go to this website http://vfs-ph-uk.com or you can use the search button.
there are plenty of threads here that will answer your question. keywords like spouse visa.
on that website I mentioned read it through, everything that you asked will have an official answered from vfs since it is the official agency that UK border agency is working with.
there must be new immigration laws by now so you better check the website.
I applied last 09 nov. 2010 but will still take the life in the uk test when I apply for ILR in the UK.
congratulations on your first baby and wedding.
