Annulment Advice

[sars_notd_virus]

Thanks again Sars

I knew from previous posts on annulment that Pyschological Incapacity would be Alou's only option for an annulment. I think I know of a very good reason she could use, but it may be very hard for Alou as it is a sensative subject.

Alou's father died three months before her wedding while helping some contractors who were fixing up the house Alou and her husband to be would be living in. Alou has told me that on most of her wedding pictures she was crying because she was still grieving for her father. But this is very personal to Alou and I do not want to bring back bad memories by suggesting that this could be a good reason to prove she was not in the right state of mind to get married.

It is a hard subject to talk about incase she feels like I am using her fathers death to my advantage.

Do you think it is worth mentioning to Alou, or shall I wait and hope that either she thinks of it herself, or her lawyer/solicitor come up with a different plan?

Your welcome Dave
Just give Alou the moral,emotional.financial support she needs while the case is on going
and dont forget to update us here

[BrummieBoy]

I have just had an update from Alou after she had seen her lawyer yesterday.

She has been offered two options.

1). Normal annulment and custody of her children - she has been told that this will take 18 months and will cost her 275,000 pesos.
2). Declaring that her husband is dead and therefore becoming a widow - she has been told this will take 2 months and cost her 70,000 pesos.

Obviously she wants to take the far shorter and cheaper option and she says that her lawyer has told her that this is simple to do and Alou will not have any problems.

My burning question to you all is "if this is a faster and cheaper way, why do most people go for an annulment"?

In my mind I would have thought that the Fili officials must need some sort of official proof that her husband is dead, surely they would not just take Alou's and her lawyers word for it would they?

I have also asked what if we get married and we move to the UK, what would happen if her husband complained afterwards, I assume the marriage would be null and void.

I have posed these questions to her but she keeps replying that her lawyer says it will be ok.

I do not think her lawyer is trying to con Alou as she is a friend of Alou's sister but there must be a catch here somewhere....

As usual your help and advice would be gratefully received

[baby38]

To be honest no2 dont sound right to me,he still alive he see the kids twice a year,mind you anything possible in the Phills,if someone can get a new identity at a cost,even if they married to someone else who knows.I have a American friend who lived in the Phills with his g/f for 3 years he been trying to get annulment has not even got to court yet he was quoted 100,000 peso its up to 300,000 so far, I bet if he knew about option 2 he would had gone for it,his g/f was considering changing to Muslim at cost of $5000 USA, properly another rip off , am certain option 2 dont sound right but who knows.

[sars_notd_virus]

I have just had an update from Alou after she had seen her lawyer yesterday.

She has been offered two options.

1). Normal annulment and custody of her children - she has been told that this will take 18 months and will cost her 275,000 pesos.
2). Declaring that her husband is dead and therefore becoming a widow - she has been told this will take 2 months and cost her 70,000 pesos.

Hello again Dave

Sorry but i find the quote above strange!
Usually in every transaction u get a quick result and pay a high amount. but the quotation that the lawyer gave is a complete opposite.
I hope Alou can get a 2nd opinion from another lawyer as she can get the normal annulment and custody of children with the same amount 275,000 in a quick span of time.


Goodluck again

[rani]

Hello again Dave

Sorry but i find the quote above strange!
Usually in every transaction u get a quick result and pay a high amount. but the quotation that the lawyer gave is a complete opposite.
I hope Alou can get a 2nd opinion from another lawyer as she can get the normal annulment and custody of children with the same amount 275,000 in a quick span of time.


Goodluck again

mine was 250k... waited one year for the result
i appeared only once in court
have i ripped off???? that was 5 years ago

[sars_notd_virus]

mine was 250k... waited one year for the result
i appeared only once in court
have i ripped off???? that was 5 years ago

dont worry about it now sis rani,..its done and u got a good result,i think thats all that matters now?

[sars_notd_virus]

Every legal case has its complications,thats why we hire solicitors/lawyer to do the job for us..it can be a gamble, so,.. u just have to make sure the odds are stacked in your favor.

[rani]

dont worry about it now sis rani,..its done and u got a good result,i think thats all that matters now?

indeed!!!!

[sars_notd_virus]

In my mind I would have thought that the Fili officials must need some sort of official proof that her husband is dead, surely they would not just take Alou's and her lawyers word for it would they?

I have also asked what if we get married and we move to the UK, what would happen if her husband complained afterwards, I assume the marriage would be null and void.

Assuming that the judge approved and annulment is done with the 2nd option,,...where can Alou get an authenticated death cert of husband?
*Alou will be needing this d.cert before she marry again
*Death cert shld also be attached in her annulment papers when she applied for spouse visa.