Tell Alou that if he doesn't agree she'll tell the school that he's living with another woman, speak to his local priest, and his parents priest, the other womans kids school, and any number of ways to embarrass him.
this is soooooooooo true. don't let him hold your future while he's having a party with his.
Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end.