im in philippines now :):)

[\\\\ToNy////]

What are you doing with Tony's GF's dog?

the dog has been trying to give it to me ill try slipping my meat under the table for the dog next time

[jimeve]

the dog has been trying to give it to me ill try slipping my meat under the table for the dog next time

sounds a bit weird to me that Tony.

[bornatbirth]

the dog has been trying to give it to me ill try slipping my meat under the table for the dog next time

try making love to your gf

[fred]

Yeah,I wouldn't be slipping my meat under the table to just any old dog Tony..Specially when you GF is eating.
Stick it in a doggy bag and do it later.

[Kukupops]

Hey Tony, do u fancy coming to our wedding on the 18th? Its in Cabanatuan. Of course you're welcome to bring your gf, but not the whole family .....
I'll ask Leah to ask the Boss how to give you my contact no. cos we're both newbies

[Kukupops]

Oh pardon me...It's only me who's the newbie

[KeithD]

Oh pardon me...It's only me who's the newbie

Yeah... you're other half has been abusing the forum for yonks

[joebloggs]

Hey Tony, do u fancy coming to our wedding on the 18th? Its in Cabanatuan. Of course you're welcome to bring your gf, but not the whole family .....
I'll ask Leah to ask the Boss how to give you my contact no. cos we're both newbies

your wedding you've been on here for near 3 yrs

where have you been newbie

[KeithD]

your wedding you've been on here for near 3 yrs

where have you been newbie

...trying to figure out how to get big plug in little tight hole

[triple5]

...trying to figure out how to get big plug in little tight hole

[keithAngel]

...trying to figure out how to get big plug in little tight hole

I believe medical assistance will be on hand

[LEAHnew]

Yeah... you're other half has been abusing the forum for yonks

your wedding you've been on here for near 3 yrs

where have you been newbie

He is newey newbie

...trying to figure out how to get big plug in little tight hole

translation please I need Doc Alan to explain this matter

I believe medical assistance will be on hand

[scott&ligaya]

Hi Chris and Leah, congratulations in advance for Wednesday, woooohoooooo at last you guys got there.
Ligaya and the babies are back in Puerto Princessa now so if you fancy dropping by she would be very happy to see you both. When you get back give me a call

[RickyR]

Tony,
I'm going to be completely honest and blunt with you here, and say something which many people on here are probably thinking, although some may disagree with. I very much doubt you'll listen, but I'll say it anyway.

Firstly, I think you've taken a big risk travelling to the Philippines on such a low budget. You haven't allowed any leeway for emergencies, flight delays or health issues. Firstly, and most important, ensure that you have the 750 PHP departure tax, YOU WILL NEED this at the airport when you leave. If you don't have this, you could find yourself in very serious trouble, and remember the laws, civil rights and the way the Philippines police treat these situations is very different to the UK, and a jobsworth who wants to make himself look big by being hard with the Foreigner could put you a very precarious situation.
Secondly, if you have not done so yet, YOU MUST register with the Foreign Office on http://www.fco.gov.uk/en/travel-and-...ng-safe/Locate .
Thirdly, I would highly recommend that you leave you travel details, current address and plans with your family or friends in the UK, if you haven't done so as yet.

Now, for the honest part, I seriously believe you should take some time to consider that your girlfriend is using/scamming you for a UK visa. From some of your posts, I would really suggest that you proceed with caution and some suspicion. If any of the forum members here are inviting you to meet up with them, I would recommend that too and bring along your missus, they will probably be able to give you a lot of good advice.
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I think someone has to be honest with you.

Be aware that the UK is still having issues with the ash cloud affecting flights into and out of the UK, and should you find yourself delayed at Manila Airport or in Dubai, you may not get as much support as you'd expect and will probably need some money.

[joebloggs]

I hope he listens to you Ricky, i doubt it thou,

getting married and hes only met the girl for a couple of weeks on his first trip, and whos idea Tony is it to get married on this first trip ?

it all seems very rushed to me

[triple5]

Never understood guys who marry on the first trip I know it's costly going and back forth a lot, but it's a decision you could regret for a long time if you don't take your time to properly know her. How are you affording the wedding Tony? Ricky's right in what he says, but only you can make the decision if she's genuine or not. Tell her you love it so much in the Philippines that you want to come here rather than bring her to the UK. See what reaction you get. Might give you a clue

[Sim11UK]

Some good advice above, though I think Tony seems resigned to his fate.

It amazes me too, when people rush to get married? (I've often said it on here & probably offended a couple of people, who as far as I know don't post on here anymore)...You need several, fairly frequent trips out there.
I got married on the 4th trip...I don't have any money, but I made it. Some seem to want to marry, as soon as someone shows a bit of interest in them.

[DaveUK]

Some good advice above, though I think Tony seems resigned to his fate.

It amazes me too, when people rush to get married? (I've often said it on here & probably offended a couple of people, who as far as I know don't post on here anymore)...You need several, fairly frequent trips out there.
I got married on the 4th trip...I don't have any money, but I made it. Some seem to want to marry, as soon as someone shows a bit of interest in them.

I was the same as you Sim. Myself and Yam were married on the 4th trip. The fact that the time I spent in the Phils on that 4th trip came close to doubling the amount of time we'd actually spent in each other's company did cross my mind.

Don't get me wrong, never at any point did I think we shouldn't be getting married, but I do wonder what must go through the minds of the guys who plan on marrying on the first visit to see their woman!

Of course, as those of us in a relationship know, that time apart leaves a LOT of time for talking and getting to know each other, but spending 24/7 together for 2+ weeks definitely helps to give a little better insight into whether or not you really are compatible. How I've blagged it this far though, I'll never know!

[IainBusby]

Never understood guys who marry on the first trip

I agree, I married on the second trip and between the first and second trip there was an eight month gap with almost daily communication on yahoo messenger and texts etc. I think it would be easy to get swept along into getting married when your actually there, but I think it would be much better for Tony to come home, communicate online for a while and reflect on the whole idea of marriage and especially if this girl and himself are really compatible.

[IainBusby]

to be honest im tired of the constant eating here, i ate as much as i could at breakfast then 90 mins later it was eating time again, and when we went to the mall last night(ne pacific mall) i ate as much as i could to keep my missus happy and when we got home 30 mins later it was rice time again grrrrrr, i said to her im not hungry ive just ate as much as i can at the mall, this upset her then upset me and when i cry you would expect her to hug me, but no, she say she hated me and will kill me

hope my missus starts talking to me again hehehe

I really think he should wait and get to know her better if she's doing tampos already and they've only known each other such a short time, what will she be like when they're married.

[South-east boy]

I really think he should wait and get to know her better if she's doing tampos already and they've only known each other such a short time, what will she be like when they're married.

Yes, sounds slightly immature behaviour to me and would certainly put me off them! From what I've read it seems like the wedding was planned before he even went and had met her. How much contact have you had with her before meeting her Tony? As I mentioned before, the longer time you have spent in contact together and in person, the better the chance of the visa being granted. If you haven't had any or much contact before + getting married at the first time of meeting, these will arouse suspisions and will not help in having a visa granted.

[stevewool]

its hard to explain this marriage thing as long as the 2 people are happy and are wanting the best for each other then who cares, me and emma started talking getting on for 3 years now planning the future and my first visit was last xmas , i know emma is the one for me but was a little frightened of commiting again and again,but onec she comes here we shall marry and live here for a few more years before going back to the phils to retire

[triple5]

I don't know if this is true of all Filipinas and their families, I'm just going off my 2 experiences with girlfriends here. The first one obviously wanted to get married asap, and had a major strop the last day because I hadn't proposed. Her and her family went completely overboard to make me feel at home and welcome. This time, I get the impression my gfs family are a bit wary of me if anything, just curious of my intentions I guess. I think they're warming to me more now they can see how serious I am about their daughter

I know most filipinos are naturally friendly, but with the first experience it was definitely OTT and all for the benefit of getting their daughter/sister married off to a foreigner. I'm not saying any guy who goes over and meets a friendly family is being sucked up to for that reason. I'd just be a bit suspicious myself if I went through that again.

[maria_and_matt]

I don't know if this is true of all Filipinas and their families, I'm just going off my 2 experiences with girlfriends here. The first one obviously wanted to get married asap, and had a major strop the last day because I hadn't proposed. Her and her family went completely overboard to make me feel at home and welcome. This time, I get the impression my gfs family are a bit wary of me if anything, just curious of my intentions I guess. I think they're warming to me more now they can see how serious I am about their daughter

I know most filipinos are naturally friendly, but with the first experience it was definitely OTT and all for the benefit of getting their daughter/sister married off to a foreigner. I'm not saying any guy who goes over and meets a friendly family is being sucked up to for that reason. I'd just be a bit suspicious myself if I went through that again.

filipino hospitality seem OTT to foreigners. my parents was very accommodating to past bfs filipino or my ex brit hubby. i tell you from my experience that filipino parents dont show hospitality to 'marry off' their daughters to foreigners. when i eventually married my brit bf my father told me that letting me go is the hardest thing he has ever done in his life. no parent wants their daughter to go off to a foreign land into the 'unknown'.

[South-east boy]

But after what happened with Suzie after Christmas where she just disappeared and it turned out that this Danish 'stranger' friend of her friends husband had gone to seen her, had stayed with the family, had proposed at the end with her proclaiming that she had met the love of her life after knowing him only a few days!), it does seem that a lot of Filipinas & their familes do expect their foreign bf to propose before going home at the first time of meeting and I guess it could be easy to fall to the pressure if you don't stand up for yourself + also get carried along with the whole thing without standing back & thinking clearly.

[RickyR]

I don't want anyone reading this thread to think we're all sceptical and stereotyping all Filipinas. With a population of 92,000,000 you couldn't do that. In my experience the country is a wonderful place, with a wide variety of people of differing backgrounds, cultures, education and values; as you'd expect from any country.
However what I think everyone is trying to say, some of the dating sites, and some of the foreigner/fil situations do entice the wrong kind of people from both sides who are maybe not exactly looking for love. Some of them are families looking for an escape and a better life through marrying a beautiful daughter away, and on the flip side it's a men looking to selfishly take advantage of another culture. Thus, it is prudent to go in with your eyes open and take your time getting to know the person you may spend the rest of your life with.
There are unscrupulous people everywhere in the world, so Tony, if you reading this, proceed with caution, before you enter into a situation you will come to regret.

[triple5]

filipino hospitality seem OTT to foreigners. my parents was very accommodating to past bfs filipino or my ex brit hubby. i tell you from my experience that filipino parents dont show hospitality to 'marry off' their daughters to foreigners. when i eventually married my brit bf my father told me that letting me go is the hardest thing he has ever done in his life. no parent wants their daughter to go off to a foreign land into the 'unknown'.

I disagree, there's many here who are happy for their daughters to go abroad if it means money being sent back. I did say it was from my own experience, and there's no doubt in my mind they were sucking up because they thought there might be a cash cow in it for them. But don't get me wrong, I don't think all Filipino hospitality is something to be suspicious of. Far from it.

You're right Tim, a lot of them would build an alter in the arrivals lounge if they could

[triple5]

filipino hospitality seem OTT to foreigners. my parents was very accommodating to past bfs filipino or my ex brit hubby. i tell you from my experience that filipino parents dont show hospitality to 'marry off' their daughters to foreigners. when i eventually married my brit bf my father told me that letting me go is the hardest thing he has ever done in his life. no parent wants their daughter to go off to a foreign land into the 'unknown'.

I disagree, there's many here who are happy for their daughters to go abroad if it means money being sent back. I did say it was from my own experience, and there's no doubt in my mind they were sucking up because they thought there might be a cash cow in it for them. But don't get me wrong, I don't think all Filipino hospitality is something to be suspicious of. Far from it.

You're right Tim, a lot of them would build an alter in the arrivals lounge if they could

[KeithD]

...it does seem that a lot of Filipinas & their familes do expect their foreign bf to propose before going home at the first time of meeting....

Surely if you've been talking to the girl online for months, and you travel 8000 miles the only intention is eventually marriage. If you are only looking at it as a trial, or you're not sure, look for someone more local... like the pub.

[maria_and_matt]

I disagree, there's many here who are happy for their daughters to go abroad if it means money being sent back. I did say it was from my own experience, and there's no doubt in my mind they were sucking up because they thought there might be a cash cow in it for them. But don't get me wrong, I don't think all Filipino hospitality is something to be suspicious of. Far from it.

You're right Tim, a lot of them would build an alter in the arrivals lounge if they could

and i also said speaking from MY experience... my parents were never happy that i married a foreigner.