Quote Originally Posted by stevewool View Post
it seems you are giving lots but not getting what you think may be coming back , we so called men work so hard and if like me been burnt from my english wife so whats mine is mine, i dont mind giving so much away but it has to work back sometimes , i know emma has nothing to give in money but she has never asked for any eitherl, its a hard one englishman dont give and you feel rotten give and you feel used,is it time to walk away only you will know that, good luck
I have no plans to walk away Steve, I am confident that she is genuine, if she were only after my money, I feel sure she would have slacked with the communication a long time ago and would only get in touch when she wanted something. Far from it, she contacts me 4 or 5 times a week and chats on line with me for lenghty periods. I'm not looking at this with rose tinted specs, and I'm absolutely sure her love and affection is for real.
My issue isn't whether she is genuine, it's her previous lack of motivation to get a job. Being fair to her, she has tried hard over the last 3 weeks since I left the Phil's, and the reward for her effort is lots of job interviews last week and this week.
Of course I don't mind giving financial support, but as there is no good reason why she cannot get a job she has got to help herself too. I don't expect anything monetary wise back in return, I don't need it, I can provide for myself very comfortably.
I hope I've properly explained what I mean?

Yes, I've been burned financially by an ex too, so look at things with my eyes firmly open now, and have learned to question far more than I did in the past, even if it means causing the occasional bit of upset.