Faye_and_Brian,
I replied some of this in a previous post you made. Anyway here is what I advised:-
If you are here in UK on a Fiancee visa you MUST get married AND then apply for FLR BEFORE expiry of your visa. ALSO be aware that you MUST pass English Language test before you can apply for FLR.
My advice is not to count on or expect any automatic extension of your fiancee visa.
It is not always granted
Looking back through your posts it seems your Fiancee Visa was granted sometime last November?
If that is the case the your visa will expire within next few months. That is why the officer at the airport made the comment.
You really need to be very focussed now on your plan. Organise the wedding, prepare and organise your English Language Test and start preparing for your FLR application.
Time will go so fast. Please do not hesitate any longer. Start right now.