what is tha avarage you send your partner if she is still in the phils and you are here in cash terms
what is tha avarage you send your partner if she is still in the phils and you are here in cash terms
We need more information to give u a figure steve
Is she living at home with her mum,or has she got her own place....is she renting...is she at school or taking further education..do u have children ..at they at school...?????
how much is she asking for??
and
how much do you love her??
''Don't be serious..Be Sincere''
emma does not ask for any amount at all i just send what i can when i can , emma lives with her sister and her nieces and nephews, and i will shout to the world i love her more each time we see each other
My Mahal also asks for nothing Steve, she says that her two sons are not my responsibility and does not want me to have to help her, she is very proud that she can support them. But, if she goes back to Phils when her visa runs out, I would help of course. She has her own lot and house, lives with Mother, Sister, her 2 sons 8 + 10 and a brother. She has sari-sari store. But how much would it take to support her??
If your sending all u can and your both happy with that then that should be good enuff..but,if your looking for actual figure in this circumstances a minimum of £200to help for food and other essentials like to buy a new pair of shoes every month.
''Don't be serious..Be Sincere''
I used to wire money via the bank which in itself is expensive but I think I used to send about 300quid / month. THis was back when the exchange rate was around the 100 to the pound mark. Ah those where the days
It's been emontional
well it seems i am not sending enough if the figures what is quoted here , you are very lucky steve with your partner working and has her own place too, sending just enough i think is ok myself, i have bills to pay and trying to pay my mortgage quicker as long as emma does not go without i will send what i ahve been doing for now,
Steve, a common misconception is that many think that we are high earners, with plenty of money to throw around. The fact that we have to save hard to make our trips to Phils and have spending money for the nice things, treats, gifts means nothing. I am in an average job, average money, like many here, I work hard for what I get. I know the majority of people in Phils are what we call poor, but it must be appreciated that we are not so 'rich' as we are made out to be.
I am fortunate I guess as I do not have a mortgage any more because of my divorce, but I would struggle if I was able to get another one and a shoebox to live in. If you send money to your Mahal, it must be appreciated that it is not as easy or disposable as it seems.
When I was in Pinas, I don't really ask.
Hubby sent me P 150,000.00
and some amount I can't remember anymore.
The last one was 50,000 for my ticket.
I don't think that many people send £200 a month back to the Phils.
That is a LOT of money to send back in my opinion.
It also depends on your income in the UK and how your finances are
Be careful.
Search on this forum and you will find lots of previous posts on this issue.
Normally 60,000 a month covers everything including luxuries, but can happily live on 40,000 easily in a nice apartment.
Originally Posted by subseastu
yes i sent about the same to, but we still send money back to the phils but not as much
You're having a laugh aren't you?I don't think that many people send £200 a month back to the Phils.
That is a LOT of money to send back in my opinion.
It also depends on your income in the UK and how your finances are
Be careful.
Search on this forum and you will find lots of previous posts on this issue.How else do you expect them to live, with rent, bills, food etc. That dosen't buy any luxuries
i am sending £300 a month at present for living expenses when Myrna was living in manila for a few months doing all the visa stuff.
shes back in the province now and going out there soon so wont be sending as much- i always make sure she has enough tho so she can text me a lot
well there are 2 answers here some live with family already so there is no rent to pay yes you do know that what you are sending your partner also may help her family too but unless you are earning lots and have no mortgage here £ 200 a month is a lot of money to send, i do earn well but that helps me pay my mortgage quicker so then when emma is here we can live better
Depends where your girlfriend lives Steve? I have all my bills etc. to pay here & have to send to my wife....let me tell you, I'm struggling.
That visa seems further & further away...I feel like justoff to the Phils.
I think send what you can afford, what else can you do? Why should you send more than you can afford? I think it is too easy to just support a partner, or have them 100% rely on you. Should you expect that? If they had never met you how were they living? they managed on very little, but made do. Spoil someone and it is expected and then some. Be real. I am no multi millionaire here, so help when and with what I can.
there is no right or wrong amount here- we send what we can to be able support our loved ones while they are over there- i am lucky at present that i can afford to send Myrna a decent amount- but in the past i have been in an unfortunate position of not being able to afford to send anything to an ex of mine to help support her
as long as our ladys know that we aint made of money and appreciate what we can send i am sure they dont mind whether its 1000 peso or 100,000 depending on our circumstance
and if they do mind then perhaps we need to look at that relationship......
we are all in the same situation sim, what do we do for best ,we have to servive here and we want our partners to have a great life too but ir all comes down to cash, i need england for work thats all, yes they say you have to look way ahead, our health and so on but how long do you work here before saying i have enough then before you now your past it knackerd and ready to pop off , i dont want that, i know the more i send to emma the more her family borrow it and thats ok in emmas eyes, its a tuff one but worth it i cant wait to marry her, but again only send what you can afford
well said steve.r
Spot on Sparky
Thanks Steve
I completely agree with you Steve. I have been sensing that my g/f is getting very picky about the jobs she will consider because she knows I help out. If I wasn't helping, she would take anything that was going, and I have now told her that unless she gets a job I won't help any more, but if she gets a job I will help out and make up the difference for what she needs.
Whatever anyone sends is personal to them and based on what they can afford and how much they feel they should/can help. Everyone will send different amounts based on the above, but it doesn;t matter what anyone else sends, just do what you feel is right for your circumstances. I'm sure she will appreciate whatever you send, and if she doesn't and starts complaining, I would ask why she is really interested in you.
lots of very good comments on here today lads thanks for the advice it all does help and i hope it helps you too, we are not alone
hubby used to send me 500 to 600 pounds a month...having a baby is a bit expensive
flook me- i aint sending any money over to lil green men as well as the wife
£500 to £600 wow you are lucky
I think you misunderstood me... I'm not sending her luxury money, this is survival money...This thread is starting to annoy me a bit. I don't think some of you realise the costs in the Philippines?
My wife can only get a part-time job, that pays 100php per day. There is a minimum wage in the Philippines, but nobody seems to pay it?...How is she supposed to live on that?
Reality check, here in the Uk, if you are on Job Seeker Allowance you receive £64.30 a week. Thats 4372 peco. Could a filipina live on that a week ?
send all you can afford, that is the best you can do ofcourse, I personally send a lot more than the £200 quoted else where in this thread but them Mari is my wife so its her money aswell and like most of us here I am on an average wage but my family come first allways... so just do the best you can by her Steve
... this thread has been a bit of an "eyeopener" for me. Guess I must've been lucky, in that, I never needed to send money to the Phils.
NOT that I could've afforded to anyway
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