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It's a culture thing, not her fault.
They work to eat and live from wage packet to wage packet, that is it. Not possible to save
Most have a shock in the UK. Even us
Your right and i know this and have always been able to handle it but its begnning to drive me insane !Originally Posted by gWaPito
It's a culture thing, not her fault.
They work to eat and live from wage packet to wage packet, that is it. Not possible to save
Most have a shock in the UK. Even us
its good to get it off your chest, you have not made a mistake and you know that too, we are differant people differant needs , sometimes i have to stand back and shake my head but i know i love my emma and she loves me, only give what you want to give and see how things go
I would also say culture too, but you knew this before you married her right?Just try to make her understand, tell her you will budget for the building later, if that is 'your' priority.
You don't want to go insaneNot good
Hold it together, in time the penny will drop
I know exactly how you all feel, and Steve sums it up perfectly here.
Just lately it seems like every conversation I have with my g/f ends up with her dropping a huge hint or asking outright for something. Sometimes you have to say no and you must lay down the ground rules. Don't feel obligated to give every time she asks or give in because you might lose her. If she genuinely loves you and wants you she will accept it when you say no. If she doesn't accept it and threatens to leave..etc, you know the real score.
Stop worrying and pulling your hair out, I'm sure it will work out fine if you explain to her in a nice way.
Hi mistermatty, what are the circumstances that led you to question if you made a mistake marrying one?
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
, Sophie ... I'd been wondering the same thing myself.
He removed his long post, but a few of us saw and posted accordingly. I guess up to him if he feels he wants to repost the issues.
have u?
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Oh ok, that answers our question arthur, hehe....Thanks steve
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
your just selfish and dont want to be committed long time to her
its too late now to start whining about the committment you made in getting married.
grow some balls and accept her and get on with your married life and work at it
sorry but you have to deal with it
all things are possible!
you have the regrets that soon
Though you do not write books, you are the writer of your life. Because everything depends on YOU.
does that mean having a open wallet then , do you really think " workin " at a marraige involves handing over a endless amount of cash ??
mistermatty..
Please re-post original message or ask for the thread to be closed..
Understood , was just venting my frustations and then thought better of it .
no worries...im sure one of moderators will close it for you a bit later..
will re post later mate
we all have good days and bad days thats why we are here to advice and if we can help but just having someone to listen and understand that does work, talk to us first mate, dont engage your mouth before your brain like most men do
Its not like i dont understand the culuture but its so frustating when all they can see is NOW and not look ahead to tommorow ....we all have good days and bad days thats why we are here to advice and if we can help but just having someone to listen and understand that does work, talk to us first mate, dont engage your mouth before your brain like most men do
Heres a example ...
The wife has saved a small sum of money for house repairs that her papa is goin to do BUT they need to hire 2 guys to help lift the materials and do the labouring ...now if i was repairing my house here in the UK i would do the work myself and not pay someone to do it especially if i had a spouse visa to pay for !!
some of us can do things some of us cant , its very easy to complain when we dont know the facts and we dont ,its hard to think are they taking things for granted , but before you came along they were fine and did not need the extension, so just tell them up front there is no money for the extension the visa is more important to you and should be to your partner also , but remember there life is totaly differant to ours
Hi!
I dont know what to say.
Maybe you should start thinking that when you're wife comes to the UK and get a job she will definitely help you out financially or even pay you back slowly in every single penny you have sent to her. Plus a good wife... who makes your dinner, do your laundry, iron your clothes, all the woman's job.
You are now part of her family and before you married her you knew her family's situation.
Shes your wife now and you should not be thinking of making mistakes, you should have thought about it before marrying her.
You are in your first stage of marriage and your wife needs your support and in time she will give it back to you when you need it as soon as you both are together.
Thats just the way it is.
wow a womans job thats a bit harsh, so you are telling me all the chores i do i dont have to do them anymore
Sometimes you just have to put you foot down, tell em you da man and the money gets spent on what you decide
Filipinas take their family and relationships seriously! It's the reason why we find them so attractive in the first place!
I sometimes tell my Vimvie we can't send money this time...just sometimes...I don't want us sending money to the point where we can't pay our mortgage..end up with no where to live...no job/income...I mean that's going to mean disaster for everyone, including her family...so I put my foot down if I feel that might be about to happen...! But chill man! Everything comes good given time...!
There are 7 Planes Of Existance:
7 — Material Plane: The earth, where you are right now.
6 — Plane of Forces
5 — Astral Plane
4 — Mental Plane
3 — Too mysterious to describe.
2 — Too mysterious to describe.
1 — Too mysterious to describe.
Well we Filipina are very loving and dedicated to their husbands and families. We try our best to do everything. But one of the most things that we want in return is attention when we sulk and understanding and support from any situation that may come in the future.wow a womans job thats a bit harsh, so you are telling me all the chores i do i dont have to do them anymore
We do appreciate any single help from our husbands and we try to show it in every way we can.....hmmm, i hope you know wot i mean
how can she pay him back knowing they are married and everything belongs to them....
''Don't be serious..Be Sincere''
Hi mistermatty,
Your wife should be the first to know about your grief in marrying her..so,talk to her.
anyway,in marriage both should work as a team
goodluck!!
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