we all cause upset but like youi think , better being out in the open and up front with things it only eats you up inside if you dont say what you mean, emma i thought was a little lazy being at home not working, but she was doing lots looking after her sisters children being ther for them in other words had no time for work ,seeemed to me she was to busy for her sister then herself , i did get on to her about work and its only the last year that she as tried, there way of work cost money up front it seems, do you mind me asking , you have just come back from there and you are going again soon how long do you stay for each time