the end of my marriage

[islander]

hi jack!

I feel so sad hearing this news! But then, part of me is also happy to know that finally your burdens have ended coz a nice person like you don't deserve HIM OR THIS KIND OF TREATMENT!

I'm actually proud of you coz you've managed to handle this situation in the most positive way... if it would happen to me, I don't know If I would survive, hehehe!

anyway, BE STRONG ALWAYS & WALK WITH HEAD UP HIGH!

[allyn]

This is just a update of my started thread and the end of it....

may 2 SUNDAY,
i hold on to my breath and went to my old flat to get the rest of my things and somehow i was hoping to talk to my ex husband, (coz i have to admit i was hoping to the last minute that he will change his mind and he will realize the pain he cause to me, but i was wrong)
As i hope, i got a chance to talk to him but our conversation became an argument.
He told me that his family think that im only after their family inheritance, and i flamed up the moment i heard the accusation... my ex husband, tried to calm me down and told me to just start to talk to his family so that they will stop thinking bad about me... our argument continue to the point that he tried to brake my phone... when we went to the kitchen and we are still arguing, i look at the living room (coz the door of our kitchen is in front of the door of the living room) i saw my ex-brother inlaw girl friend sitting in the living room and she roll her eyes on me... when i told my ex-husband what she did, he just told me she will not going to do such thing then my ex-husband told me again to just talk to them, (don’t know what runs to my head on that time but i just did what he told me to do) i went to the living room to talk to them, and my ex-husband followed me... i saw my ex brother inlaw on the other side of the living room and the girl friend in the other side, both of them are watching tv... my ex brother inlaw told me desame thing that my ex-husband said, that im just after their family inheritance and he said he is against me because im attacking his girl friend, and the moment i look at the girlfriend, she started shouting at me and calling me Psycho and rude to her and im jealous at her,,,, i tried to talk back then my ex-husband pull me and literally push me out of the flat, then he told im attacking the girl friend of his brother and he cant be with me coz i don’t get along with his family and then he close the door in my face...
I feel like a dog been kicked out in my own home by those people i let to stay in my flat...
(well i guess its not mine anymore, coz i have been kicked out at the 1st time then kicked out again for the 2nd time by my own husband in my own flat....)
And those family and my ex-husband, know that i worked hard for every penny that i spend, and never i ask nor depend on them financially since i get here in UK, ..
I didn’t cry the whole time when i was in the old flat, but when i was started walking back to my new flat my mum phoned and i burst out crying,,, and started shaking, and i almost cant breath...and the whole night, i cried and cried,,, coz everytime i tried to close my eyes, the whole situation just keeps on flashing in my head...went to work the next morning, and my office mate didn’t like what they saw on me , my boss sent me on the desame day to my gp, and then after a couple of days i attended counciling,,,
My bad emotional breakdown got me into trouble with work...coz i cant focus and just end up crying without me noticing im already crying.
Im glad some friends helped me move on...slowly but they divert my attention,,, also my friend doctor gave me partime job at night, and that help me financially and emotionally...
Im so thankfull to all my friends that help me out...you know who you are...and im so thankfull atleast even tho i have no family here i got friends who show lots of effort to show me and tell me im not alone
THANKS EVERY ONE,,, IM ON THE ROAD to RECOVERY.....

FIN

[KeithD]

Hi oh sweet one

[bornatbirth]

hey, your ex is a wimp and the family are apes, maybe he should try pushing someone else other than a filipina, im sure there many in the forum who can give him a slap

[aposhark]

When one door slams shut another door opens if you look for it, Allyn
Best of luck and stay positive

[PAT]

I'm really sad reading your threads allyn, hoping for a lasting happiness will come in your way soon.Keep on praying...

[Sim11UK]

I think all here admire your courage...Keep your head held high.

[simonline]

Admire you coz you're truly a Filipina with great strength.. keep strong and keep praying.. God is good and will never leave u.

[Alan]

So sorry to hear this Allyn. As has been said before - you have lots of people to talk to on here (and perhaps even meet!!) - myself included!! Never be alone - do not be afraid to PM, call, whatever - we are here for you!

Al.

[pennybarry]

Good show! You are getting brave now and can answer them back!


Stay being a good daughter to your mom and be very careful to your next relationship.

Goodluck!

[gWaPito]

Admire you coz you're truly a Filipina with great strength.. keep strong and keep praying.. God is good and will never leave u.

My sentiments exactly.

You will be a stronger and wiser person for this experience.
So keep your head up and walk tall!!! You have done nothing wrong.

[gWaPito]

Admire you coz you're truly a Filipina with great strength.. keep strong and keep praying.. God is good and will never leave u.

My sentiments exactly

[badrock]

so very sorry that it didn,t work out for you but you have many friends here who can and will help you through the tough times ahead....it,s not the end but the start of a new life.

[CityHunter]

Hi, allyn Let me share to you some advice I've given over the years to folks that faced a situation like yours. He he, although I am a feng shui consultant by trade I actually wear a lot of different hats when people come to me for advice.

It is indeed sad that your marriage didn't work out. Yet, let this experience not make you lose interest in love, in trusting again your heart and most of all not to make your heart turn cold against Him.

It is indeed depressing that folks that you considered as family see you as someone just out for their money. I for one go with those who advised you to move on. Time will heal that wound and maybe this will be a turning point in your life towards marked success.

Per professional experience, people who undergo such an event in life can either become wrecks or heroes. The choice is yours.

Take note that life is a cycle of changes. If you know the tai chi symbol (its that black and white circle in the South Korean flag) it demonstrates that in every success there is that possibility of failure which is why the white field has a black spot. That in failure there is always that chance towards success - why the black field has a white dot.

Focus yourself first in making yourself strong again and search for that direction that will take you to success. Forget for the meantime your ex- and his family. Don't communicate with them not unless you have someone there whom you have been really close and knows who you really are.

Should you require a different kind of input to help you find what path to take feel free to drop me a note. I'll gladly do a life chart reading for you for free. I'll be needing your exact birthday, birth time and birthplace though to give an accurate reading.

Be strong. Not just because you are a Filipina but because you can become something which everyone can truly be proud of.

[Sophie]

im not going to illaborate what happen,,,
all i can say we are now seperated,
and he doesnt want me anymore...and he expect me to be calm and happy...
no husband... no home... and i should be calm and happy...
Life couldnt get any better...

thats the end of my long long long painful marriage
still painful tho,,,just hope this pain will go away soon...just hope

Hi allyn, sorry about your marriage not working out the way you had hoped. You tried everything you can so don't be too hard on yourself. People say we choose our battle and i don't think your battle is worth fighting for. There's 2 of you in that marriage but you seem to be fighting for it alone. So consider yourself lucky that you did not end up getting stucked in a long painful marriage for the rest of your life. Now you have a second chance to be happy and to find someone who will love you enough to fight for you....and no doubt you will be wiser and better on your choices next time Cheer up, the best is yet to come

[somebody]

Hi Allyn,

Your doing the right thing and like others have said far better than I we are all here wishing you the best for your future. I know things will get better if there is anything we can do as a group let us know and we will try to assit you maam

[scottishbride]

Sorry to hear about your Marriage did not work out... But hey you got loads of friends here.. It is not the end of the world girl Cheer up.. I have been to that.. My ex was irresponsible etc. etc and what's worst was...I found out he was alredy married when he marry me! great! You have to move on girl... and I am sure you will find someone who deserve your love.. I have found someone and now were married and been together for 5 years.. God have plans for you..

[-sillybilly-]

Hi!
I am actually new to this forum. But just want to let you know that ive been through the same as yours. But it was with my Filipino ex-husband and it involves the third party when i was there in the UK, imagine me being kicked out from my house infront of his woman?Age 27 and brand new in the UK...i dont wonna mention it again as its now pointless. Whats the most important thing is that you are moving on. Be proud of yourself that you've got through it and it will make you stronger. Trust me coz it did to me. Give time for yourself...treat yourself! Bring back the smile in your face...and remember it wasnt your loss...its his!
He doesnt deserve those tears....so c'mon chin up!
Trust me he will never find someone like you....and he will regret all his life for what he did to you even in his last breath....
God Bless!

[-sillybilly-]

and hey! the show must go on!
make your momma proud....hehe!
i remember what my mum said....."thats my girl!" right on my wedding day and
that burst me into tears!
You move on girl and when you look back....you'd be thankful for what it has
made you now.
Prayers help. Big time!
owyt?
u take care girl..theres a lot of people who cares and loves you!