OK...
So is this your current guy you're talking about ... the one about whom you have written "in a relationship" in your profile?
Has the dude ever been to the Phils?
hmmm
i am kinda lost for words here.
OK...
So is this your current guy you're talking about ... the one about whom you have written "in a relationship" in your profile?
Has the dude ever been to the Phils?
hmmm
i am kinda lost for words here.
yes, he is. he's never been to the philippines. we met in amsterdam after my choir tour. he's kinda considering teaching english here or indonesia next year.Originally Posted by James Hubbard
he's got this i'll-give-you-ultimatum-so-you-will-get-off-your-lazy-butt way of getting results :(
but coming up with my ticket fare in only a month is impossible, especially me being solo. no help from anywhere. and that is only for a month's visit to london! im not rich, heck -- im actually broke! i feel like giving up alreadywhen we fight, we make up within the day. its just sometimes, i dont know IF we're ever going to fix things. im always scared. i got this email last night from a friend:
"Shouldn't he be trying to prove himself worthy of you Ghee, isn't he, after all, the man? I never require you to be worthy of my friendship, Ghee! That is my point. I guess we're all different, my view is reversed. I would kiss the ground you walk on Ghee, but that is me. Every thinking head is different. I'm sorry your desire and goal for a serious, meaningful, and lasting relationship has to endure such childish and immature acts Ghee. :( Note that I am always here to be your source of encouragement, in other words, I'm a good shoulder...
With that kind of an attitude, ask yourself, is he worth it?! Ghee, I'm serious now, I'm not trying to discourage you, or break you up, but damn, do you love this guy that much? Is he worth selling all you have?! Is he about your happiness, or his?! I'm inclined to believe it's about his!! Why won't he foot the bill to get you over there if he loves you that much?! Why the hell is he placing ultimatums on you?! And don't contact him until it's done?!?! Wtf?!?! What are you going to do Ghee, what are you going to do?! $1200.00 is a lot of money in this messed up economy. Sounds like it's more "you" than "we" or "him" though! :( anyways, I wish you all success and happiness, Because I'm your friend, and I don't want to see you fail.
You are unique chubs, and if it works out for you, super duper, but if it doesn't, at least I know, and can give witness that you gave it your best shot, that you put your all into it. I respect you so much, I don't understand it, I guess love really is blind, but I do respect it. I'm almost jealous, I wish someone loved me like that, to give everything for me, I certainly wouldn't treat them like he's treating you, if anything, I would help to achieve the goal, I mean, doesn't he have things he can sell too?! sorry if I seem offensive, I just care about fair, I just want him fair with you, forgive me Ghee..Luv yah."
Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end.
Whatever is meant to be will always find its way.
In all the years I've run this site that is the last thing you'd do in a relationship, that only happens when it's finished.
As long as you've learnt from the mistakes and are a better person, fine.i WAS a bad girl. before
This is often quoted as a problem with a LDR, it's not, the vast majority of LDR's go smoothly and so they should. If you argue every day now, that is unlikely to change even when you're with the guy. So if you want a miserable existence then continue on this path. People get tampo in LDR's, yes, but most of the time it's over a misunderstanding.we fight everyday.
....and he ask me to go to him, on my own efforts. that'll show him that i am really serious and committed.He's the one that has to prove that to YOU, and to the EMBASSY as well if you've ever any hope of getting a fiancee/spouse visa. Asking you to go into debt in thr Philippines just for him is one hell of a selfish act and shows his lack of caring for you.
No they don't..... people that age in london share 50-50 in everything ....
Keep it, don't get rid of you're life for some waste of space, plenty of guys out there that will treat you right.my stuff are all for sale now.....
....and you have a good friend who talks sense andyou....
Keith - Administrator
Well said Boss
If you want your dreams to come true ...... first you have to wake up
he still insisting he's right. i hate this. i know im wrong in a lot of ways, being immature but is there anything i can hit my head right now to wake up?
As long as you've learnt from the mistakes and are a better person, fine.
This is often quoted as a problem with a LDR, it's not, the vast majority of LDR's go smoothly and so they should. If you argue every day now, that is unlikely to change even when you're with the guy. So if you want a miserable existence then continue on this path. People get tampo in LDR's, yes, but most of the time it's over a misunderstanding.
No they don't
Keep it, don't get rid of you're life for some waste of space, plenty of guys out there that will treat you right.
....and you have a good friend who talks sense and
i know i'll read, "i told you so" in the future but i cant get myself to let go for now. i have high hopes, i have faith. i hope if i start to pray now, i'll get my answer soon.
i appreciate all comments. never hold back even if you think it'll hurt. i want to know how you see it.
Whatever is meant to be will always find its way.
Does what I highlighted in red not tell you something Ghee??
Is this the first western guy you have had a relationship with? if so, is it the thought of losing this 'westerner' and the prospect of being here in the Uk what you are scared of losing more?
Ok, that sounds a bit hard on you, but remember, there are lots of NICE guys here who will visit you in Phils, and give you respect and love. This guys is fooling you, don't you see that?
We want to help you so you dont make more mistakes, but first you have to help yourself. Be strong ok.
If you want your dreams to come true ...... first you have to wake up
Ghee take steve r advice & dump this loser its the only way you are going to move on to better things in your lifeDoes what I highlighted in red not tell you something Ghee??
Is this the first western guy you have had a relationship with? if so, is it the thought of losing this 'westerner' and the prospect of being here in the Uk what you are scared of losing more?
Ok, that sounds a bit hard on you, but remember, there are lots of NICE guys here who will visit you in Phils, and give you respect and love. This guys is fooling you, don't you see that?
We want to help you so you dont make more mistakes, but first you have to help yourself. Be strong ok.
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