Assuming for the moment that you are the father, I would like to second Arthurs commendation to you for trying to stand up to your responsiblities. If only every guy had your moral fibre.Originally Posted by Baliw99
However I have to ask the question: HOW can you be so sure the child is yours (assuming for the moment that she is indeed pregnant). In the absence of a paternity test, I cannot imagine how you can you be so certain, particularly given the level of deceit, immaturity, emotional volatility and sheer duplicity that this girl has demonstrated up until now.
All I can think of that would lead you to be "sure" is that she was a virgin when you consummated your relationship, but that proves absolutely nothing. You dont know how many partners this girl has had since you left. You said at one point that you have no reason to doubt her. I beg to differ. You have EVERY reason to doubt her.
I am trying to choose my words carefully, because I dont want to cause offence. But she has already proven herself to be a liar, a cheat and completely irresponsible teenager. So I would echo the doubts of others as to whether this child really is yours.
I feel for you, and I am afraid that you are on the highway to hell with this girl. The only advice i can offer is that you should try to arrange for a paternity test to be performed to establish whether in fact (rather than just belief) you are the father. Then you will know where you stand in relation to your responsibilities toward this baby coming into the world.
As to the question of whether to salvage your relationship or not, I realise the words of a stranger wont dissuade you when your heart is set on trying to keep her. So I would just remind you of her words to you, in the hope that you will take heed:
"She said that she wanted to end it, that she did not want to be in a relationship and wanted to just have fun with her friends"
I think that says it all :(
Good luck. I am rooting for you.
