Last week also my daughter mentioned to us that her best friend and her grand dad thinks my wife is a mail order bride and asked her how much i paid to marry her and it made my wife so upset.
My girl would also be very sensitive is she were ever subjected to such narrow minded remarks, hence why I'd probably never consider going down that route now as I know what people are like where I live.

As Ricky says, you stopping her from working/going college maybe making her resentful towards you. How come you don't want her to anyway? I think most would get bored talking to a parrot all day.