Need help and advice please

[joebloggs]

sorry to hear this, but at least she is being honest to you in away

well if she is 19 and you did marry her, she couldn't come to the UK til she is 21

don't be offended but if she is pregnant, she has told you she has a b/f, how do you know the baby is yours ?

she told you she has a b/f and probably loves him, so that would explain why she wants to end it with you, he's there 24/7 and your 6,000 miles away

[Baliw99]

sorry to hear this, but at least she is being honest to you in away

well if she is 19 and you did marry her, she couldn't come to the UK til she is 21

don't be offended but if she is pregnant, she has told you she has a b/f, how do you know the baby is yours ?

she told you she has a b/f and probably loves him, so that would explain why she wants to end it with you, he's there 24/7 and your 6,000 miles away

Sorry, I did not say in my original post, the bf was from the UK and she ended it with him when she decided that she wanted to be with me, I did not find that out til about 1 month later though, as she said she wanted to know if I truly loved her. The reasoning behind that I have still not worked out.

I know that she had not seen him for a few months, so know that the baby is mine.

I also know that she cannot come here til she is 21, that was not a problem to me.

[Arthur Little]

I know that she had not seen him for a few months, so know that the baby is mine.

I also know that she cannot come here til she is 21, that was not a problem to me.

Hmm ... when someone's married to a person living on the other side of the world ... not being able to be properly together for 2 years is bound to put a considerable strain on both partners. Having said that, you are to be commended for facing up to your responsibilities as a parent if, indeed, the baby IS yours. I think you need to lay your cards on the table in order to reach some form of agreement between the two of you. For instance - since you aren't working at present - would you be prepared to "up-sticks" to go and live in the Philippines?

[Arthur Little]

- since you aren't working at present - would you be prepared to "up-sticks" to go and live in the Philippines?

Oops, ... I've just been re-reading your opening thread, and see that you do, in fact, have a job now, after all. Even so, how would you feel about re-locating?

[joebloggs]

Oops, ... I've just been re-reading your opening thread, and see that you do, in fact, have a job now, after all. Even so, how would you feel about re-locating?

he could try living in the phils with her, try for a student visa or visit visa, move to a european country and work there and apply for a family permit...