Annulment Advice

[fred]

you cannot contest the ex about adultery because he can also find a lawyer to defend him and file a case against both of you,,,you never know if he also got a plan so its better to be safe than sorry.

You are only guessing that the husband has an idea about the new relationship..
From what we have been told this is not the case..Anything else would be pure pure conjecture on your part..
No proof= no case!
From what I have read,Adultery is only applicable to a woman having the affair and is easier to prove for the offended party..
The case against him would be Concubinage(not adultery) which is for some reason harder to establish and why I advised Dave to hire a good private detective (And I mean GOOD) and seek advice from the legal site I linked him to just for starters. This is pivotal to the whole plan.
Many guys prefer to fall in love with women with no baggage and hassle attached and although I can understand why,I for one can respect Dave`s dedication to this lady even more as you cannot always choose who you fall in love with or when..Thats simply the nature of things and probably true love.
This will be a really tough and long journey for Dave and I for one respect his decision for even contemplating it..
Fair play to him and I wish him well!!
Keep us informed Dave.

[sars_notd_virus]

You are only guessing that the husband has an idea about the new relationship..

NO, I'm not guessing fred...I just understand what i am reading.

Do you think that the father of the children will simply accept the fact that his children be going abroad and Alou will be the sole provider and nobody helps her or supports her like a new partner??when at the Philippines the father is the one supporting his children with their education??

When Alou mentioned to her husband that she wanted an annulment, Alou also mentioned that she may consider taking her children abroad in the future.

I know it was a mistake Alou mentioning the possibility of moving abroad in the future, but she did that without consulting me and she probably just wanted to get everything out in the open so she knew where she stood. Needless to say her husbands parents were not happy about the possibility of losing their grandchildren and her husband also said in the meeting with Alou that he would not allow his children to move abroad

[BrummieBoy]

You are only guessing that the husband has an idea about the new relationship..
From what we have been told this is not the case..Anything else would be pure pure conjecture on your part..
No proof= no case!
From what I have read,Adultery is only applicable to a woman having the affair and is easier to prove for the offended party..
The case against him would be Concubinage(not adultery) which is for some reason harder to establish and why I advised Dave to hire a good private detective (And I mean GOOD) and seek advice from the legal site I linked him to just for starters. This is pivotal to the whole plan.
Many guys prefer to fall in love with women with no baggage and hassle attached and although I can understand why,I for one can respect Dave`s dedication to this lady even more as you cannot always choose who you fall in love with or when..Thats simply the nature of things and probably true love.
This will be a really tough and long journey for Dave and I for one respect his decision for even contemplating it..
Fair play to him and I wish him well!!
Keep us informed Dave.

Hi Fred, thanks again for you support. When I first started to get to know Alou she was very open and told me about the fact she was still married and has two children. When I asked her if we would have any problems getting an annulment and her husbands permission for the kids to come to the UK, she said that there would not be any problems. Apparently they had already discussed an annulment but both of them had decided, due to the cost involved, not to get one until it was needed. She also reasoned that because he only saw his children a couple of times a year that he would not object to them moving abroad.

Maybe both me and Alou were naive in believing that it would be that easy, and now we have found out the hard way that he is not willing to give us what we want.

LIke you say Fred, you do not choose who you fall in love with and I will do whatever it takes to bring Alou and her children to the UK, I just want to make sure I am doing the right things to ensure that happens.

We have even discussed that if all else fails I will go and live with her, although we both know that this is a last, last option as I would find it very hard to find employment in the Philippines.

All I can say is thanks again all for your support and suggestions and like Fred says, wish us luck!