Depression???

[South-east boy]

Tim maybe its your trying to hard? I think we all know how things happen when least expected..

Having been single but not single this last 3 week while the Missus in Phill and when out with mates found far more opptunties to possibly "pull" if i had wanted to as did most of the others in the group who were in long term happy relationships than those who were looking!!! I'm guessing its the old not trying to hard thingy occuring

Yeah, I've heard the trying too hard thing before, but what else can I do? As I've mentioned before, I only work with a few older people and in an office on my own on a floor on my own, my best mate is mostly doing shift-work and when he's not he either doesn't want to go out to the type of places where you might meet someone or doesn't want to do what I want to do. Most other mates are in couples and live in different areas, so it's really hard for me to meet girls. If I was younger, then, it wouldn't bother me so much, but the older I get, the harder it is getting to meet someone and I'm already over-the-hill for most women, especially ones in this country.

I always least expect it and it still never happens. Even if anything starts and looks promising, I never get too excited as it's always gone wrong before and I'm trying to prevent myself from getting hurt even more if I get a bit too carried away with it. Just seems that the big man up there has it in for me with relationships!

[Arthur Little]

Yeah, I've heard the trying too hard thing before, but what else can I do? As I've mentioned before, I only work with a few older people and in an office on my own on a floor on my own, my best mate is mostly doing shift-work and when he's not he either doesn't want to go out to the type of places where you might meet someone or doesn't want to do what I want to do. Most other mates are in couples and live in different areas, so it's really hard for me to meet girls. If I was younger, then, it wouldn't bother me so much, but the older I get, the harder it is getting to meet someone and I'm already over-the-hill for most women, especially ones in this country.

I always least expect it and it still never happens. Even if anything starts and looks promising, I never get too excited as it's always gone wrong before and I'm trying to prevent myself from getting hurt even more if I get a bit too carried away with it. Just seems that the big man up there has it in for me with relationships!

I also have a great deal of empathy for YOU too, Tim. Many's the time, I've found MYSELF uttering the words, "Why ME, God? ... WHY me?" - not always in affairs of the , I have to say, but in innumerable other situations besides. Trouble is, you see, all too often I simply cannot fathom what makes things go awry ... when I know I have done my best to guard against such misfortunes. I really DON'T know what to suggest to someone in your position, my friend. All I CAN say is, I wish you all the luck in the world ... it's long overdue!