Need help and advice please

[Languish]

All I can say is that I doubt this baby is yours, her actions suggest it's someone else's child...

Sorry pal...

I was thinking the same - which "should" be a huge relief to you - even if it doesn't feel that way. If anything you should consider it a lucky escape. Horrible to say it but that's how it is coming across. If that is the case consider this a lesson learned :( but move on and find the right girl for you. Try not to dive straight in and i am sure it will work out for you.

If, however, the baby is yours this can complicate things dramatically. For me i would horrified to lose contact with my children. I love my three sons to death and would sooner die than be parted with them. I can tell you have a similar attitude already - so do what you feel is right. This girl is inexperienced in life - hopefully her parents will also steer her in the right way - into a life and future with you.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Stage 1 : You go over there and fall in love with her.

Stage 2 : She realises this and starts playing the game now you are vulnerable.

Stage 3 : You return home and she announces she’s pregnant even though you’re not 100% sure she really is. On top of this you don’t know if it’s yours if it happens to be true, but because you’re in love, you want it to be true. She knows this.

Stage 4 : She carries on playing the game. Turning the taps on and off when she feels like it screwing up your head even more and grinding you down emotionally making sure you don’t have the strength to get out of her grasp.

Stage 5 : The ‘baby’ is born.

Stage 6 : She asks for money to support a non existent child knowing that you will because you’re a decent guy, laughing all the way to the bank - and you’re probably not the first victim.

I’m not saying this is definitely happening but it does sound to me you’re getting mugged off although there’s a possibility she could be messed up emotionally not realising what she’s doing to you. She could be genuinely pregnant with your child, but either way you need to lose her for your own sake because she’s messing your head up anyway. Once you’re over her then you can find out about whether you do have a child and act accordingly. It’s the only way.