Sulkiness(tampo) Management

[raynaputi]

Just send her a txt that says "Well I may as well talk to the other girl when I'm online" .... and leave it at that

hahahahahaha..that will either put her more in tampo mode or would want to patch things up immediately...

[-sillybilly-]

It's very hard to manage when they not talk to you and being so far apart, maybe would be easier face to face.

Weathering a two day sulk right now, Jonalyn not been online now for two days

When I call just get "why should I come online"

Wish I could say is was over something big but her friend as a new phone and she would like one too and i said "you have two phones now why would you need another one"

Well just have to ride this one out:(

A new phone? is that the reason why shes not been talking to you?
tell her you are not a phone shop. Sorry but that sounds selfish and immature to me and its not sulking or tampo either.
Win2win is probably just right. Send her a text and add that maybe your chatmates could understand you more.

[burdock]

totally agree it is abit selfish and immature and if she needed a new I'd buy her one before you could say nokia

I do love her, faults n all

[aromulus]

I really thought that this waas going to be a "women-free" thread.....

But they seem to be coming out of the forum woodwork....

In this sad case, I will refrain from contributing as It might incriminate me...

[James Hubbard]

Hey Burdock, how are things going now? Any better?

JH

[burdock]

Sorry to say

Trying not to get mad about it

[burdock]

Sorry to say

Trying not to get mad about it

[James Hubbard]

To be honest, unless other things are going on, this doesn't look too good for your relationship.

What i mean is ... if it's just over this small thing ... hmmm ... u may want to re-consider whom you are with, lest you spend the rest of your life in the current purgatory in which you're living!

[burdock]

I just hope it's a distance thing and when we are together it will be different plus easier to work stuff like this out

[James Hubbard]

I just hope it's a distance thing and when we are together it will be different plus easier to work stuff like this out

You know what?

As much as I'd love to tell you that it'll all be fine when you and her are together, I gotta tell you the truth from my (albeit limited) experience.

If you don't nip this trait in the bud now - with her - and let her know that for you it's unacceptable, she will have you in the palm of her hand knowing that she can manipulate you at every turn.

I am not saying that you should demand to be "the boss" ... that's a repulsive attitude. I am saying, you need to have equality in your relationship, and it seems right now, with her materialistic manipulation, she is the boss and you're her bh! Sorry to say, but that's just what I see.

I am concerned about you. It has been several days now and she's still acting like this?

The longest my now wife has ever tampo'd with me was 2 days, and that was about something very serious.

This crap is just about a phone and she's being about not getting it!

So when you're together and she wants that dress and you say "honey i can't afford it", then you get another week of hell.

If you relent and buy her what she wants, then 2 things happen

( 1 ) She sees you as a wimp, and regards you as her bh

( 2 ) She will resent you for buying it for her.

Personally, she sounds like a lot of trouble! If I were you, I'd have a very serious convo with her, and perhaps be prepared to cut your losses

That's my take

be strong mate!

[sars_notd_virus]

I just hope it's a distance thing and when we are together it will be different plus easier to work stuff like this out

Personally, she sounds like a lot of trouble! If I were you, I'd have a very serious convo with her, and perhaps be prepared to cut your losses

That's my take

be strong mate!

i think i'm going to put another thread for this topic??

[malditako]

shopping always works best for me lol

[-sillybilly-]

I just hope it's a distance thing and when we are together it will be different plus easier to work stuff like this out

Sorry but i can imagine that she's a "highly maintenance".

You are not together yet and she now acts like that..so how much more when you bring her over in the UK?
The helluva !

Oh no.........

[raynaputi]

i think i'm going to put another thread for this topic??

hahahahaha...mari has just done

[sars_notd_virus]

hahahahaha...mari has just done

ahahhaa hi thre raynagirl..miss mod!! posh!! miss ya!!

[raynaputi]

ahahhaa hi thre raynagirl..miss mod!! posh!! miss ya!!

hahahaha..i just want to reiterate that i thought being a mod, boss keith would give me a laptop that's why i agreed..but he's cheap! ..hahahahaha LOL! miss yah too! and i know you're having the time of your life there! hope we can chat next time..i'm just about to go to work and i'll be late! hahaha..

[James Hubbard]

i think i'm going to put another thread for this topic??

And here it is :

http://filipinaroses.com/showthread....ht-Girl-or-Guy

I think maybe Burdock would benefit from reading it ...

[burdock]

Had a long talk on the phone, will go in to more detail when I get home later

Like to thank JH and everyone for the advise and insights

[James Hubbard]

Had a long talk on the phone, will go in to more detail when I get home later

Like to thank JH and everyone for the advise and insights

you're welcome mate

looking forward to seeing how this goes

[sars_notd_virus]

Had a long talk on the phone, will go in to more detail when I get home later

its hard when you cant hug someone straight away and tell all your griefs
i know the two of you will be fine

[triple5]

It's hard when you can't tell somebody they're being a spoilt brat to their face. Sorry to be so frank dude, but I'd tell her go take her tampo to somebody who gives a

[sparky]

just had my first experience of tampo- but for what i dunno.

we were sitting there watching "grease" when my phone goes- its someone from work- we have been having a lot of issues with a major concern and i was being told about the latest update. rather than turn the sound down i went into the other room to talk- not the first time i have done that rather thsan interupt her TV viewing.

well i come back- she has moved seats and you just know when alls not right

now all i get when i ask whats up is "nothing"

guess no for me tonight

[Dedworth]

just had my first experience of tampo- but for what i dunno.

Congratulations you have passed your initiation and are now a fully fledged member. You also get a distinction for not knowing what the tampo is for

[aromulus]

One doesn't really have to do or say anything in particular....
It is down on how that "anything in particular" is construed by the misguidedly, seemingly offended party.....

Unfortunately, at times, what we see as normal behaviour here in the west, is not appreciated by some others of different cultures and we have to learn to adjust if we want the relationships to flourish.

The real problems arise when one is Tampo-ed unreasonably only to make a useless point.

I have a couple of t-shirts and caps for it now, so I reckon I am talking from personal experience knowledge on the subject....
And I reckon I still know all, about the subject...

The only sure thing I can say is that it will happen no matter what, and you and I will be totally powerless as to guess what caused it....

So my friend, learn to live with it....

[sparky]

Congratulations you have passed your initiation and are now a fully fledged member. You also get a distinction for not knowing what the tampo is for

bit of a harsh lesson to get both at once tho on her first attempt

only took a week and 2 days as well

[aromulus]

only took a week and 2 days as well

The making up is great...!!!

[sparky]

The making up is great...!!!

even tho i aint done anything wrong- in an effort of goodwill i saw the thread about dried fish and looked up the pinoyminimall site and told her to order some stuff from it

seems to have done the trick so far and only cost me £16