wiVES problems :)

[Ross]

what are the adjustment for a wife and hus husband wife when she comes and lives with his husband in the Uk? and how long it takes to really settle.

[stevewool]

well this is going to run for a long time i can feel it in my water, did you live as man and wife before coming here

[Ross]

well this is going to run for a long time i can feel it in my water, did you live as man and wife before coming here

oh yes back in philippines living togther for 2 years and now here stettling in UK Just at times things are hard

[joebloggs]

oh yes back in philippines living togther for 2 years and now here stettling in UK Just at times things are hard

things will get better ross , my misses has been in the UK for 5yrs now, we talked a few times about her going back to the phils, but now things are finally going good for her, she doesn't talk about it any more, my misses has not seen her family for 5yrs, but soon she will again

[KeithD]

.....my misses has not seen her family for 5yrs, but soon she will again

You're going to be kind enough to let her look at the photos?

[joebloggs]

You're going to be kind enough to let her look at the photos?

i let her look at the photos on her birthday every year

[Ross]

things will get better ross , my misses has been in the UK for 5yrs now, we talked a few times about her going back to the phils, but now things are finally going good for her, she doesn't talk about it any more, my misses has not seen her family for 5yrs, but soon she will again

am only here for month now but felt like 10 years. good for your wife finally after all she can bring some sunshine from PH for you .

[stevewool]

well ross , its a big change for both of you being here , emma will be coming here july 31st so i think i shall be in your shoes for a while at least, so what problems then ross lets try and sort them out

[Ross]

well ross , its a big change for both of you being here , emma will be coming here july 31st so i think i shall be in your shoes for a while at least, so what problems then ross lets try and sort them out

yeah think i agree to you on that its just at times when you look back..things werent the same as they way it should be..well life can be tough at times anyway goodluck and sending warm regards to both of you ..

[stevewool]

we all look back and think wow great times , but its forward we all must head, sometimes life is not what we want but its down to 2 people to sort it out , it takes time and hard work and understanding from both of you , you will get there

[Ross]

we all look back and think wow great times , but its forward we all must head, sometimes life is not what we want but its down to 2 people to sort it out , it takes time and hard work and understanding from both of you , you will get there

oh yeah takes a lot of effort too and knwoing you grow both and become more mature and handling things but having no slept evernight doesnt slept isnt it lovely kids we have but pain sometimes for not yet settling properly.have only an hour or so slepot every night imagine that.. plus during days ..well i know it our responsibilty as parents

[stevewool]

where abouts are you ross and how amny kids , we all need sleep and thats when we become very angry lack of it , you are either to tied or wound up like a spring , once the kids are asleep you go even if its so early , thats a start

[Ross]

where abouts are you ross and how amny kids , we all need sleep and thats when we become very angry lack of it , you are either to tied or wound up like a spring , once the kids are asleep you go even if its so early , thats a start

we live somewhere in plympton plymouth devon having no slept is really difficult but the soon i get a slept the 3 kids awake

[joebloggs]

we live somewhere in plympton plymouth devon having no slept is really difficult but the soon i get a slept the 3 kids awake

sorry i cant remember how old your kids are, i know you have a baby and a 7yr old ?

are they going to school or nursary yet ? going to nursery wears little joe out

[Ross]

sorry i cant remember how old your kids are, i know you have a baby and a 7yr old ?

are they going to school or nursary yet ? going to nursery wears little joe out

kids ages 1 and 10 months, 3 and 6 years old.. fun of buzzing all day dont get slept enough during night.dont know really..
the 6 years old is going but not sure which school seems on our area the were full at the moment:(

[malditako]

kids ages 1 and 10 months, 3 and 6 years old.. fun of buzzing all day dont get slept enough during night.dont know really..
the 6 years old is going but not sure which school seems on our area the were full at the moment:(

i understand the hardwork...me and hubby struggle with one how much more having 4..gosh it will really drives me nuts i guess. goodluck ross lol

[pennybarry]

One month adjusted for my husband,
Need more years to adjust with weather.

[aposhark]

One month adjusted for my husband,
Need more years to adjust with weather.

Hi Penny,
My wife laughed at your answer as she was in agreement with you concerning the weather
She has just told me, whilst laughing, that it will take two years to adjust to me
We have a great marriage, I just hope all the other men on here are enjoying wonderful days with their Filipina wives too.
You seem to be very happy also
Good luck

[pennybarry]

Hi Penny,
My wife laughed at your answer as she was in agreement with you concerning the weather
She has just told me, whilst laughing, that it will take two years to adjust to me
We have a great marriage, I just hope all the other men on here are enjoying wonderful days with their Filipina wives too.
You seem to be very happy also
Good luck

Thanks Apo!

I don't really need to adjust more here in the UK as I still feel nothing changed in my life too much.
I can still visit yearly my nearest and dearest in Pinas, not in debt what else?
Outgoing, enjoys travel, having my own freedom financially and being with friends if I want.
I am lucky as I have my understanding husband and allows me to do things that will make me happy as long as not harming our relationship. Nice feeling ! No much worries and enjoying life to the fullest.

It is always the weather that makes me feel like having a british mood. ahahhahaha

[Ross]

Thanks Apo!

I don't really need to adjust more here in the UK as I still feel nothing changed in my life too much.
I can still visit yearly my nearest and dearest in Pinas, not in debt what else?
Outgoing, enjoys travel, having my own freedom financially and being with friends if I want.
I am lucky as I have my understanding husband and allows me to do things that will make me happy as long as not harming our relationship. Nice feeling ! No much worries and enjoying life to the fullest.

It is always the weather that makes me feel like having a british mood. ahahhahaha

its the way your life pathway is guiding you anyway one day life would be so easy on us all and live like no worries at all

ingat lage

[sparky]

i also will follow this thread with interest

myrna will be here in 2 weeks and i have to admit i am worried a little on how she will settle.

i have a lot of friends who want to help her settle but i keep telling them that she has to do it at her pace- she is painfully shy and some of my friends are rather full on

i had a thai ex who came over here and couldnt settle at all a number of years ago so ihave learned a few things from that expereince i would hope. but even so i just worry that she wont settle- the weather of course is a concern but thats something that i cannot alter

[-sillybilly-]

i also will follow this thread with interest

myrna will be here in 2 weeks and i have to admit i am worried a little on how she will settle.

i have a lot of friends who want to help her settle but i keep telling them that she has to do it at her pace- she is painfully shy and some of my friends are rather full on

i had a thai ex who came over here and couldnt settle at all a number of years ago so ihave learned a few things from that expereince i would hope. but even so i just worry that she wont settle- the weather of course is a concern but thats something that i cannot alter

Dont worry she will settle as soon as you are together. Just have to be patient with everything she needs to learn. Filipinas are very clever and we dont surrender.

[aposhark]

i also will follow this thread with interest

myrna will be here in 2 weeks and i have to admit i am worried a little on how she will settle.

i have a lot of friends who want to help her settle but i keep telling them that she has to do it at her pace- she is painfully shy and some of my friends are rather full on

i had a thai ex who came over here and couldnt settle at all a number of years ago so ihave learned a few things from that expereince i would hope. but even so i just worry that she wont settle- the weather of course is a concern but thats something that i cannot alter

Hi sparky,

Rochelyn is still very shy after being here for over a year.
She is a quiet lady from the province and not at all "full on"
I hoped she would make more friends but she has found that the pinays are a little too "gossipy" in our town.
She is always laughing though, so I know she is happy.... or just laughing at me perhaps

Lots of love and attention and I'm sure Myrna will be ok.
Rochelyn sends texts via chikkatext most days to her family, make sure Myrna brings over a roaming enabled sim card so her family can reply to her regularly and inexpensively

It's the small things that seem to be important, like buying flowers and a bag of pork scratchings!

Best of luck to you both, you will wake up together everyday soon and your days will be loved up

[mistermatty]

i have a lot of friends who want to help her settle but i keep telling them that she has to do it at her pace- she is painfully shy and some of my friends are rather full on

Shy she is not mate , every time i saw her she would be pretty vocal and shout " Matt wheres Martin "

[sparky]

Shy she is not mate , every time i saw her she would be pretty vocal and shout " Matt wheres Martin "

That's cos she loves me too much

[Ross]

That's cos she loves me too much

seems your not obviously vocal about husban feeling eh??

[sparky]

seems your not obviously vocal about husban feeling eh??

Love her to bits mate
If you have read any of my many tedious posts that would be apparent


Apo- our ladies sound similar - I just hope that Myrna beds in as well and is as happy in a few months time

[mistermatty]

That's cos she loves me too much

Or your money ha ha

[somebody]

Shy she is not mate , every time i saw her she would be pretty vocal and shout " Matt wheres Martin "

You cant always gurantee a confident outgoing person in one situation will be a confident one in another.

Friends of the wifes who I have known in phill and Uk for example some are now air hostess/ who fly in regularly to the UK others care workers or workers on boats. The person in phill is not what you see when in the UK I have noticed on many occasions.

The Wife has commented for at least 50 percent of them have changed dramtically from what she and other friends remeber.

Moving a person in to another enviroment and culture can have a very dramtic impact.

Luckily we kept the texts, im's emails and photos and videos thoughout our realtionship and the change in the wife has been huge as you could belive.
How much is due to age/experince and to enviroment is hard to say.

[aposhark]

You cant always gurantee a confident outgoing person in one situation will be a confident one in another.

Friends of the wifes who I have known in phill and Uk for example some are now air hostess/ who fly in regularly to the UK others care workers or workers on boats. The person in phill is not what you see when in the UK I have noticed on many occasions.

The Wife has commented for at least 50 percent of them have changed dramtically from what she and other friends remeber.

Moving a person in to another enviroment and culture can have a very dramtic impact.

Luckily we kept the texts, im's emails and photos and videos thoughout our realtionship and the change in the wife has been huge as you could belive.
How much is due to age/experince and to enviroment is hard to say.

Yes, I have also taken videos of my wife since we first met.
It is hard for me to say that she has changed in every way, as we have both changed towards each other at the same time.
Her English is constantly improving, but I think I am a lucky man in that I think she is just as loving now compared to the time we first fell in love.
Her Filipina ways are just as alluring to me now as before
Westerners in Phils told me Filipinas change for the worst when they have been in the "west", but I don't think my wife has.