Quote Originally Posted by purple View Post
Hi Steve,
I respect you being in contact with your ex-wife because you have a child in the first place.
Me and my husband don't have that big age gap.. he is in his 30's and never been married.. I was talking about an ex-gf not an ex-wife because I can completely understand if there was a marriage involved.

I was asking for an opinion that would direct me to a logical reasoning from men members here.

Insecurity doesn't play here with what I posted but more of sharing I think with cultural, male-female differences when it comes to handling relationship.

I understand that a relationship is an important factor in our lives and keeping them balance with family and friends is vital to our existence because these people have helped mold us into a better person or people we are now.
I think it all comes down to trust. If you trusted your husband 100% then him remaining friends with an ex partner wouldn't be an issue, neither would him turning to his ex partner but still friend for assistance. Ask yourself a question,has your husband ever done anything to betray you? Assuming he hasn't , then i stand by my initial comments, you need to find it in your heart to trust him and not be jelous. He's married you, and he's spending a lot of money on a flight to be with you for christmas. Dont let this ruin your first christmas together as a married couple, there maybe other christmas's but the memory of this first ruined one will haunt you.