young filipinas old foriegners

[RickyR]

OK, I don't really understand everything Ras says, seems a bit gibberish, but nevermind. Anyway to try and approach his original subject. I asked the same question when I first joined, and having been a member for a while I think i've started to understand the situation a bit more.
I personally am a younger guy, and have an older missus from the Philippines ( 8 years older). We're happy, we met the conventional way, flirting, dating and so on and despite the age difference it works for us. I personally find the younger Filipina's, whilst nice, too immature.
Now as for the older guy, filipina girl situation. I don't think a lot of the men go out particularly looking for a younger woman. I think it's more a supply and demand situation. A lot of the relationships start via the internet, and the dating sites tend to attract older guys. Younger guys really have very little reason to go looking abroad for women, when it's so easy to pick someone up in a nightclub.
The older guys, often are divorced, and are looking for a particular kind of relationship and seem to be drawn for there own reasons to looking through Filipina Dating websites. I really don't think they go looking for someone younger, it's something that just happens because a lot of the women on the dating websites are younger. It's an innocent situation, and I really don't believe their is an malice or perverted intentions in these website (or if it is, its a minority). Age is only a barrier if you choose to make it a barrier.
A lot of the Filipina's go onto these websites looking for a better life, and I don't think that those people are too bothered about the age of the person. The girls in the Philippines that are bothered, I very much doubt would take the time to seriously register with the dating websites.


Now as for the Philippines itself, and many S.E Asian countries, they do attract their fair share of perverts, who probably wouldn't survive living the same life in the UK. As for these, they are generally pretty different people to those that post on this website (well, thats the opinion i've formed over time). They stand out like a sore thumb in these places, and I think you're less likely to notice the younger guys with the Filipinas because of that.

[gWaPito]

OK, I don't really understand everything Ras says, seems a bit gibberish, but nevermind. Anyway to try and approach his original subject. I asked the same question when I first joined, and having been a member for a while I think i've started to understand the situation a bit more.
I personally am a younger guy, and have an older missus from the Philippines ( 8 years older). We're happy, we met the conventional way, flirting, dating and so on and despite the age difference it works for us. I personally find the younger Filipina's, whilst nice, too immature.
Now as for the older guy, filipina girl situation. I don't think a lot of the men go out particularly looking for a younger woman. I think it's more a supply and demand situation. A lot of the relationships start via the internet, and the dating sites tend to attract older guys. Younger guys really have very little reason to go looking abroad for women, when it's so easy to pick someone up in a nightclub.
The older guys, often are divorced, and are looking for a particular kind of relationship and seem to be drawn for there own reasons to looking through Filipina Dating websites. I really don't think they go looking for someone younger, it's something that just happens because a lot of the women on the dating websites are younger. It's an innocent situation, and I really don't believe their is an malice or perverted intentions in these website (or if it is, its a minority). Age is only a barrier if you choose to make it a barrier.
A lot of the Filipina's go onto these websites looking for a better life, and I don't think that those people are too bothered about the age of the person. The girls in the Philippines that are bothered, I very much doubt would take the time to seriously register with the dating websites.


Now as for the Philippines itself, and many S.E Asian countries, they do attract their fair share of perverts, who probably wouldn't survive living the same life in the UK. As for these, they are generally pretty different people to those that post on this website (well, thats the opinion i've formed over time). They stand out like a sore thumb in these places, and I think you're less likely to notice the younger guys with the Filipinas because of that.

Ricky, another thought provoking post.
I agree, when you are a young guy it is much easier to go to a club etc but, when you hit that middle age it's not that simple and us middle aged are typed casted which is wrong. For me and my wife the internet came along at the right time, without it, we would never of found eachother.
Ricky, you are 25 yrs young a very wise young man. I'm sure you will do well in life. Looking forward to more of your posts

[South-east boy]

OK, I don't really understand everything Ras says, seems a bit gibberish, but nevermind. Anyway to try and approach his original subject. I asked the same question when I first joined, and having been a member for a while I think i've started to understand the situation a bit more.
I personally am a younger guy, and have an older missus from the Philippines ( 8 years older). We're happy, we met the conventional way, flirting, dating and so on and despite the age difference it works for us. I personally find the younger Filipina's, whilst nice, too immature.
Now as for the older guy, filipina girl situation. I don't think a lot of the men go out particularly looking for a younger woman. I think it's more a supply and demand situation. A lot of the relationships start via the internet, and the dating sites tend to attract older guys. Younger guys really have very little reason to go looking abroad for women, when it's so easy to pick someone up in a nightclub.

The older guys, often are divorced, and are looking for a particular kind of relationship and seem to be drawn for there own reasons to looking through Filipina Dating websites. I really don't think they go looking for someone younger, it's something that just happens because a lot of the women on the dating websites are younger. It's an innocent situation, and I really don't believe their is an
malice or perverted intentions in these website (or if it is, its a minority). Age is only a barrier if you choose to make it a barrier.

A lot of the Filipina's go onto these websites looking for a better life, and I don't think that those people are too bothered about the age of the person. The girls in the Philippines that are bothered, I very much doubt would take the time to seriously register with the dating websites.

Now as for the Philippines itself, and many S.E Asian countries, they do attract their fair share of perverts, who probably wouldn't survive living the same life in the UK. As for these, they are generally pretty different people to those that post on this website (well, thats the opinion i've formed over time). They stand out like a sore thumb in these places, and I think you're less likely to notice the younger guys with the Filipinas because of that.

I agree with that, good post. While the age of someone that I've been looking for has been ideally late 20's to late 30's, I have had quite a few messages from girls as young as 18. The most common age of girls on one of the websites is 22-23. There is nowhere near as many girls on the sites aged 30+. I guess both of those facts are as mostly Filipinas tend to marry younger than they do here (I guess like it used to be like in UK in years past) and also a lot if women here concentrate on their careers first and as we know that isn't easy for a lot of Filipinas because of the high unemployment/difficulty in finding jobs there.

I do think that relationships between Filipinas aged 25+ and older guys will have less problems than younger Filipinas in their late teens/early 20's and a guy with the same age difference, mainly due to their immaturity and inexperience in life and relationships. Of course everyone is different and some girls in their late teens are very responsible and mature for their age.

I guess a lot of people here can't understand and have certain opinions as in general the age difference here is the same age to just a few years older, so something that is different seems strange to them. The guy being younger than the woman tends to work better as women in general prefer a guy who is a bit more mature and wordly-wise as guys mostly mature later. Also if you meet when you're a bit older and want kids, it works better with the guy being older too.

I have found that now I'm over 40 with British women on dating sites, I rarely have any interest from any younger than late 30's and a lot of them already have kids & don't want anymore. I even see that with women in their late 20's and early 30's.

I think marriages for us with Filipinas stand a better chance or working as they in general they are less demanding and not so bothered with certain material things. But mainly though, they work harder at the marriage & family life where a lot of British women will through in the towel during a problem period or start to see someone else. Of course there are guys who are just the same! It's sad to see so many broken homes nowadays compared to the past and it makes you wonder if some of the relationships could have been saved with a bit more effort in making it work and trying to sort out what the problems were.

I shall end this essay now!

[joebloggs]

! It's sad to see so many broken homes nowadays compared to the past and it makes you wonder if some of the realationships could have been saved with a bit more effort in making it work.

maybe these days people will not just put up with the and get out,,
1 in 3 marriages might end in divorce, but many of them are happliy remarried, even some to the same partner

[stevewool]

wow one of the best reading so far so many lafs?? thats my london talk , my emma is 34 and i am 51 and we are so happy

[joebloggs]

wow one of the best reading so far so many lafs?? thats my london talk , my emma is 34 and i am 51 and we are so happy

thats all that matters, anyone doesn't like it, its their problem not yours

[gWaPito]

True South east boy, My Mum and Dad were married 63years and most of them were unhappy for my Mum but, there was 6 of us kids and she stood by us all.
It wasn't until my Dad retired that things changed for the better for her. Was she right or wrong to stay all those unhappy years, me thinks not ( oh sorry this london talk is rubbing off).
Dad was a good man, he didn't beat any of us but, he did drink, gamble and liked the women.
I do remember one night while 'Family at war' was on the TV and Mum found at packet of butterscotch angel delight. It was shared between 5 of us because Dawn, my sister was watching 'That'll be the day' with David Essex at the pictures and Dad was sowing his seeds...oh happy days
We all loved him anywayz

[sparky]

have to agree with you here SE boy
for a guy in his 40's i think a late 20's early 30's filipino lady is a far better bet than a younger girl for a successful relationship- the only difficulty could be kids etc depending on each individuals point of view

i guess mine and myrnas case is a bit unusual in that me at 44 and Myrna at 31 are both without kids so we can start our married life without prior baggage ( i know kids aint baggage but you know what i mean )- well start our married life when the bleeding embassy get thier finger out and sort her visa

[gWaPito]

have to agree with you here SE boy
for a guy in his 40's i think a late 20's early 30's filipino lady is a far better bet than a younger girl for a successful relationship- the only difficulty could be kids etc depending on each individuals point of view

i guess mine and myrnas case is a bit unusual in that me at 44 and Myrna at 31 are both without kids so we can start our married life without prior baggage ( i know kids aint baggage but you know what i mean )- well start our married life when the bleeding embassy get thier finger out and sort her visa

Hi Sparky, I'm sure yours will come through anyday now, so don't worry, you will have bigger hurdles to jump later!
as for children, you are right, 'you have not got that additional baggage' and I add, the additional cost as others will point out. If I remember correctly, it was 75,000 for Jane and it would of been 75,000 for each child as well as flights etc etc The mind boggles!!.
I would give my high teeth for a gaggle of them, thats for sure. We are in the process so, will keep you all informed

[Arthur Little]

i guess mine and myrnas case is a bit unusual in that me at 44 and Myrna at 31 are both without kids so we can start our married life without prior baggage ( i know kids aint baggage but you know what i mean )- well start our married life when the bleeding embassy get thier finger out and sort her visa

Roughly the same age difference as exists between US ... I'm 65 and Myrna, 51. Again, we'd no previous "baggage" - both of us being widowed. Which is WHY, while in one respect, I'm surprised that the Embassy APPEARS to be "dragging its heels" with your visa application, I would surmise that the delay has been caused by a backlog arising from March to September being the busiest time of year for submissions [as I seem to remember reading on here recently]. Added to this, is the fact that Manila now handles requests from a substantial part of South East Asia ... whereas WE applied in January 2009 - a much "quieter" period - before the current 'system' came into effect.

But rest assured, Myrna WILL be granted her visa ... there's no earthly reason to suppose otherwise!

[stevewool]

fingers crossed for you two

[stevewool]

sparky and myrnas i ment too