Thank you both for your replies.
Laurel - thanks for your help and support and I hope you and your gf get your papers from the NSO sooner rather than later
Boss - I will suggest this to Alou, but she is really protective about her children and if she thinks doing what you suggest will affect her childrens schooling then she probably will just keep quiet and let her husband carry on getting away with things.
But once again, thanks both and I will tell Alou both of your answers!
