Ex of my hubby is looking after the house

[purple]

Jelousy and insecurity is part and parcel of marrying a much younger Filipina. Regardless of everything we do to prove our love and fidelity, our Significant Pinoy Partner will always assume that we will find another, cheat on her or whatever.
In my case, Rebella is convinced I will get back with my first wife, despite knowing everything that caused us to divorce. My daughter lives with my ex wife but i have her from Friday night to Sunday night. I can guarrantee that my darling will be on Yahoo at 10pm Sunday(5am Dipolog time) asking me a thousand questions about what my ex said, what i said to her, blah blah blah.
No matter how many times i talk to her, and patiently explain that she has nothing to fear, her paranoia doesnt leave her and to be honest, i dont think it will.
So let me say here what i tell her, if all i wanted was a bit of fun, we wouldnt be married. I cannot change my past, i'm not going to ignore my daughter and for her sake i try and be friends with my ex. If you dont trust your partner, then the only one who gets hurt is you, because you spend all your time in fear, needless fear of something that doesnt exist. But no marriage will survive when there isnt trust, so you have to leap off the cliff and dive in, and until your betrayed assume your not going to be. I think you'll find you never will be and your relationship will be much more enjoyable for both of you.

Here endeth the lesson hehehe

Hi Steve,
I respect you being in contact with your ex-wife because you have a child in the first place.
Me and my husband don't have that big age gap.. he is in his 30's and never been married.. I was talking about an ex-gf not an ex-wife because I can completely understand if there was a marriage involved.

I was asking for an opinion that would direct me to a logical reasoning from men members here.

Insecurity doesn't play here with what I posted but more of sharing I think with cultural, male-female differences when it comes to handling relationship.

I understand that a relationship is an important factor in our lives and keeping them balance with family and friends is vital to our existence because these people have helped mold us into a better person or people we are now.

[gWaPito]

This thread is getting plenty of mileage ! Purple, i agree with you that your husband will be rather miffed off with you doing your dirty washing in public, i know I wld. Having said that, you have a good reason to. You need the addressed before you arrive. Dont worry about spoiling Christmas There will be others. I cant see the point walking round with painted smiles for the sake of it. You should not be put in a position to have to meet her Really that is all bullshit. Just dont take any of it ok. Be strong. Its not a past wife of someone who's a mother of his kids so no reasons found.

[purple]

This thread is getting plenty of mileage ! Purple, i agree with you that your husband will be rather miffed off with you doing your dirty washing in public, i know I wld. Having said that, you have a good reason to. You need the addressed before you arrive. Dont worry about spoiling Christmas There will be others. I cant see the point walking round with painted smiles for the sake of it. You should not be put in a position to have to meet her Really that is all bullshit. Just dont take any of it ok. Be strong. Its not a past wife of someone who's a mother of his kids so no reasons found.

Point taken gwapito.

[SteveL]

Hi Steve,
I respect you being in contact with your ex-wife because you have a child in the first place.
Me and my husband don't have that big age gap.. he is in his 30's and never been married.. I was talking about an ex-gf not an ex-wife because I can completely understand if there was a marriage involved.

I was asking for an opinion that would direct me to a logical reasoning from men members here.

Insecurity doesn't play here with what I posted but more of sharing I think with cultural, male-female differences when it comes to handling relationship.

I understand that a relationship is an important factor in our lives and keeping them balance with family and friends is vital to our existence because these people have helped mold us into a better person or people we are now.

I think it all comes down to trust. If you trusted your husband 100% then him remaining friends with an ex partner wouldn't be an issue, neither would him turning to his ex partner but still friend for assistance. Ask yourself a question,has your husband ever done anything to betray you? Assuming he hasn't , then i stand by my initial comments, you need to find it in your heart to trust him and not be jelous. He's married you, and he's spending a lot of money on a flight to be with you for christmas. Dont let this ruin your first christmas together as a married couple, there maybe other christmas's but the memory of this first ruined one will haunt you.