Joe, my now wife explained to you that his exwife was still here in the UK and was worried that it would affect the visa application.
She then went into the history of that failed marriage, and it was said to her 'who says he won't do the same to you in a few months down the line' or words to that affect. The history is there to see what was said and it was hurtful Joe It wasn't only you who said it, many others jumped on the band wagon and it was wrong, anyway we have made it, Jane is here working full time in the same company as me so everyone is happy.
Joe you proberly didn't realised what you said was hurtful and neither did your followers, it was. When you have some time, you have a read. Its over now like I said and I am from the south so what do you expect!!