Honest comments and sensible advice from all the posts here. It's also happened to me, and I would add that it's VITAL to actually meet the girl as soon as possible Yes, there is the cost of the return trip to the Philippines but that's money far better spent than frittering it away before you meet . Find out as much as possible about the country and its culture before you go Most filipinos speak English, which may be reassuring, but there are cultural differences. Buying a travel guide and phrase book could be a very good investment.