Quote Originally Posted by stevewool View Post
we all cause upset but like youi think , better being out in the open and up front with things it only eats you up inside if you dont say what you mean, emma i thought was a little lazy being at home not working, but she was doing lots looking after her sisters children being ther for them in other words had no time for work ,seeemed to me she was to busy for her sister then herself , i did get on to her about work and its only the last year that she as tried, there way of work cost money up front it seems, do you mind me asking , you have just come back from there and you are going again soon how long do you stay for each time
Sounds like your situation was very similar to mine Steve. Yes, she says she spends all day cooking, cleaning, doing the laundry, looking after grandma, nephews, nieces...etc. If I hadn't been there and visited her house, I probably wouldn't believe her. I think part of the problem living in the west is that we have labour saving devices that do many of the jobs they have to do manually, we also tend to have homes that require less hard work to keep clean.
I hope that my posts don't sound like I don't trust her, on the contrary, I'm merely getting some of my frustration off my chest.
In answer to your question, I try to get to see her every 3 or 4 months and usually go for approx 2 weeks. I've made 3 trips out to the Far East in the last 8 months and have 2 more planned between now and Dec/Jan. I really can't afford any more and can't take any more time off work. Fortunately, modern communications (wifi, laptop and a smart phone mean that I can still do some work out there, hence the reason why I can justify 4 x 2 week trips a year)