Quote Originally Posted by maria_and_matt View Post
to be honest i think it is up to us parents how we bring them up. my son who is 16 years old, is raised to respect people. he goes to school and sees not so good things that happen there ie alcohol, cigarettes and disrespect, but i am so proud to say that he has not picked up any of those 'yet'. i am just hoping that he will continue to be as good as he is now. we give him as much love and support, we also make sure that he can talk to us.

i think wherever children are raised there is always aspect of picking up bad behaviour, even back home in the philippines, kids now adays are not as polite and as good as before.
I agree that it is depend upon the parents how they raised their children.
Even in the Philippines, I knew some people how they hate their parents, and parents how they do their role being parents. It's disgusting to see they both hate each other and no good communications.

Quote Originally Posted by nigel View Post
Filipino's know something about raisng children that we don't...it's something that fascinates me quite a lot..

When I'm in Philippines I'm always MORE than impressed at how well young children behave in comparison to British children...it's quite a striking thing for me, I'm not going to pretend I know why, but I have these thoughts...

1 Filipino's have strong bonds/relationships with each other, they are team players and they rarely say no to each other, they are accomodating and compromising, and feel their families are important, whilst British people are more shallow/monogamous/selfish..?

2 Filipino's tend to have a larger number of children, and those children would learn to share and compromise with their brothers and sisters...British tend to have two or three children, or sometimes just one child...with our financial posistions being better these children will be probably get the things they want without having to share or compromise so much..?

3 Another thing that fascinates me a LOT is the way a baby gets treated in it's first two years, I've heard that the first two years of a babys development is the most important! British families will sometimes leave a baby crying by itself in it's cot, would Filipino's do this? I don't know but I doubt it!

The way a baby gets treated when it cries might just have a very significant factor in the way that it develops, I'm no psychologist, but if a baby is left to cry like that, then he/she is learning that it's a cold and lonely world! They are learning this before they are learning to walk!

A baby that wont stop crying is obviously not enjoyable...but I suspect the way a crying baby gets treated may have a significant impact on it's overall development..?

The Russians "Swaddle" their babies to stop them crying don't they? I have no idea how to deal with a crying baby! I think it may have a significance we are unaware of though...

Thanks Nigel! I agree that we also have a strong bonding and family ties.
In our place, I still see how they respect their Lola, Lolo, uncle, aunt and parents.

I see babies here, they spent more time in their trolley than their parents arms.

Baby usually stays at homes and they become surprised and happy if they are on the bus/cars. This also happens in our country but as much as possible, we go out and travel around. If children reach 5 year old they can go to nursery too including their Moms staying at the school waiting.