I completely agree with you Sim, and I have told her that I will still support her as I know the pay in the Phil's is poor, and then there are the other pressures that family put on each other to help and support.Originally Posted by Sim11UK
Think if you are serious, you have to forget some of these thoughts, we may have all had.
It's not that easy to get a decent paying job & yes you will probably have to pay out first.system.
My wife is working now part-time & she's paid a pittance. Wont keep her in food, let alone pay for all her living expenses & she lives a simple life...So forget about being able to save, as I think you mentioned in a previous post.
You'll probably still have to support her financially.
All I have said to her is that I have been supporting her, quite generously by Filipino standards for long enough, and she shouldn't rely on it. If she is serious about me and eventually coming to the UK one day she has got to show willing and commitment by at least getting a job and trying to help herself.
Of course I realise that I am a rich westerner in her eyes, and probably make more in a day than she can earn a month, and as such I am quite happy to pay the lions share.
However, I am not the welfare state, and effort has to be made on her part too. is that unfair?
