I didn't know men had menstruation, but nothing shocks me anymoreOriginally Posted by bornatbirth
your quite right arthur, must be that time of the month or we all are coming into the forum after a argument with the gf/wife
I didn't know men had menstruation, but nothing shocks me anymoreyour quite right arthur
My excuse is, I have not been out running these last 4 days due to injury.your quite right arthur
Much happier today, I done a gentle 12k in 1 hour.
No more 'going off the deep end' gwapito
Like gentleman Arthur said, it takes all sorts to make a world
thanks arthur , mild mannared man indeed i am now i have my emma with me and all my mates on here giving advice and me making them happy too
so, how much have you decided to send emma
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
well all my mates great news 3 weeks ago we applied for our fiancee visa and today emma received a text , visa application ready for collection at eco, so heres praying , and what i send emma is what i can afford some months its £100 and then others its nothing, when i left her in jan i left £300 and this year another £1100 but thats for the visa and other things i allways ask is she ok for money and she allways have cash left too, she is very good a simple life and what i send her i know she borrows her sister or lends or gives her
Good luck with the visa Steve I do hope it is good news...and you are banned from starting new threads for one week
That's fantastic news, congratulations. I'm a bit behind on the news because I've been busy with work the last couple of evenings. (trying to earn some extra cash to send to the Phil's)
Seriously, I wish you and Emma all the best, and hope that you get her over with you very soon
Well good luck! to you Steve & Emma
I think it's been a great thread too...Maybe I should apologise, for my original outbursts, I'd just got back from working, tired & in a bad mood....BUT I know how much I need to send...simple as that.
Sorry Matt!!!! I meant Maria!
Maria,BTW...Who`s Matt?
fred matts my one and only son
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God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.
Im so glad I asked now!! Maria, Sorry about that!!...
no problem fred
God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.
I guess many filipina's reading this thread will be greatly offended.
quotes like 'I gave my old phone some credit'....'Don't give her too much, otherwise the family will expect more'....'I always question when she asks or implys she needs more money'
These ladies are your loved ones, not slaves or even worse, second class citizens, more lowly than you.
For the guys who have to keep questioning about money issues all the time, do you think you are ready for any relationship, let alone with a filipina.
My wife works full time here in the UK. She does not touch her money, it is saved every month, so I got a filipina that can save, is it that rare?
She does not send money home, mine or her's.
Her family can look after themselves, is it that rare?
I treat my wife with the same respect as she treats me, a partnership.
Ingredients for a everlasting relationship.
Come on boys, lets not tar all our filipina's with the same brush
so can my wifes, infact they are better off than meHer family can look after themselves, is it that rare?
Come on, lets not tar all with the same brush
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
Bornabirth, I was getting ready for some more flackso can my wifes, infact they are better off than me
Hey, Im glad to hear, Im not the exception
Don't really want anyone to take this personally, but this did cross my mind?... The just give her enough, for a cup of rice per day syndrome.
What I'd really be interested in now, is how much did people spend on their "2 week" holiday there?
I bet the majority, stayed in nice Hotels, Resorts, spending & eating well?
Just an observation, no offence meant.
exactly Sim. We can live 5 star for 3 weeks in the Phils, when I go home, you go back to your diveDon't really want anyone to take this personally, but this did cross my mind?... The just give her enough, for a cup of rice per day syndrome.
What I'd really be interested in now, is how much did people spend on their "2 week" holiday there?
I bet the majority, stayed in nice Hotels, Resorts, spending & eating well?
Just an observation, no offence meant.
My wife lived western stylie from the day we met.
I wasn't going to live the way I lived here and treat my wife differently
I did the best I could, like most on here.
You are too nice, Sim..you will get trampled under footDon't really want anyone to take this personally, but this did cross my mind?... The just give her enough, for a cup of rice per day syndrome.
What I'd really be interested in now, is how much did people spend on their "2 week" holiday there?
I bet the majority, stayed in nice Hotels, Resorts, spending & eating well?
Just an observation, no offence meant.
You are too nice, Sim..you will get trampled under footDon't really want anyone to take this personally, but this did cross my mind?... The just give her enough, for a cup of rice per day syndrome.
What I'd really be interested in now, is how much did people spend on their "2 week" holiday there?
I bet the majority, stayed in nice Hotels, Resorts, spending & eating well?
Just an observation, no offence meant.
The story of my lifeYou are too nice, Sim..you will get trampled under foot
Actually, my favourite trip was living in her Boarding House, when we got married. Just us 2 for most of the time. Living simply, for a couple of months. Buying grilled fish, on the way home & veg in the market etc. I want more of that.
How did you get inside the boarding houseThe story of my life
Actually, my favourite trip was living in her Boarding House, when we got married. Just us 2 for most of the time. Living simply, for a couple of months. Buying grilled fish, on the way home & veg in the market etc. I want more of that.
The same for Jane and I. We don't do 5 star out of choice. In our opinion there are much better ways to spend that money.The story of my life
Actually, my favourite trip was living in her Boarding House, when we got married. Just us 2 for most of the time. Living simply, for a couple of months. Buying grilled fish, on the way home & veg in the market etc. I want more of that.
The best holidays for us, is in Catundanes, no frills, very few westerners and the one that were, were couples from Holland Canada and Nottinghamshire It was our idea of bliss
Just a a bit of a post script, I have a lovely call from my Mahal tonight, and we were talking about her children. I have helped her to send her boys to a private school, which I am happy to do, but that is a different matter. But tonight she tells me that the younger lad is jealous of his older brother because he had new shoes for the start of the new school year. To help out I told her to buy her son a new pair of shoes to equal the situation and I would pay for them.
Sometimes, just the small gestures are the important ones. We just need to keep our loved ones happy at the end of the day. Thats all I wanted to add.
hi there steve r nice new picture and yes its the simple things in life that matter
well done gwapito!!!....never got offended personally as i know what my status is in life weather have or have not a foreigner husband but i feel sad and offended for the other filipina as this thread really is offensive in my point of view. you guys don't know how they prepare as well as their family to give you a nice welcome everytime you guys come round...even spent their last money just to have something to serve you on the table...and u guys moaning only for a bottle of red horse..I guess many filipina's reading this thread will be greatly offended.
quotes like 'I gave my old phone some credit'....'Don't give her too much, otherwise the family will expect more'....'I always question when she asks or implys she needs more money'
These ladies are your loved ones, not slaves or even worse, second class citizens, more lowly than you.
For the guys who have to keep questioning about money issues all the time, do you think you are ready for any relationship, let alone with a filipina.
My wife works full time here in the UK. She does not touch her money, it is saved every month, so I got a filipina that can save, is it that rare?
She does not send money home, mine or her's.
Her family can look after themselves, is it that rare?
I treat my wife with the same respect as she treats me, a partnership.
Ingredients for a everlasting relationship.
Come on boys, lets not tar all our filipina's with the same brush
I agree with you
''Don't be serious..Be Sincere''
I think there are some misunderstandings herewell done gwapito!!!....never got offended personally as i know what my status is in life weather have or have not a foreigner husband but i feel sad and offended for the other filipina as this thread really is offensive in my point of view. you guys don't know how they prepare as well as their family to give you a nice welcome everytime you guys come round...even spent their last money just to have something to serve you on the table...and u guys moaning only for a bottle of red horse..
Members here are at many diferent stages of relationships with Filipinas from wanting a relationship.to having just met someone on line .a recent visit.a girlfriend ....long term LDR..to recently married and so on.
Even amongst Filipinas wide diferences exist GParry although your post is thanking Gwapito his clearly says his wife saves HER money and neither send any back thats 100% diferent to your position and sugestion of norms.
Perhaps what should be said is its no bad thing to find out quickly about the Philipines local expenditure and make it clear what you position is in the relationship from early on .
Its not for example normal here to meet a lady become boyfriend / girl friend and start to support her or him from the start it might become so at some point the cautionary information here in this thread is because of personal experiences as well as accounts from ex-pats and guys who have been this route perhaps more than once
Im sure Filipinas here would believe a significant part of the online dating services are attracting less than moral folk of all genders that is in no way to sugest any one here is part of these groups but not to give due warning is less than kind.
If you know what you want to do and have 100% trust in your partner then you wouldnt be in need of any advice from here but if your just starting out a good understanding of how things are in the Fils can be invaluable
Good communication from the start is the key but misunderstandings occur easily both in language and culture and there are vastly diferent ranges of disposable income available as the membership here has demonstrated.
The fatted calf version you mention is not the only one available and many guys I know have had the experience of being treated with less than respect at least by our own cultural standards and were seen by the families as walking a,t,m,s having for example invited immediate family out for a meal and having 30 people turn up.
The other thing to consider if your lady doesnt come from a relatively well of family is how much pressure she may be put under to fund the family and how embarresed she may be
These dificult bits though can help to bring you together more quickley if handled from understanding rather than being in the dark
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Good post, KiethI think there are some misunderstandings here
Members here are at many diferent stages of relationships with Filipinas from wanting a relationship.to having just met someone on line .a recent visit.a girlfriend ....long term LDR..to recently married and so on.
Even amongst Filipinas wide diferences exist GParry although your post is thanking Gwapito his clearly says his wife saves HER money and neither send any back thats 100% diferent to your position and sugestion of norms.
Perhaps what should be said is its no bad thing to find out quickly about the Philipines local expenditure and make it clear what you position is in the relationship from early on .
Its not for example normal here to meet a lady become boyfriend / girl friend and start to support her or him from the start it might become so at some point the cautionary information here in this thread is because of personal experiences as well as accounts from ex-pats and guys who have been this route perhaps more than once
Im sure Filipinas here would believe a significant part of the online dating services are attracting less than moral folk of all genders that is in no way to sugest any one here is part of these groups but not to give due warning is less than kind.
If you know what you want to do and have 100% trust in your partner then you wouldnt be in need of any advice from here but if your just starting out a good understanding of how things are in the Fils can be invaluable
Good communication from the start is the key but misunderstandings occur easily both in language and culture and there are vastly diferent ranges of disposable income available as the membership here has demonstrated.
The fatted calf version you mention is not the only one available and many guys I know have had the experience of being treated with less than respect at least by our own cultural standards and were seen by the families as walking a,t,m,s having for example invited immediate family out for a meal and having 30 people turn up.
The other thing to consider if your lady doesnt come from a relatively well of family is how much pressure she may be put under to fund the family and how embarresed she may be
These dificult bits though can help to bring you together more quickley if handled from understanding rather than being in the dark
I think the point what gparry is making, is trust, or to be honest, the lack of trust.
You mention about doing a expenditure list
That is so demeaning, Kieth. I can't imagine saying that to my wife and I can imagine even thinking that
I have trusted my wife totally from the start. You can't go into a relationship thinking you will be riped off
It will never work, Kieth, sleeping with one eye open, checking your change etc etc.
The magic word is trust
Yes, Jane does save all her money and we don't send anything back. If Jane wanted to, she could, in fact Jane could do whatever she liked, I never question her, NEVER.
Do we know what the 'norm' is ?
I would love to see any stats on this.
I don't think that is quite right, and why wouldn't you want to know what you were funding??You mention about doing a expenditure list
That is so demeaning, Kieth. I can't imagine saying that to my wife and I can imagine even thinking that
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My Mahal may be going back to Phils if she does not get a continuation visa in Singapore, she is worried about that, so I said that I can help support her. So the very first thing you need t oknow is 'exactly' what the monthly expenditure is. Water, electric, gas, internet, food etc etc. Make a list, make sure you are happy to help cover the simple living costs. Of course you want to treat your lady as a princess, treat her to the nicer things in life, and if you can afford it, do it. But what I mean to say is that you have to budget, and not be an open wallet. I suppose it is a case of mutual respect.
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