who do you think i am roger de courcey with nookie bear
who do you think i am roger de courcey with nookie bear
I saw him (maybe them, as the bear was with him ! ) at a stag do maybe 30 years ago. I could not believe how spontaneously crude he could be at the stag do, but then be able to switch it off, and not accidentally slip, when he was entertaining children.Originally Posted by stevewool
who do you think i am roger de courcey with nookie bear
I have been there and done it all. Bought 2 jeeps, set up and stocked sari sari stores, set and equiped a motor repair shop, paid for a niece to study nursing, provided fertilser for rice fields etc etc. It's all gone, every last peso. Some people just can't handle it so now we only send the basic amount for food and fuels and then go and buy things for them ourselves whilst there. That way we know the money gets spent on what is supposed to go on.
I know we have been unlucky but we are far from unusual as I have heard many similar stories. All I would say is be careful and if it feels wrong then almost certainly it is wrong. Don't send too much, as it will never be enough, and it can do more harm than good.
Well said that man
It's been emontional
Very wise words in my opinion.
... you mean "roger" with "nookie", John? Well,
I suppose you can't have one without the other!
If you are can I book you for my nephew's birthday party?
It's been emontional
hi there david house i tried to read your blog but could not get onto it the site is there another way
we all have opinions and thats good and a forum like this helps and gives good advice too , plus if you dont like what people say dont read it i say
Thank you, Steve ... well put!
Well said that man, I totally agree
nothing wrong with a bit of debating
as long as there is no
£500 a month+ seems alot to me for just your wife and one bb, but hey its your money
we use to send 30kphp a month that was to support at least 3 people, (2 at uni and my misses aunt)
everyone's circumstances are different, so you cant really compare, my misses aunt needs our help and were repaying her for looking after our little gal for 4yrs.
i knew of my misses commitments to her family b4 i married her, so as tough as it was sometimes, i've no regrets with us helping her family out.
i hate to think what i sent over many years, but its swings and round abouts, the misses nearly earns twice as much as me now in the UK
thankyou, my thoughts are pay my mortgage and others and then all the money i will be saving i can think about emmas family, it must be hard for people whos wife, partner is in the phils and they are here working , but we all have to live still
Also, as most of us are older than our wives, we have to think about providing for them not just for now, but we should be responsible and plan for our family's future as best as we can.
thats just what i was trying to say on another thread, yes when you are younger we all are going to live forever , but like you say we are older then our partners , i hate the thought of emma being here or back in the phils without a income or source of somekind,if we all take bits form here and there i am sure all our lives will be fine, funny its like we are one big happy family here to listen and try to give advice freely and with out charge , its the fillipino coming out of us all, think i spelt that wright
i think its all our dreams to be here some of the times and there other times too, when i was there at xmas i got talking to someone he spend 6 months there 6 months canada , now thats a great plan, its a dream but dreams do come true
Steve,
I don't want to get personal and ask you anything about your means of earning money, but is it not possible that you could also split your time between UK/Phils?
I know a lot of men who live in a similar way; they mostly have Thai wives or girlfriends because IMO Thailand has always been easier to get to than Phils.
I know the exchange rate is not particularly favourable at the moment, but we can only hope it will get better
ye- you would think there would be at least one carrier that goes direct these daysSteve,
I don't want to get personal and ask you anything about your means of earning money, but is it not possible that you could also split your time between UK/Phils?
I know a lot of men who live in a similar way; they mostly have Thai wives or girlfriends because IMO Thailand has always been easier to get to than Phils.
I know the exchange rate is not particularly favourable at the moment, but we can only hope it will get better
as to thai wives - experts at extracting money believe me- a lot worse/better (depending on your point of view) than their pinay cousins
not at this time , i came out of a bad divorce a few years ago left me with very little just enough for a deposit for my home and 2 kids in tow but working hard i am getting there, it was my kids telling to get a life that i found emma , my work is important to me and i am happy with the wage but i have to work not to live now but to live in the future, hopefully emma will be here soon then marry and if it works well then will be able too in a few years , its suprizing what you can do once you have been down, only one way and thats up
Pleasure is better after being down.
From my own experience, 2 of you can live reasonably comfortably on £100 a week...Food for thought...no air con though.
again each has a story to tell and as long as that person is happy with what they are doing then its fine, everyone is right in what they are saying some have lots some have little, its being happy and making your partner happy to
big family indeed, but all happy because we new no differance
Good point notasvirus but I guess our beloveds come from many diferent experiences and backgrounds some have simply handed over there pay to the patriarc and have no experience of budjeting plus the aforementioned gent may still expect to recieve even more dosh and put immense pressure not to mention other members of the family or even members of the medical profession who sense a good payday
It can be quite tricky to want the best and at the same time insist on reality being comprehended and limits observed after all you can only spend it once and as you know some things have a higher priority
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sorry Keith I have read your post a couple of times and I still do not understand what you are saying, am I missing something ? is it in code ? or am I just not that bright ?Good point notasvirus but I guess our beloveds come from many diferent experiences and backgrounds some have simply handed over there pay to the patriarc and have no experience of budjeting plus the aforementioned gent may still expect to recieve even more dosh and put immense pressure not to mention other members of the family or even members of the medical profession who sense a good payday
It can be quite tricky to want the best and at the same time insist on reality being comprehended and limits observed after all you can only spend it once and as you know some things have a higher priority
Sorry to be so obtuse the crux of my point is that if your lady has no idea of the relative differences between your income and expenditure costs in the UK (clearly not your experience) then she may be thinking along with the family a extra 10,000 here or there makes little difference especialy iof she has never run a household this can strain communication especialy when trying to sinc times with a terminaly slow and erratic net over there
its my view that the money spent by guys in a 2-3 week visit bears not to much connection generaly to their normal lives over here and if that is taken as the norm complications can arise.
As Joe says its easy to spend money you didnt earn especialy in a culture that doesnt often think or have the ability to save and if we go along with this without carefull thought we may have to deal with it as a bigger issue later on.
When Im in the Phils now I try to understand the local version and stop thinking its only a quid but rather its a third of a days wages like Fred It matters not a jot what anyone sends but others may like to understand the local economy and cultural pressures before stretching their resources to attempt to support a lifestyle that has no relationship to the vast majority in the Phils
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Well Said.Sorry to be so obtuse the crux of my point is that if your lady has no idea of the relative differences between your income and expenditure costs in the UK (clearly not your experience) then she may be thinking along with the family a extra 10,000 here or there makes little difference especialy iof she has never run a household this can strain communication especialy when trying to sinc times with a terminaly slow and erratic net over there
its my view that the money spent by guys in a 2-3 week visit bears not to much connection generaly to their normal lives over here and if that is taken as the norm complications can arise.
As Joe says its easy to spend money you didnt earn especialy in a culture that doesnt often think or have the ability to save and if we go along with this without carefull thought we may have to deal with it as a bigger issue later on.
When Im in the Phils now I try to understand the local version and stop thinking its only a quid but rather its a third of a days wages like Fred It matters not a jot what anyone sends but others may like to understand the local economy and cultural pressures before stretching their resources to attempt to support a lifestyle that has no relationship to the vast majority in the Phils
THE SPELLING maybe!
Gparry..
Believe it or not,I know the costs of babies milk as Im sent out on an errand to buy the stuff every week
The littln in our house is 6 months old now and we discovered about 3 months ago that she is allergic to Cows milk..So from 3 months onwards we have been buying her soya milk which is more expensive of course!! That comes to no more than 1000 Pesos per month.. She is a pretty small baby and and didn't have the greatest start in life as the nurses gave her only a 50/50 chance of survival after her mother died giving birth to her..
In regards her vaccines..She has had all her shots which were administered free of charge (the same as all kids here) at our local barangay health clinic.
Opposite our apartment building in Imus Cavite,there is a Filipino run apartment block...A two bedroom unit is 2,500 Pesos per month..Its inside a gated sub division.
No idea what it looks like on the inside but I would be happy to pass on the address to anyone interested..
The costs I provided above are the realistic and latest costs of what a Filipino can and will live on and are by no means set at a minimum.
Its all very well people living in England discussing endlessly how much to send,but I feel it only fair that they are made aware of base Filipino minimum wage living costs..They can make adjustments 10 fold from there if they so wish.
That of course is none of my business and as I said before I couldn't care less..
Cheers,
Fred.
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