Would you marry a young lady who worked in the Nightlife industry ?
Thoughts , are they any diffrent or just trying to survive ??
Some echlons of Pinnoy Society look down at them as though they are the rejects they dont want ...
Thoughts ??
Would you marry a young lady who worked in the Nightlife industry ?
Thoughts , are they any diffrent or just trying to survive ??
Some echlons of Pinnoy Society look down at them as though they are the rejects they dont want ...
Thoughts ??
No ... on the basis that their are plenty of other single women around in the Philippines without that kind of baggage.
You have no idea what diseases they have as many don't use protection, and you're friends/family may one day discover pics/vidoes of her on internet porn sites as most bargirls will allow this for extra cash.
The question is, would you marry a prostitute in the UK? Nope.
Keith - Administrator
Personally I would not be able to handle that but if you can make a connection with a bar girl then it can work. Could be a problem if friends and acquaintances know or get to know about it.
All that`s important is love,trust and honesty.
i know a lot of the bar girls in Angeles come from the provinces and islands and must be desperate to look for a way to escape the poverty and hardship, but they take a risk in marrying a punter to getting abused and sometimes even pimped if the marriage starts to fail.
ahhhhhhhhhhh.... hard question! well i agree to the two comments above but i also would like to say that there are nice girls (virgins even) that are working in the nightclub... its always the poverty that drives them to that kind of work but of course you should know if the girl is an "expert" meaning working like a prostitute or the "no choice" kind who simply work for a living... the thing is do u think you can live with that kind of girl??? or will her background haunts you til get separated?
if you really deeply love a person does not matter aint not
If i weren't already married, there's no chance I'd marry a bar-girl for all of the reasons above, plus the fact that she would have such an extensivehistory, whereas, I didn't. It would all be too much of a
for me everyday. I prefer the innocent type, and not the "pretend" acting innocence
to be honest if you love a person does it really matter what they do?, considering theres many single ladies out there how would you find a bargirl unless you went to a bar
i tell my wife that all the timeOriginally Posted by Ross
if you really deeply love a person does not matter aint not
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
There's a lot of hypocrites on this thread
Whom?There's a lot of hypocrites on this thread
you saying lots of the guys are married to ex bargirls ??There's a lot of hypocrites on this thread
sparky, seems to think we have all been sex tourists but pretend that we know nothing
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
deja vuThere's a lot of hypocrites on this thread
like who ? never been to a bar in the phils, so you must be talking about others in this thread
have you got some evidence why people on this thread are hypocrites ?
A lot of guys think cos they met their girl online they are better
And most have prob never set foot inside a bar never mind the Phils before they met her so have no idea what a bar is about or the "type of girl" that works there
Well how do you define a prostuite ??
I have come across heaps of girls who work Cam sites and the dating sites like Cherry Blossoms , DIA and trust me many are looking for a payout , holiday , meal out , shopping , new cellfone etc etc
Thoughts ??
It sounds to me like you have a very personal emotional charge to what you're saying. If this topic makes you feel bad, i wouldn't continue on it ...
As for "better" ... hmmm, i don't know to whom that's directed, but how can you tell if someone has or has not been into a bar? And how would having gone into one of these bars make their choice of a non bar girl any less hypocritical?
I am happy my wife had no real experience in relationships in the past, because I also had very little.
Does it make me a hypocrite that i didn't go into a bar to exhaust my options before settling on an innocent girl?
That's ridiculous.
i cant say that theres any putting down of bargirls here and i have never seen anyone think they are better, besides you can always tell them to stick it
anyone here you think is like that?
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
It's very easy to generalise and say all bar girls are bad, the same way that we all experience people in the Uk who say all Filipina's are bad without knowing the full facts.
What drives these girls to work in the bars? Is it the chance of some easy money? They are hardened professionals who know how to scam? They are forced to do it as it is the only way they can earn enough money to support their familes and sick relatives...etc?
Does every bar girl go with men? My understanding is that bar girls earn points/money for each drink they get a man to buy her. Of course, some will earn a larger tip if they spend a few hours in the man's companyHowever, they don't have to go with men, and some may be happy just taking the money from the drinks.
Could an ex-bar girl change if she found her man? I have friends in Singapore who have settled down with ex-bar girls and they see happy enough.
No answers here, just questions. I think it is dangerous to label everybody as the same without getting to know the full facts. Sure, I would be ultra cautious if I knew the girl was a bar girl and would question her motives very carefully.
Once ventured into a 'Lap Dance' nightclub in Dublin ... got chatting to a young girl of African descent - though her parents lived in Birmingham. Since it was my first - and ONLY - visit to an establishment of this nature, I wasn't quite sure WHAT to expect.Ended up buying her a glass of [fake] champagne costing all of 26 euro and ... after feeling I'd simply been
But the whole experience both appalled
in equal measure.
you all folks dont judge everyone/everything has its own reason to what and why ?? aint not lol
I daresay, Ross. But no one's being judgemental here; it's just ... well ...you all folks dont judge everyone/everything has its own reason to what and why ?? aint not lol... sad, really.
Many may end up in this situation to support the family, but often times they will have hard time to get out of it because they miss the easy money and the fake excitement attached to it.
My question is why they choose to work in night clubs when endless girls in the same situation don't.
This situation would be very complex, if you've ever read the book 'Private Dancer', written about Bangkok, Thailand it'll open your eyes a bit. It's actually available to download online.
If your going with a prostitute, you'd be giving your relationship a rough start and could even end up destroying your relationship through trust issues. It would be a situation where you'd need to go in with your eyes wide open, and not let love overide common sense and logic.
No-one should feel more righteous then another because they first met there missus in person, online or in a bar. Life isn't about that, we are equal at the end of the day right? Or are some people more equal then others?
oh well..i i understand your part on that sir but saying itslef..would you marry a bar girl?I daresay, Ross. But no one's being judgemental here; it's just ... well ...
the sentence itself lol...
what if some well say can i marry a doctor or a nurse or a engineer ..i know some folks here understand what i mean if not then ..better luck next time lol
No, Ross
... not for "snobbish" reasons either!!the sentence itself lol...I rarely visited bars of ANY kind - unless I happened to be having a night out with friends - and seldom drank alcohol [although I'm not completely teetotal!] so the question simply never arose. And besides, my life followed the same pattern throughout 17 years of widowhood. Furthermore, I had no particular desire to re-marry
....and talks a lot
Keith - Administrator
my mate married a bar girl , he gets free beer all night and sometimes food , works in the rose and crown chellaston debyshire , but its closed down now, are we talking them same thing here
this is a sensitive topic and if I were a man, my answer is a NO. I knew some women who have worked in a bar and most of them (not all) have trust issues. maybe because they are always after for money, the very reason why they work that way, not interested in working the hard way. some of them would only use the foreigner and I feel sorry to some men as these women are keeping a local boyfriend that she is supporting financially through a foreigner bf/husband. I can say that out 10 there are 7.
I've gone to angeles city in pampanga where the prostitution is very open like most places and have talked to some girls at very young age. and most of them are chasing dreams and hoping to be married to a foreigner that will lift them from poverty. a very sad to reason out and I bet some filipinos think that way as an easy way out of poverty.
but whatever the person does in the past, at the end of the day he/she is a human and deserves a chance. not by the people around him/her but him/herself to prove that he/she can be trusted.
another is, let's not pre-judge and look at the other side of the coin.
my mate married a bar girl , he gets free beer all night and sometimes food , works in the rose and crown chellaston debyshire , but its closed down now, are we talking them same thing here
Hahaha steve. You innocent angel
Nah, Steve, that's okay ... the only "thingies" your mate's wife's pulling are pintsmy mate married a bar girl , he gets free beer all night and sometimes food , works in the rose and crown chellaston debyshire , but its closed down now, are we talking them same thing herein an English pub!
Well I'm sure all types of personalities, work as bargirls, so it would be hard to generalise...if you clicked with someone & they with you, I'm sure many would find a way around their predicament?...who knows?...Seems many have done it?
As for sparky saying there are a lot of hypocrites?...Why?
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