I've been trying to keep abreast with this thread
I have two "kids" now in their early 20's and although I'm divorced spent much time with them before they left home. I'm sure it's time spent with parents during the formative years that counts. I can't now control what my kids do with their lives, but I'm always here for them and because of that bonding in the early years they always keep in touch (but not the way Penny describes)