Annulment Advice

[LuisaKC]

Hello.
1st 300K is too much. 200k is a normal fee now for annulment 6-8 months. LEGAL . I talked to alot of annulment lawyers. 200K is too much already actually.
cause 100k is lawyers fee...
Psyc doc will cost . 30-50k
then the rest (filing docs , appearances etc ) are cheap.
( when u go to your psych doctor pls dont bring flashy jewelries,cars or anything else...look poor or he will ask for more)

2nd the husband SHOULDNT AGREE AT ALL TO ANY OF THIS. best he doesnt know you would file for annulment. HE having his own family now would be good for her case.
or SOG would say there was a connivance and can still reject the judges ruling.

3rd I am in the same position ( Kids in catholic school and all) The school doesnt have to know. And if they are already enrolled anyway there'll be no problem. Butstill, best is Talk to the school admin AFTER THE annulment ruling .

4th I feel for her not wanting to leave her kids and go to you... BUT her position is not impossible... specially if she has someone like you willing to pay for everything.

Good luck!

[BrummieBoy]

Thanks for all your comments.

Ghee, if you are serious about mentioning the "option 2" to your lawyer let me know what they say as it would be interesting to get an second opinion.

[Terpe]

Brummieboy
I think there are many more people on this forum who are much more knowledgeable
about annulment than me.
However in my opinion you would be ill-advised to pursue option 2 (presumptive death)
Just how much evidence is needed is a questionable issue anyway.
The fact is that if you followed this option you must accept that the reappearance of the absent/missing/presumed dead spouse would immediately cause an automatic termination of the second marriage.

It seems possible to me that this 'hold' on your new marriage and future life together would doubtless be of almost daily concern.
The potential for 'blackmail' by the presumed dead spouse exists. I'm not saying it will happen in your case, but it exits as a potential threat.
Please think very very carefully.

[Ladybug_sim]

Brummieboy
I think there are many more people on this forum who are much more knowledgeable
about annulment than me.
However in my opinion you would be ill-advised to pursue option 2 (presumptive death)
Just how much evidence is needed is a questionable issue anyway.
The fact is that if you followed this option you must accept that the reappearance of the absent/missing/presumed dead spouse would immediately cause an automatic termination of the second marriage.

It seems possible to me that this 'hold' on your new marriage and future life together would doubtless be of almost daily concern.
The potential for 'blackmail' by the presumed dead spouse exists. I'm not saying it will happen in your case, but it exits as a potential threat.
Please think very very carefully.

Just add some of my opinion here and terpe is a bit right and like the opinion of Mr. Fred. It is better to look for a clean papers that can make you peace of mind when you live together.

For Alou, i can say that she need more evidence if her husband have another family like for example the birth certificate of their child if there's any from her husband's mistress. It is one that my friend hand for filing the case against her husband too if she can get it from the NSO much better. Annulment is a long process and things it is not really easy just try to be calm while you proceed on it and get some more information too. We have one client filing her annulment as i am working to the law office, first she paid it 20,000 for the papers to file the court then it is another amount when the case going on depend if they show to the court. We cant really figure out the amount on it coz it is depend on how the lawyer work. If you figure out how much is it means that they earn much then. Just do it for step by step so it less for the expense... good luck to both on you and the annulment case.. hope all be sorted soon

[ghee101]

they are usually "under the table" so it's about 4 months to say --a year. depending on the area.

but the normal procedure is a minimum of 2 years.

[BrummieBoy]

Thank you all once again for your help and advice

I must admit I thought this option 2 was too good to be true or else everyone would be doing it!

I will stress to Alou that she must speak to at least two other lawyers on a proper annulment before she goes ahead, and try and steer her away from option 2.

I am afraid that although your advice on shaming/pushing her husband into agreement is very good advice, Alou will not contemplate it because she is not that sort of person and does not want any potential problems between Alou and her husband affecting her children. It is frustrating because the husband is still controlling Alou's life even though he left her for another woman but Alou will not "rock the boat".

I will pass on all of your comments to her and see what happens next....

[ghee101]

and it is not a one time payment. to be sure you're getting the real deal, your lawyer will give you a breakdown of each step.

for every step, you can come with the lawyer or check every result and pay only after every step. the first is usually the psychological testing. my ex took that testing. yes, there should be proof that there's no collusion.

money talks. if you completed what's needed and got the money to finish everything, it's only matter of short time to get the annulment. the details on this webpage is quite realistic for all pinays getting annulment:

http://www.asawa.org/soannulment.htm

[grahamw48]

Also be aware that the British Embassy are not totally stupid and will check all documents relating to annulments with a fine tooth comb.

They will deport anyone found to have received a visa using fraudulent documents (eg death cert' of husband who is found to be still alive).

It's all this 'under the counter' stuff that makes it so hard for more straightforward applications.