back to the UK. Its called PPD and I hear that there is no cure for it..!!
scot5man
Husband's reply:''NO i didnt change a bit except that:
..I became more workaholic to get u here in Uk..
..I went down my brothers place often now and eat his rice and salad(used to eat rice 3x a day when in phils)
''Don't be serious..Be Sincere''
i totally agree with you... well, you got very nice pinays here that can be your friends.. found a few ..
where in the UK are you at?I moved here from San Diego, in CA 7 months ago. I don't think I've changed, really. Just adjusted, but still miss things.
I miss a variety of food. Not only not eating Filipino food, or food from other places. His parents do all of the cooking, so, I just eat what I'm given.
I've started using UK phrases and words. I have to wear loads of clothes all the time-I even wear socks in the house! I'm used to just wearing tisnelas or even just walking around in shorts, tshirt and no shoes in the house. I'm getting used to wearing a coat, hat and gloves. I always look for the words "waterproof" on shoes and clothes now. I'm getting used to a bus system that doesn't work very well.
The fire's become a best friend, so has the computer.
I don't have any friends here, and I don't have anything in common with anyone. That's the hardest part for me, I think. In San Diego, there's a huge Filipino community-there's even a Goldilocks, and Red Ribbon and Jollibee in the shopping mall! Over there, I was one of many, so, I was able to blend in better. And of course, my friends and family were there, and I was familiar with everything and my surroundings.
Here, I stick out like a caribou at the Royal Palace. Living up in the Northwest doesn't really help. The only other immigrant people here are Polish/ Eastern Europeans, and a few other Southeast Asian and Asian(Indian) people. Everyone else is Caucasian/white.
So, that's me. I've been here for about 7 months, so, I'm still just getting used to everything, I know. Hope that things will just keep getting better!
oh...can i still join my self in this topic.. hello bless books. if im not mistaken are you also the one who put a topic here about AKOY PILIPINO song? coz if you do i have to admit that you are emotional person but.........very interesting personality. i like it. and for your question about this. in my own experience, really things change and no permanent in this world. not unless you set it to be in the same way. i have to say that its hard for me to say the truth of how i change. but to make this a little bit more clear for me changes in life is not always favor to what you expecting and if thats happened then you need more time to accept it..8-) hm.. i dont think i made my self clear..hehe8-)
funny, truly humble person..Physically, I changed nothing.
Emotionally, getting more matured! Finally I accept I'm married.
Style, baduy pa din.
Taste? I still like ampalaya, talong, smoke fish, bagoong than bacon
Simple but rock sometimes.
Nothing changed really, I just changed my clothes into heavy one.
my sandals into boots
and everytime I visit my place in Pinas, my close friends, neighbors said nothing changed, still penny naka-duster sa bahay, mana sa Nanay.
Two feet still on the grounds.
And definitely
i read all the comment of your post bless books and i have to admit that this is one of the best topic here in forum that everyone can say their experience. all the reply i asnwered is really a learning story or experiences, and also have to admit that it hit me being selfish. i have to admit that i am very unperfection and made a lot of mistakes and continuing same person that i missed which make me hard to be greatefull in life. though im still trying..kaya lang tigal tlg ulo ko... and for the girls filipina who looking for a true friendship, count me in coz im one of you who hoping to look for a true friends..that no matter who you are you can share with someone without un judging you.. very true real friend hard to find..
[QUOTE=Ekks;206081] ... Philippines) but I think I'd still want to go back there to live if given a really good job package ... I certainly still don't feel very british. People still tend to look down on me 'cos I'm asian. I have noticed differences in service from white people when you're in a shop ... Sorry may seem a bit off topic but what I learned about this is that grass isn't always greener on the other side ... but just amazed that at this day and age - some people still think that filipinos are either just domestic helpers, nurses/carers or opportunists who marry white guys in order to get to the UK. Living in the UK has made me appreciate the Philippines more, it made me appreciate the relationship I have with my family and relatives back home and made me appreciate the friends I've still got there even if I don't see them very often. It is very hard to find true friends (filipinos) here in the UK and I have now given up on the idea of finding somebody ... /QUOTE]
Hello and thanks Ekks for sharing! Saying “YES!!!” to myself while reading your contribution - very much interesting to hear you and how much you appreciate Philippines – the very thing I wished to hear and the very one angle of change I am talking about ...
I can feel your frustrations. We share the same sentiments and I experienced that myself. In away no one is to blame, except us or maybe not? I am not sure saying this, but whether appropriate or not that to me in general is my personal observation. I wouldn’t be surprised if I get reactions over this.
We need to go out of the ordinary. We need to change the misconceptions and generalisations. Again (in my opinion), we have yet to do something that can really turn Britain/British around or perhaps we’ve done something already, but no support from our own? I really don’t know. Friends even are hard to find, why?
i think im still the same person with different approach in decision making. bit more practical and a lot more considerate.
i've always been punctual although before coming to live here i never said much if someones late. now, i make it a point of confirming time and stressing that i only have a few minutes to spare watching the paint go dry. i value my time so much more, i think its very disrespectful if someone is consistently late. i do try to cut down my co2 emission by car sharing, i walk to the shops and i recycle. something i definitely didnt do before coming to live here.
im a bit more conscious of what i eat and what i feed my husband. very very little frying, loads of greens, low cholesterol, low saturated fat and low sugar. alcohol intake is kept minimal as well. gym 3x a week if possible. and the biggest change is - i only eat rice once every two weeks
Hello eula mackay! Thank you for posting.
I browsed/read it somewhere online about a community back home doing their bit of recycling in massive scale (I need to check). I hope they are successful so others will follow ...
Hello ras66uk! Thank for your contribution and I hope things are okay there. Yeah, good point. And sometime you ask why?
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