Hi All,
Hubby have read this thread and I was right that he felt upset for not talking it to him.
So we've talked about it and got our frustrations out. And he understood me (lucky me) so we're both over about ex thing and have moved on now. His dad is coming over to his place. He did explain to me that the she would only be popping in to get posts but now it is his dad instead after telling him it upsets me.
Its good to know that respect and being sensitive is there. I guess what I wanted to know if its normal for westerners to keep their ex-s, and I'm thankful to everyone who have shared their opinion as it put me at ease and able to weigh things reasonably.