Quote Originally Posted by Steve.r View Post
I don't think that is quite right, and why wouldn't you want to know what you were funding??
My Mahal may be going back to Phils if she does not get a continuation visa in Singapore, she is worried about that, so I said that I can help support her. So the very first thing you need t oknow is 'exactly' what the monthly expenditure is. Water, electric, gas, internet, food etc etc. Make a list, make sure you are happy to help cover the simple living costs. Of course you want to treat your lady as a princess, treat her to the nicer things in life, and if you can afford it, do it. But what I mean to say is that you have to budget, and not be an open wallet. I suppose it is a case of mutual respect.
You miss my point, Steve. My wife or then g/f is perfectly capable to work this out all on her lonesome, without not me breathing over her shoulder, tutting and shaking my head

The lady shoud be encouraged to take the lead in all this. Of course you have to tell her what funds are available then she should cut her cloth accordingly. Not for one moment did I think it would be spent on jollies for her family and friends, I trusted her, Steve.
As for open wallets, this is how it is with us. We both know what we have and we both know what we can and can not afford, yes, I agree, is a case of mutual respect and that thing called trust.