Originally Posted by Northerner
I'm amazed this thread is getting so heated
The thread title is a cast iron guarantee of that
I'm amazed this thread is getting so heated
The thread title is a cast iron guarantee of that
So far this thread has shown us a respected member and a moderator who have admitted to being sexual tourists, and another respected member who looks enraged at being criticised for being a pimpI'm amazed this thread is getting so heated
Okay, so most here would not marry a bar girl. Some would. Perhaps some even have.. But everyone is entitled to their own choice of lifestyle and who they marry, simple.
And could everyone try not to think others are suggesting their wives/girlfriends are bar girls. As fred pointed out, yes it happens but far be it for me or anyone else to guess who might or might not be from that lifestyle.
And try not to be insulted by a bit of banterand Fred as always comes up with some sensible points...good subject
So far this thread has shown us a respected member and a moderator who have admitted to being sexual tourists, and another respected member who looks enraged at being criticised for being a pimp
That pretty much sums the whole thing up! lolz
'Sex tourist' seems to be a bit of a seedy way to describe what I mentioned, if that was your reference point. We all do things at certian times of our lives that we don't boast about, and a once in a lifetime occurrance hardly makes you a dedicated sex tourist. Stones and glass houses comes to mind. Some of us are prepared to be honest, at least for the sake of this argument.
I've always wanted to be a bar girl
Keith - Administrator
more of a lady boyI've always wanted to be a bar girl
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
And an admin who can joke about anything!
You have to with my faceAnd an admin who can joke about anything!
Keith - Administrator
It's interesting seeing the reaction, mainly from guys. Some would, some wouldn't, some have. One of the issues here is that as guys we rarely judge other guys who sleep around and get through hundreds of women, some people may even be a little envious of guys who always attract beautiful women.
However, the view is completely the opposite if a women goes through hundreds of guys, we think she must be bad, she can't be trusted, she is ridden with the pox, she is emotionally damaged...etc. Some of these things may be true for some bar girls, but surely not for all.
I would not want a relationship with a bar girl who continued to work in that profession as I would become too jealous and would never really know if I could trust her.
However, if I found a girlfriend had done it in the past and it was only because she did it to survive, she had definitely retired and I felt I could trust her not to return, and of course we genuinely loved each other, I would consider a relationship.
We've all got skeletons in our closets and everyone deserves a second chance.
Keith..No worries,we understand ..You can always stick a bag over your head..
Its how you would look with your leg stuck up the stainless pole that could make things a bit more entertaining..
800,000 ladies of the night in Thailand. Not sure the number in phils, but they can't all be bad. Wife material
You always here the stories that end badly, but there's plenty that do ok.
I guess this is an accurate number from their tax receipts
Keith - Administrator
We've mentioned the lack of trust for a bargirl g/f, but that must go the other way? Surely any girl who meets who b/f under those circumstances must wonder if he is still messing around with other bargirls after they start the relationship?
There must be a real problem with trust on both sides? I'm sure it can work if both parties really do love each other and try extra hard. It might be easier if you are together all of the time, but for a LDR when you are apart for months at a time, a lack of trust and jealousy must eat away at both sides.
So how does it feel living off the earnings of girls who sell sex for money ??You got something against pimps now?
each to there own i say , if you fall in love with a so called bar girl and she does with you , what the hell as it to do with anyone , most of the time we all know what we are doing and what may happen,what about the so called men going there meeting more then 1 girl promising the world to her then the following week of to meet someone else , yes its not the same as a differant man each night for the bar girl but hay ho not far off, so if its your sort off thing enjoy it , it dont concern any one else
You are absolutely correct Steve, each to their own and no one should judge or condemn what others do. As long as both people are genuine and really love each other it isn't anyone elses business.each to there own i say , if you fall in love with a so called bar girl and she does with you , what the hell as it to do with anyone , most of the time we all know what we are doing and what may happen,what about the so called men going there meeting more then 1 girl promising the world to her then the following week of to meet someone else , yes its not the same as a differant man each night for the bar girl but hay ho not far off, so if its your sort off thing enjoy it , it dont concern any one else
I still think that jealousy and mis-trust are issues that would constantly rear their head, and no matter how hard I tried, I'm not sure if I could handle a relationship where I couldn't totally trust my girl
jealousyand mis-trust i think are the worst thing to have , been there done that and i hope will never go there again , i love to talk and can talk to anyone , but i dont think i could handle this sort of thing myself, your trip englisnman does sould very nice what you might have planed
Yes jealousy is a terrible thing, but I don't see how it can be avoided if you are dating a bar girl, it would always play on my mind, who's she with now, how many men has she been with today, does she really love me...etc. I couldn't handle it.
If I found out a gf was a retired bargirl and she had no intentions of returning to that life, I might give it a go then, but even then, I think that mis-trust would still creep in sometimes. That's just me, but if a guy can deal with that, good luck to them, it's not for me to say if it's right or wrong.
we all have a past everyone of us, some good some bad , happy memories too, more then bad ones , but its the trust that always has to be there , that is what i keep telling emma from the moment we said we want to be together and so far so good , i dont doubt emma at all, i know i have found a very nice person
Without trust both ways, a relationship is doomed.we all have a past everyone of us, some good some bad , happy memories too, more then bad ones , but its the trust that always has to be there , that is what i keep telling emma from the moment we said we want to be together and so far so good , i dont doubt emma at all, i know i have found a very nice person
Glad you've found your special person Steve, you deserve each other
thanks i hope so too, be your turn soon
We'll see, it's back to the starting blocks for me.thanks i hope so too, be your turn soon
Is mistermatty an alias for Jeremy Kyle?
Ad Hominem!
How grown up
i think marrying a bar girl is a personal choice...depends how far your love would go for her. I personally knew few person who works in japan as a bar girl and by listening to their story its really a taugh job for them...i admired them having the courage to do that kind of job to earn money to have the lifestyle they want for themselves rather than depending on someone else..no one cant really tell that your chance of meeting a bar girl is slim just b'coz u dont go there...hey these girls i knew do go to church every sunday.
Whos Jermey Kyle ???
It is my opinion Ross. Like I said it is not good to prejudge and it is good giving them a second chance since they are humans too will not hurt. It is a man's ego I'm looking at. When love speaks, does it really matter? I don't think so. The history is something in the past, but we always learn from history which can be an issue. As long as there is genuine love from both people then let it grow.saying NO ..itlsef ..is shwoing how sometimes think we are far more better than everyone
it is the foundation of their faith by surviving the situation they are in since they want to have a better lifestyle (we call it being materialistic) and some would work as a nanny abroad to have ends meet, i prefer the latter if I don't have a choicehey these girls i knew do go to church every sunday.
That's right coz when the bible says that adulerers and fornicators will not inherit the kindgdom of heaven, they think they'll be fine
10 married men every night because they said a few hail marys! Penitence is one hell of a drug!
DO we need to drag the faith thing into this, you know it causes friction.
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