for english daddys :)

[Ross]

i am wondering how many of on this forum husband/daddys are waking up or feeds there little children during the nights..do you all allow you wives to do the tiring job..? any commets advices will be verr much appreaciated...
thank you

[KeithD]

The woman has it... the woman can feed it ..... my tities aren't very nourishing

[Ross]

but i dont mean with feeding tities this kids are ages 2 and 3 years old yet stil to wake up for them to feeds..bottled milk
or is the normal daddys go on sleeping during the night and wotn bother feeding the little one ..am so tiredddd lol but i cnt ask to anybody nor my mum back to the philippines to do it just even for 3 seconds ..
was it noraml for dadays not to bother do the feeding specially night time .i think we are all human who feels very tired at times

[KeithD]

Babies/kids are well known for causing issues in reationships that never existed before, one of them is resentment that one of the couples is not doing what the other expects. I've seen it happen soooo many times. I always say do a trial by getting a puppy first, at least if it doesn't work out you've got something to eat

[ca143]

Ross ur in UK now,so u have to adopt UK culture as well.We have 2 yrs old daughter as well but shes dont need to feed milk midnight at all.We bring her to bed 9pm give her 9oz of milk.

[Ross]

that a good ide boss but toooooooo late for u s shameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

[Ross]

Ross ur in UK now,so u have to adopt UK culture as well.We have 2 yrs old daughter as well but shes dont need to feed milk midnight at all.We bring her to bed 9pm give her 9oz of milk.

i know but it seems not right..while your other half stay bed .sometimes you felt very sick waking up on the middle of the night that your body hardlt can get up but u must for ther crying of you litle one..lol
its not about culture it about sympathy and sharing the responsibilty specilly night time lol

[KeithD]

They shouldn't be waking up during the night at those ages .... give them a nice a few spoonfuls of dried rice before bed time and then have them drink a glass of water

[Ross]

They shouldn't be waking up during the night at those ages .... give them a nice a few spoonfuls of dried rice before bed time and then have them drink a glass of water

yeah im still wondering why iit does like that im confusee now after i hear to those u got chiild like mine and dont need to wake up during the night..

[KeithD]

Apart from teething they should be sleeping through from at 12 months old at the most. If they are not it is solely due to the fact that the parents have trained the child to wake up, not that the child chooses to do so.

[Ross]

oh no not training them at all it just the wake up crying and asking milk..we did feed them before going to bed

[KeithD]

oh no not training them at all it just the wake up crying and asking milk..we did feed them before going to bed

So the kid is controlling you, not the other way round. You're supposed to be the big bad boss. The kid doesn't need feeding, it's just a form of attention seeking that needs to be stopped. Easy enough. Next time the kid wakes up in the night you go in the room, sternly say no and go back to sleep, then let kido cry as long as it takes for him to fall back to sleep. It takes a few nights but the message sinks in eventually.

[sparky]

They shouldn't be waking up during the night at those ages .... give them a nice a few spoonfuls of dried rice before bed time and then have them drink a glass of water

or failing that a tot of whisky should do the trick

[malditako]

being a filipino and being a mum i understand your situation Ross...others can tell u which they thought is the right thing to do but hey we were brought up in different culture, they got good point which i myself hard to follow and adopt raising my lil boy...being a wife and mother doesnt mean u need to embrace all the household and responsibility on kids all the time...get hubby to do his share and be vocal about your feelings. about kid waking up in middle of the night..observing my son he just wake up and ask milk when he not feed enough before bedtime...

[RickyR]

Would love to see a Filipino father waking up to deal with the baby, haha. Think the british culture generally has a lot more involved fathers, but not always.

[stevewool]

i use to share in all the things that needed doing no matter how tired you was at the time to see there little faces looking at you while feeding them and the stupid noises you make while trying to talk to them too, and then getting there wind up too,but thekids are 12 years and 17 years now , do you think itstime to stop

[malditako]

Would love to see a Filipino father waking up to deal with the baby, haha. Think the british culture generally has a lot more involved fathers, but not always.

i agree with you...never i seen lots of filipino who's a hands on dad...probably b'coz in the philippines mothers normally get help from other member of the family/relative to assist them with kids or simply just get a nanny as its not that costly to have one...so the wife not that bother for their husband to get a hand on kids...

[pennybarry]

Would love to see a Filipino father waking up to deal with the baby, haha. Think the british culture generally has a lot more involved fathers, but not always.

I might agree but maybe because our culture is helping each other like my Lola and aunt who were always there and we can afford nanny for kids sometimes. I remember my dad, he seldom helped my nanay when feeding us as he's already awake at 4 a.m. to go to farm and make money and during harvest seasons, he gives all his earnings to my Nanay. But I must say, I was more close to my dad than my Nanay. Every morning, I make coffee for him and bring him food at the farm if we have no classes. We eat and pray together as well! He do the planting and I do the selling.
Bless all filipino dads as who are working for more than 10 hours / day in the farm!

[raynaputi]

I'm not sure if my dad took his turn to wake up in the middle of the night to feed us when me and my siblings were still babies...but i remember that he was always the one there beside us and full hands on everytime we get sick..he would be the one awake and who took care of us (checking our temp, giving us meds, etc) coz he knows my mom has lots of other chores to do...hehehe..

[pennybarry]

I'm not sure if my dad took his turn to wake up in the middle of the night to feed us when me and my siblings were still babies...but i remember that he was always the one there beside us and full hands on everytime we get sick..he would be the one awake and who took care of us (checking our temp, giving us meds, etc) coz he knows my mom has lots of other chores to do...hehehe..

And we are close to our dad.
How we love to serve our parents.
It is our pleasure to cook for them, being thoughtful for them and caring for them as well!
And most of all, we highly respect them!

[stevewool]

well it seems that most kids in england thinks there dad is a taxi service a bank and anything else the kids wnat him or there mom to be these days

[KeithD]

well it seems that most kids in england thinks there dad is a taxi service a bank and anything else the kids wnat him or there mom to be these days

I prefer the word 'slave'

[stevewool]

thats the word boss man

[malditako]

well it seems that most kids in england thinks there dad is a taxi service a bank and anything else the kids wnat him or there mom to be these days

sounds like spoiled brats......i may say kids here in UK are more spoiled than the kids in philippines in such material ways...which i think not good

[sars_notd_virus]

or is the normal daddys go on sleeping during the night and wotn bother feeding the little one

was it noraml for dadays not to bother do the feeding specially night time .i think we are all human who feels very tired at times

I think its normal for dads to get a proper sleep at night especially if he got work the next day,you dont want him to be gurmpy all day and lost his job so theres no more milk for the babys to feed then?? but in some avoidable circumstances like if the babies are not feeling well or sick, the father or dads should help out taking care of the kids..
i guess what u need is time management ( take a rest/nap when ur kids are napping during the day,and when they are awake and about do ur extra chores,tire ur kids and let them play and play so they get a sound sleep at night) u will love the result when u get all of these sorted
After all ,,,being a mother and the responsibility on how to take care of her husband & family is one true essence of being a woman...get it??

[pennybarry]

sounds like spoiled brats......i may say kids here in UK are more spoiled than the kids in philippines in such material ways...which i think not good

Maybe because they can afford to buy for their kids.
I understand that parents wants to give their children the very best especially material things.
Sometimes, they were born with it, been blessed with it which probably make them lack of discipline.

When I was small, it was my dream to have a doll. But I was lucky and happy still as I can make paper dolls with different paper clothes. My Nanay always said, if you want something, you can have it if you will work it out. So study hard .
Now, I have load of dolls from car boot sales.
I love 'em all !

[sars_notd_virus]

sounds like spoiled brats......i may say kids here in UK are more spoiled than the kids in philippines in such material ways...which i think not good

my hubby only give prezzie to our daughter if shes a good girl and she does well in school...kids are very lucky now they can have all the gadgets ,laptop,proper bike,scooter,new shoes every school term..i remember when i was young when i always do all the street games sticks and stones,chinese garter,piko(hop-step game)...i got united nation dolls and they are neatly kept inside the cupboards for display lolz...i only got one scary big doll which is named 'negra' and stays inside my bedroom,wonder why i cant sleep without her

[KeithD]

When I was a kid my parents used to give me bare wires plugged into the electric socket to play with

....... and strangely ... that's not far off the truth

[pennybarry]

After all ,,,being a mother and the responsibility on how to take care of her husband & family is one true essence of being a woman...get it??

You mean carry a life in her womb and give birth?

It's feminity no matter who she is. IHMO
There are more women who gave birth and that's all they knew. Desire?
See how many street children we have?
They are not determined to work for baby's future. Isn't it?
There are women who adopt babies to play role as mother and they are more better that the biological mother.

If you can make yourself a wonderful, loving, and sincere mom and wife, then that is a plus!

[KeithD]

See how many street children we have?

As you are so caring & understanding, I've put in the adoption papers for ALL the street children on your behalf.... no need to thank me