Sorry this is SO long!

Ok, I have been chatting to a girl called Bell who I met on a dating site since sometime in January. She lived in Cebu and worked as a storeroom manager or something similar. She started off not writing much, but then started writing a little more and we got on to emailing, but they still weren't very long! I find it hard to get some girls chatting more, but you need to chat mote to get a feel for them & how well you get on. You don't want to fly all that way to see them, then find that you don't 'click' or get on so well do you?!

Anyway, after a few weeks she said that she was thinking of quitting her job and trying in Singapore where a friend was. I let her know Steve R's advice that things were not easy there, it was hard to find jobs and that companies were taking advantage of people etc. She thanked me for the advice, but decided to try so fair enough. As she didn't have her own computer & was busy planning her move, she didn't have the opportunity to chat on yahoo (only once) or send emails, so it was mainly keeping on contact by text messages. I didn't want to spend money on phone calls until we has chatted more on yahoo and found if we got on more or not.

After she finished her job, she went to visit her family in Clarin, Missamis occidental, so again had no chance to use a PC. She did say at one time that she had a strange request) which I thought could possibly be asking for some money, but she never mentioned this strange request again! She did say that it was costing more than she thought andvwas short of money, but never asked for anything.

After visiting her family, she went back to Cebu for a few days to finish packing up and then flew to Singapore. When there she got a Singapore sim card which then meant that she couldn't text me cheaply and she still didn't have Internet use. She's been there 7 weeks now, and I've received one email and the odd text message ( sometimes a few in a day, then sometimes none for 2-3weeks) as she still hasn't been able to find any work. She has been missing her family, said she had listened to the advice I gave her and seems like she will have to go back soon. I guess she took some savings with her and it's just as well she has been living with her friend of I don't know how she would have got by. I'm not sure why her friend didn't really say how it was before she decided to go though?

Yesterday I sent her a text asking her how she was etc and she replied saying that she thinks Singapore isn't for her and will be going home soon. This morning i received a message from her saying that she needs to go home on April 28th, can I lend her $200, that she has run out of cash & has no-one to turn to. I'm not sure is she means $200 Singapore dollars which is £94 or $200 US dollars which is £129? I look at the flights and the cheapest Cebu pacific one for that date is $229 Singapore dollars which is £108.

Am not really sure what to do. am sure her family don't have the money. If I had known her longer, we had longer/more regular emails/chatted on yahoo & got on well/chatted on the phone & got on well, then it wouldn't be so much of a problem for me, but her going to Singapore kinda stuffed up things moving on/going somewhere (which is also why I have still been looking for someone) and I don't know if this has any future or not? Of course naturally, I am caring and like to help people, but of course with what happened before with Suzie and advice about not spending/sending money I'm not sure what to do? If it's the equivalent of £94 of so, it's not too bad, but still not a small amount for someone I have yet to really 'click' with or of course even see!

Any advice greatfully received!