Hi Allyn, If I am in your shoes, I will dump him before he dump you.
Be strong because you can do it!
I don't know how long is your patience but we, as wife we must have limitations.
Tell him you need a cool off whilst he thinking about his plans. Leave him for a moment. I know someone who needs a friend to share in her flat, pm me. I have a friend at 52, single and can accommodate you. Less problem about the job if you can work at carehomes, as she can help you like what she did to other filipinos.